school say my son has to be in after his accident

He broke his wrist and gave himself a fright, it was a few days ago so now he needs to crack on.

If he’s self-conscious about going to school with no teeth it will be a good lesson in the perils of not wearing a helmet.

You and his dad are dropping the ball here. You need to actively parent and stop being so passive. Theres a reason he doesnt want to go to school. If youre stressed at home and cant manage your other children why would your older one want to discuss his issues with you? - his dad needs to step in and do something but let me guess hes a "typical man" and doesnt get emotions, safety and backseat parents.

if you the parent have deemed him still in need of being home, then school need to stfu and mind their own business.

if you think he's well enough to be there, then sorry, you need to sort it out and get him there.

It's ridiculous to expect him to go in while he's still in pain and has a broken wrist . Try and get a sick note from the gp for another week at least. school is out of order to be harassing you .

If his wrist is still hurting can he get stronger painkillers from the doctors. I had to get some on prescription because the school wouldn’t give any medicine not on prescription including neurophen, so he couldn’t go in because it would wear off during the day.

He needs to go to school. A fractured wrist is not much. His teeth will be sorted out.

His accident is part of being young and stupid.

Poor boy. I fell off a bench my first day in year 8 and hit my chin on the floor. Huge black bruise on my chin and it looked like I had a beard in my school photo.

I wouldn’t want to go into work with no front teeth and high school is even worse - I don’t blame him frankly.

as someone who fell and bashed their face but kept all their teeth and didn't break anything, I was in a lot of pain from just the bruising and some fairly superficial cuts. I didn't go in the office for a week (worked from home because I can) because just carrying a backpack hurt, if I couldn't get a seat on the bus I felt too fragile to stand in case someone knocked me and my hands hurt to hold onto the rail. I was sleeping well because I was in pain just turning over and it also really knocks your confidence. He has my sympathies (but not for not wearing his helmet!)

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I think there might be a lot of people who would want to stay in. Not just for the fracture and the bruising- he's missing his front teeth!

I can tell you (ask me how I know) that missing front teeth cause a horrible lisp and it isn't something you can easily correct.

@healingqueen I realize you had no say in it, but it's unfortunate they removed his teeth, as most broken ones can be repaired. He will probably need implants or a partial plate now. Can you ask his dentist to fit him with a retainer or something that will cover and protect the gap until his teeth are replaced?

I feel for your ds, I really do. 🩵

What if he just keeps refusing? How long will you allow him to be off?

Poor kid. If he’s lost his teeth he’s going to probably be in a lot of pain while the bruising comes out. What do your family normally do for a dentist? Do you go as a family?

How involved is his dad?

Is he just staying in bed? Are there any chores he can do? He can look at Oak Academy for school work

Go to the doctors for a sicknote. Absolutely ridiculous of the school insisting he goes in under the circumstances.

I can understand him not wanting to go back if his teeth are all messed up tbh.

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It sounds to me as though he is not well.

You could ask the school to send work home. If they won't then I think you should just let him take time to recover and ignore them.

My son got ill in secondary school the school were absolutely awful to us because we were messing with their attendance record. I was left with no respect for them whatsoever because they didn't seem to care about child welfare at all.

FWIW I broke a wrist once and was signed off for a fortnight.

My friend lost all her front teeth like that and she was given a line of plastic false teeth to slot in. It didn't take long to organse it. she used to delight in removing them for school hockey practise so she could scare the opposing team by smiling at them. She was an extremely good nurse in later life.

A whole week just for that?

I spontaneously combusted and died once, and I was back at work the same day.

It's no wonder the world is in the state it's in if people expect time off work/school to rest and recover after traumatic injuries.

He should not be in school until there is a proper plan in place. He could need help with his writing and he needs to avoid the rush between lessons. I am not saying that he should stay off until his teeth are sorted as that could take a while. It is that he could still be in a lot of pain. I wasn't well enough to go to work the week after i had a bad accident. I didn't knock any teeth out but the pain was awful.

I am disgusted by this. Are schools really this bad? My DS is only in Reception but I find this awful.

Can you say he has D&V then that'll give him some time off, right? Shocking behaviour from the school.

Big hugs to you and your DS. Let's hope he realises he's not too cool for a bloody helmet now!! These boys...

'They' aren't obliged to 'send' him work. The staff are standing in the room actively teaching material, which is where he needs to be to learn.

The morning being chaos is nonsense as well. This needs discussing and putting right with him before he just ignores you and does as he pleases again.

School are the only ones insisting on what's right Parents are supposed to be adults who act in their children's best interests too, not working against them and calling their basic expectations unreasonable.

He should be going in I was injured worse than that. I was back at school a week later on crutches. Had to go up and down flights of stairs on crutches. The only reason I stayed off for a week is because the first week they only put a half splint on because of swelling. So was a risk my injured leg would get knocked.

Blimey. I would definitely keep him off. Did he have a concussion too?

It's like the four yorkshiremen on speed around here.

Your poor boy.

I expect he's in pain and actually very frightened by what happened. An impact on his face so hard that teeth get knocked out is something that would take most people time to recover from.

I expect he's worried about being knocked at school and potential bullying.

To take the pressure off can you see if your GP came do some kind of sick note for a week off. His face and mouth must be very sore as well as his wrist. He is almost certainly experiencing trauma from this and worried about what his teeth and face will look like in the future.

I'd also ask the school for a meeting to arrange what needs to be done by them to make sure he isn't bumped in the corridor and to ensure no one attempts to humiliate him about this.

Most people would need something time to recover from a significant and painful accident. These Secondary Schools have absolutely lost the plot regarding their quest for higher attendance and are ignoring the mental and physical health of children to do this.