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Ah you're a Catholic!

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Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 19:50

I moved to England to work last year. I'm Irish.

When I arrived at my workplace, one of my colleagues said "Ah you are Irish, this is a nice city, there is a Catholic church down the road that you can go to".

I think she was trying to be helpful but I thought it was quite bizarre. I'm not Catholic and I told her so.

Second time - I was out in the pub with a mixed group of people. Some of them I had never met before. One man said "ah you're Irish, you're a Catholic!" I told him Im not.

Third time- I was at another group. A woman said to me "you are Irish. Ah so you like such and such. And you are a Catholic". I told her I am not.

I found it strange as I have never really thought about religiom. Do some people here think that all Irish people are Catholics? My family were not religious at all and I was never brought up any religion

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Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 09:14

Yes I also want to clarify I’m a Roman Catholic of (very recent and on both sides) Irish descent, although I consider myself English.

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:12

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

dupe

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:11

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

I have to say I agree with this. As I’ve said I have Irish parents and spent a fair amount of time there- so I don’t say this as criticism but as sort of arms length observation.

Irish people have recently been infected with the same far right facism that has infected pretty much all of Europe. They’re not immune to it, and it’s growing.

irish people have always had a reputation for being incredibly welcoming, part of the reason it’s such a popular tourist destination. However, the reality was there was little immigration, particularly by refugees or asylum seekers. That began to happen when Ireland became richer, more easily accessed and had more opportunities.

it’s become clear that when they feel something is being taken, they can be as unkind and as unwelcoming as the British, French, Germans, swedes etc.

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:11

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

I have to say I agree with this. As I’ve said I have Irish parents and spent a fair amount of time there- so I don’t say this as criticism but as sort of arms length observation.

Irish people have recently been infected with the same far right facism that has infected pretty much all of Europe. They’re not immune to it, and it’s growing.

irish people have always had a reputation for being incredibly welcoming, part of the reason it’s such a popular tourist destination. However, the reality was there was little immigration, particularly by refugees or asylum seekers. That began to happen when Ireland became richer, more easily accessed and had more opportunities.

it’s become clear that when they feel something is being taken, they can be as unkind and as unwelcoming as the British, French, Germans, swedes etc.

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:11

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

I have to say I agree with this. As I’ve said I have Irish parents and spent a fair amount of time there- so I don’t say this as criticism but as sort of arms length observation.

Irish people have recently been infected with the same far right facism that has infected pretty much all of Europe. They’re not immune to it, and it’s growing.

irish people have always had a reputation for being incredibly welcoming, part of the reason it’s such a popular tourist destination. However, the reality was there was little immigration, particularly by refugees or asylum seekers. That began to happen when Ireland became richer, more easily accessed and had more opportunities.

it’s become clear that when they feel something is being taken, they can be as unkind and as unwelcoming as the British, French, Germans, swedes etc.

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:11

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

I have to say I agree with this. As I’ve said I have Irish parents and spent a fair amount of time there- so I don’t say this as criticism but as sort of arms length observation.

Irish people have recently been infected with the same far right facism that has infected pretty much all of Europe. They’re not immune to it, and it’s growing.

irish people have always had a reputation for being incredibly welcoming, part of the reason it’s such a popular tourist destination. However, the reality was there was little immigration, particularly by refugees or asylum seekers. That began to happen when Ireland became richer, more easily accessed and had more opportunities.

it’s become clear that when they feel something is being taken, they can be as unkind and as unwelcoming as the British, French, Germans, swedes etc.

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:11

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

I have to say I agree with this. As I’ve said I have Irish parents and spent a fair amount of time there- so I don’t say this as criticism but as sort of arms length observation.

Irish people have recently been infected with the same far right facism that has infected pretty much all of Europe. They’re not immune to it, and it’s growing.

irish people have always had a reputation for being incredibly welcoming, part of the reason it’s such a popular tourist destination. However, the reality was there was little immigration, particularly by refugees or asylum seekers. That began to happen when Ireland became richer, more easily accessed and had more opportunities.

it’s become clear that when they feel something is being taken, they can be as unkind and as unwelcoming as the British, French, Germans, swedes etc.

