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To ask DH not to strain my teabag with his bare hands?

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:26

DH has been making me cups of tea for about 10 years. Funnily enough I’ve never stopped to watch him make it because.. well then I might aswell make it myself. This man make me about 2 cups of tea a day.

Hes making my evening tea today, and I catch him squeezing the teabag out, into my tea.. with his bare hands. Confused I ask “did you just use your bare hands to squeeze my teabag out?”

“well yeah?”

WHAT. What kind of psychopath have I been living with? He said that’s how he’s always done it. I’ve asked him to never do that again because.. ew! It’s somehow worse than someone touching my food with their bare hands 🤣

please tell me I’m not being unreasonable😩

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:42

SayWibble · 24/02/2026 22:41

Does he open beer bottles with his teeth too?

he might aswell 🤣 but no fortunately not!

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NotAnotherScarf · 24/02/2026 22:42

I'm a straight man but how macho. Squeezing a hot bag with his bare hands kinda sounds like a Julian Clarey line

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:42

This is utter madness. Touching a wet teabag into the drink should be illegal.

do you guys juice oranges with your fists too?! Animalistic behaviour 😆😆😆

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GreyCarpet · 24/02/2026 22:41

I do that too.

I use a spoon for guests but otherwise, its fingers.

SayWibble · 24/02/2026 22:41

Does he open beer bottles with his teeth too?

MyThreeWords · 24/02/2026 22:41

I think the near-boiling water will have sterilised his fingers. He could probably do a quick bit of open heart surgery right after he's made your tea.

Morepositivemum · 24/02/2026 22:39

I do the same as WrigglyDonCat
It’s learned behaviour from dh! I’d only do it for my own though and never in company, spoon for everyone else’s!!!

WrigglyDonCat · 24/02/2026 22:37

It's how I do it. Give it 5 mins, Grab the edge of the bag, dunk it up and down a couple of times and gently squeeze from the edge with thumb and forefinger. Into compost caddy.

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:37

Sanch1 · 24/02/2026 22:28

YABU. I’d be more concerned he’d burn his hand!

He said he doesn’t do it with the spoon on the side of the mug because it doesn’t get all of the tea out, he likes to really squeeze it out 😩😭

I’ve told him everytime I get him a glass of water I’m going to let the tap run off my hand as it enters his glass.

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Sanch1 · 24/02/2026 22:28

YABU. I’d be more concerned he’d burn his hand!

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