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Man in ladies swimming pool showers with his phone out.

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CreativeNative · 24/02/2026 21:25

Today, after my daughters had their swimming lesson, I went to the ladies showers. There used to be separate changing rooms for men and women, but both changing areas are now unisex. There is one shower block at the end of what used to be the ladies changing rooms. These are still for ladies only. There is another shower block for men.

A man and his son, who I hadn’t seen at the pool before, ended up in the ladies showers. I have seen mothers helping their sons in these showers before, but I also think the man may have not realised that these are for women.

Anyway, the man was standing in the shower block, with his phone in his hand.

Now, there is a corridor that leads to the showers, but he was literally right in the shower area, maybe a foot from where the water was spraying. I realised because a mum friend of mine took her daughter out of the showers immediately, whilst her hair still had soap in it. She told me she alerted the swimming pool front desk staff.

I understand that this is likely completely innocent, but AIBU to not understand why a man, or anyone for that matter, would deem it appropriate to have their phone out whilst in close proximity to young children showering?

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CreativeNative · 24/02/2026 21:30

Coconutter24 · 24/02/2026 21:29

He could just be a dad waiting for his son to finish showering and whilst waiting scrolling through his phone to kill a bit of time

This is what I think. But it’s totally tone deaf at best, to be scrolling on a phone in a girls shower block. He was already giving me a weird vibe tonight, then this happened. I thought I was being judgemental so had a word with myself. Then the shower thing happened!

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CreativeNative · 24/02/2026 21:29

I’ve checked and the signs just say “no photography or filming in this area”.

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Coconutter24 · 24/02/2026 21:29

He could just be a dad waiting for his son to finish showering and whilst waiting scrolling through his phone to kill a bit of time

Eyesopenwideawake · 24/02/2026 21:28

Let's see...taking a call, making a call, reading or sending a message, checking his emails, watching the news, looking at the weather forecast, scrolling FB....

BlueMum16 · 24/02/2026 21:27

If these were Swim England learn to swim lessons then mobiles are banned in the changing and pool areas. There should be signs up that you can point to.

Speak to the venue.

Calendulaaria · 24/02/2026 21:27

No reasonable, decent man would have a phone out in these circumstances

WallaceinAnderland · 24/02/2026 21:27

Why do you think it's innocent. What innocent reason would a man have to have his phone out in the female showers?