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:41

I also find these accusations of racism hilarious in the context that England is FAR more diverse than Ireland, and accepted far more immigration than Ireland before the far right lunatic marches started. Ireland already has them, despite minuscule levels of immigration and a population 10 times smaller than ours. Draw your own conclusions 🤷‍♀️

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:13

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 00:30

I have to say I have seen a huge amount of racism in England.

Not all English, but there is a lot.

I try to think the best of people but time and time again, these ‘I just want to comment on something about English people as an Irish person…’ is just an excuse to start yet another thread having a pop at England, how racist/colonialist/imperialist we all are, how Ireland/Scotland/Wales are just better countries full of better and more enlightened people, blah blah…

Yet you all live here.

🤷‍♀️

(disclaimer - does not apply to all or even most Irish/Scottish/Welsh, but there is a hardcore whose entire identity seems to rely on ‘being better than the English’)

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 08:02

Catlady007007 · 25/02/2026 01:50

I don't really understand why you appear to be taking it as an insult. That is how it reads to me, though perhaps that is unintentional on your part.

I think that many English people still have the belief that England is somehow superior to other countries - Ireland included. Probably due to being a colonial empire in the past. And with so much multiculturism, and the disaster of Brexit, there is a loss of identity so people live in the past. Thats my tuppence worth anyway.

🙄

EatingTillIDie · 25/02/2026 07:57

It is ignorance. In my twenties I moved to London (am from a typical English rural county town) I offended a person from NI by referring to another person from Ireland as 'proper irish'. It was a light hearted comment meaning no ill will at all. I was shocked by the reaction and didn't understand it.

Later I learned about the history and started to read more about politics. It is amazing to me now to remember that I knew absolutely nothing about any of it. How could that be? I wasn't taught, I wasn't brought up to be curious to find out stuff for myself. It is embarrassing but now I find this very useful to remember, when I wonder how people can hold certain opinions or vote in certain ways, what it is like to grow up in some places in the UK.

Hopefully education has improved a lot but I think it depends on the parents to actually have conversations with their kids and if those parents (I am 40) are ignorant like I was then those kids will perpetuate these attitudes. I think this is why we are so gullible to the uk press and whatever bull they want us to believe. There is a delightful sort of irony in English attitudes that claim a superior smug know-it-all better than everyone else attitude when the opposite is true. This thwn leads to an inclination to bully and point out difference in people.

I will be flamed so hard for this post but sick of watching you be told your experience is impossible

RainbowBagels · 25/02/2026 07:39

Coffeeandbooks88 · 25/02/2026 07:35

If we are talking Armenia regarding churches then they aren't Asian.

St Thomas was one of the apostles. He set up the church in India. There have been Christian communities in India and Asia for as long as Europe. The Roman Catholic church tried to take them over but the syro Malabar Catholic churches now often coexist with the Roman Catholic churches. I'm also ethnicity Indian with Catholic heritage. I don't live in London and the most ethnically diverse place I go is church! @Cyclebabble that's is disgusting that someone told you to leave a church!

Coffeeandbooks88 · 25/02/2026 07:35

Cyclebabble · 25/02/2026 04:53

I am ethnically Indian. My family is Christian. People always assume I am a Hindu or Muslim. It is a bit of racial stereotyping, but I rarely find it annoying. I did have someone ask me to leave a Church once as this is “not a place for you”. I was keen to point out that there were Churches in Asia before there were Churches in Europe.

