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To ask DH not to strain my teabag with his bare hands?

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:26

DH has been making me cups of tea for about 10 years. Funnily enough I’ve never stopped to watch him make it because.. well then I might aswell make it myself. This man make me about 2 cups of tea a day.

Hes making my evening tea today, and I catch him squeezing the teabag out, into my tea.. with his bare hands. Confused I ask “did you just use your bare hands to squeeze my teabag out?”

“well yeah?”

WHAT. What kind of psychopath have I been living with? He said that’s how he’s always done it. I’ve asked him to never do that again because.. ew! It’s somehow worse than someone touching my food with their bare hands 🤣

please tell me I’m not being unreasonable😩

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Cheddars · 24/02/2026 23:19

You should make him a sandwich and butter the bread with your fingers. See how he likes it!

Sahara123 · 24/02/2026 23:16

I can’t seem to get enough of a squeeze with the spoon against the edge of the mug, we like strong tea so yes, I do also use my fingers to get the last industrial strength drops !

Beamur · 24/02/2026 23:15

This is a non issue. You haven't been made unwell or thought that it tasted odd.

JudgeJ · 24/02/2026 23:12

If you're only using tea bags it can hardly hurt the taste, can it? Use proper tea with a tea strainer as you pour, or a mesh thing that hangs on the rim of the cup or a tea pot with a built in strainer! Problem solved but make sure he dons disposable gloves to get your biscuit out of wherever they're kept.

grizzlyoldbear · 24/02/2026 23:09

That's how I make tea. There is no point wasting a clean spoon on the process :)

Nannyfannybanny · 24/02/2026 23:06

He doesn't touch you with his bare hands does he! Do you make him wear disposable gloves PPE?

NewZebra · 24/02/2026 23:03

That is bloody rank 🤢

fashionqueen0123 · 24/02/2026 23:02

WrigglyDonCat · 24/02/2026 22:47

Well it's 'cos I like it well stewed, so have wandered off with the mug so can't be bothered going for a spoon.

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Take a spoon and saucer/plate !

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 24/02/2026 23:02

I sometimes do it for my own tea. Especially if there’s not a teaspoon to hand (often happens at work).

I wouldn’t do it for someone else’s.

MasterBeth · 24/02/2026 23:00

Euphemism alert!!

MyThreeWords · 24/02/2026 22:53

TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:42

This is utter madness. Touching a wet teabag into the drink should be illegal.

do you guys juice oranges with your fists too?! Animalistic behaviour 😆😆😆

I'm starting to picture a romantic scene a bit like the arrival of the alpha Milk Tray man in the old adverts.
Instead of abseiling in with a box of chocolates, he squeezes hot teabags in his bare hands,punches oranges into liquid form, and cracks walnuts in his teeth, to make breakfast for his woman.

stickydough · 24/02/2026 22:52

Denim4ever · 24/02/2026 22:46

I don't squeeze at all. Dunk, lift, bin

I am in this camp too, something about the tannins, I think it’s much tastier when you don’t squeeze. Let it steep a bit tho, milk, lift, bin.

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:48

I need someone to comment LTB or I’ll eat my hat!

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WrigglyDonCat · 24/02/2026 22:47

fashionqueen0123 · 24/02/2026 22:43

I saw someone doing this for the first time a few weeks ago I couldn’t believe it!
Just use a spoon!!

Well it's 'cos I like it well stewed, so have wandered off with the mug so can't be bothered going for a spoon.

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:47

Denim4ever · 24/02/2026 22:46

I don't squeeze at all. Dunk, lift, bin

This is somehow more concerning. You’re throwing away a teabag filled with the most refined and exquisite tea..

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Namechange6578 · 24/02/2026 22:47

TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:45

There’s something about a wet food item being touched that’s so much worse than regular food? Like you wouldn’t eat a sarnie where they’ve spread the peanut butter with their fingers surely?! 😆

No I do know what you mean, if I saw that it'd blow my mind 😆 buttering my toast with his fingers 😬

Denim4ever · 24/02/2026 22:46

I don't squeeze at all. Dunk, lift, bin

WrigglyDonCat · 24/02/2026 22:46

TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:42

This is utter madness. Touching a wet teabag into the drink should be illegal.

do you guys juice oranges with your fists too?! Animalistic behaviour 😆😆😆

Umm, yeah, sometimes squeeze oranges or lemons in my hands for juice. Only for.cooking though. Probably wouldn't just to drink but I have never used fresh oranges for drinking.

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TeaSqueezingpos · 24/02/2026 22:45

There’s something about a wet food item being touched that’s so much worse than regular food? Like you wouldn’t eat a sarnie where they’ve spread the peanut butter with their fingers surely?! 😆

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Namechange6578 · 24/02/2026 22:44

My DH does it too 😂 I just wonder how it doesn't burn his fingers!!
He cooks dinner often and I don't say no if he offers to make me a sandwich for lunch, so I don't see the difference?

fashionqueen0123 · 24/02/2026 22:43

I saw someone doing this for the first time a few weeks ago I couldn’t believe it!
Just use a spoon!!

Ginflinger · 24/02/2026 22:43

Had exactly the same realisation recently. Together for 20 years. 😱

Pollymollydolly · 24/02/2026 22:43

Has he ever made you a sandwich?! He’ll have touched the bread and filling with his bare hands…
it’s an odd way to make tea imo but no, it wouldn’t bother me if my Dh did this, he’s clean and would have clean hands

PfizerFan · 24/02/2026 22:43

That's how i do it, and that's how i make my husband's tea...

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