If we are talking Armenia regarding churches then they aren't Asian.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 25/02/2026 07:34

AnotherCuppaWillDo · 24/02/2026 23:23

Irish people generally consume British media growing up, whereas few British people have ever watched Irish media. I’m starting to wonder if you’re trolling now. Not very long ago Britain and Ireland were involved in a conflict. Attitudes in a lot of Britain still reflect the biases from that time, and they haven’t learnt much more (in my experience). In their experience Irish = Catholic and that’s what all the fuss regarding the troubles was about in their eyes. I’ve found they tar all Irish people with the one brush

To be fair Irish tar English people in the same way.

InterestedDad37 · 25/02/2026 07:30

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 21:40

Is 69 percent a vast majority? I dont think so. Thst is the current percentage of cstholics in Ireland

The UK currently is still a majority Christian country. However the English colleagues thst I work wiith, three of them are Muslim. I know because they are practicing Ramadan

2021 census shows that the UK is no longer a Christian majority country (only 46.2%)

Gettingbysomehow · 25/02/2026 07:24

Yes every single Irish person is a catholic and lives in a Father Ted like parish.

AgnesMcDoo · 25/02/2026 07:24

I grew up in Glasgow where it was always assumed I was a Catholic based on my surname.

im not.

EatMoreChocolate44 · 25/02/2026 07:20

In from Northern Ireland and the majority of people's identity growing up was either you are a Catholic or a Protestant. But then our schools are either Catholic schools or state (we used to view them as protestant schools). I would presume most southern Irish people come from a catholic background (though not necessarily practicing). Obviously as times move on that is changing and evolving but I don't think it's strange to assume but probably strange to mention it.

Bikergran · 25/02/2026 07:12

What odd people you go out with, OP. I have never heard or made such a remark about anybody, and that includes a time when I was working and socialising with a group including quite a few Irish people. England is such a secular country, it seems to be the norm not to have any kind of religious affiliation. Just did a mental review of our social circle and I can't think of anyone who goes to church, even at Christmas or Easter.

Cerezo · 25/02/2026 06:28

Fascinating that this has caused debate.

The people saying that to you are fucking weird, OP.

TheBlueKoala · 25/02/2026 06:16

I'm from a European country and I get some stereotyping comments as well albeit positive ones I guess (nothing to do with religion). I would just smile and say:
"No, Ellen, Not all..
french women are thin and don't wash
Italians know how to cook
Scandinavian women are blond and blue-eyed
Irish women are ginger
Asian people are muslims
Spanish women are hairy
British women are sleeping around on holidays (from another thread about stereotypes)"

They will probably then feel stupid for making assumptions ..

nevernotmaybe · 25/02/2026 06:09

Even today with the numbers substantially reduced, up to 70% of the population of Ireland are Catholic. And it was higher.

It's not a particularly crazy assumption. Although after the not unreasonable assumption you probably are even though you arent, it is maybe going a little further than I would have expected with the examples you mention.

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 05:35

Cyclebabble · 25/02/2026 04:53

I am ethnically Indian. My family is Christian. People always assume I am a Hindu or Muslim. It is a bit of racial stereotyping, but I rarely find it annoying. I did have someone ask me to leave a Church once as this is “not a place for you”. I was keen to point out that there were Churches in Asia before there were Churches in Europe.

Probability-wise, since Christians are 2% of India, Hindu or Muslim are more likely guesses- but people shouldn't be guessing, if they're curious they could ask...

MySpiritAnimalIsAPanda · 25/02/2026 05:11

ReturnOfTheToad · 24/02/2026 21:19

I had an English person explaining to me what a dishwasher was, I was in her home and she gave me a full on demonstration because she 'didn't suppose that we had them in Ireland'. This was around 2010 Grin

I don’t practice any religion and had that happen to me when I moved from the north of England to the south!! The same person said it must be nice to have in inside toilet now I was living in the south 🤷‍♀️

Cyclebabble · 25/02/2026 04:53

I am ethnically Indian. My family is Christian. People always assume I am a Hindu or Muslim. It is a bit of racial stereotyping, but I rarely find it annoying. I did have someone ask me to leave a Church once as this is “not a place for you”. I was keen to point out that there were Churches in Asia before there were Churches in Europe.