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Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 19:50

I moved to England to work last year. I'm Irish.

When I arrived at my workplace, one of my colleagues said "Ah you are Irish, this is a nice city, there is a Catholic church down the road that you can go to".

I think she was trying to be helpful but I thought it was quite bizarre. I'm not Catholic and I told her so.

Second time - I was out in the pub with a mixed group of people. Some of them I had never met before. One man said "ah you're Irish, you're a Catholic!" I told him Im not.

Third time- I was at another group. A woman said to me "you are Irish. Ah so you like such and such. And you are a Catholic". I told her I am not.

I found it strange as I have never really thought about religiom. Do some people here think that all Irish people are Catholics? My family were not religious at all and I was never brought up any religion

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Jellyandpeaches · 26/02/2026 11:28

I don’t think the issue for Irish people is that English people aren’t contrite, though that does seem to be a common misunderstanding.

The issue is the lack of awareness. It’s especially relevant when it comes to politicians etc. The thing is the events of the past have shaped the country and some issues are still ongoing (eg the situation in Northern Ireland). The initial Brexit proposals, for example, showed complete disregard for Northern Ireland. It was as if the place and the problems hadn’t even occurred to the politicians involved!

A Secretary of State appointed to NI hadn’t even the most basic understanding of NI politics.
www.bbc.com/news/uk-northern-ireland-49085076

It all shows a lack of awareness and a lack of care in the present and that does a lot of damage.

Playingvideogames · 26/02/2026 10:54

Jellyandpeaches · 26/02/2026 09:43

Loads of them do absolutely detest us

I wouldn’t say that’s at all true of the majority. Irish people don’t trust the British government and get irked by the fact that British people often don’t know their own history. It means politicians in particular can then say and do things that are pretty tone deaf!

There is still rivalry too, don’t want to be beaten by England in various sports etc. And some people (English, American etc) seem to think Ireland is quite a backward place which is annoying 😅

But that’s a long way from detesting English people at an individual level. Lots of English people live very happily in Ireland and are very welcome.

I’m honestly not convinced.

I don’t think people like this dislike individual English people (and let’s face it, it’s never aimed at Scotland or Wales, despite the fact they’re every bit as ‘culpable’ in their rule book as the average English person), but they seem to be living in huge offence that the English aren’t contrite enough, that we don’t self flagellate enough, that the Irish struggles don’t take up more room in our heads than they do.

Sadly while Ireland’s history has been defined by its relationship with England, the reverse isn’t true. Ireland is one aspect of our history (not on home soil as such), but we have such a diverse and complex history with many countries around the world that Ireland is just 1 part of it. And not one that most people have a personal connection with (unlike WW1/2 and events after that).

I know that’s hard to swallow, but this endless dragging up of things will get them absolutely nowhere. The relevant people have shown remorse, there have been official apologies and inquiries, what more can be done? Those things will never be enough anyway.

Jellyandpeaches · 26/02/2026 09:43

Nevermind17 · 26/02/2026 08:55

@Carla786 Is Irish hatred of the British really common though? I hope not.

It is common. My DS’s ex is Irish. She openly talked of how much she’d hated the British, but everyone she had met since she moved here was lovely (but she still hated the ones she hadn’t met).

I was once in a taxi in Dublin. The driver asked where we were from and I told him we were from Liverpool. He said “Ah, you’re grand then. You’re not English”.

Loads of them do absolutely detest us, and I do understand where that comes from but at the same time they need to recognise that it’s discrimination and grossly unfair. I’m not personally responsible for the actions of the British government 200 years ago, or that those atrocities aren’t taught in our schools. I support a united Ireland, if that is the wish of the majority of Irish people. I believe that Bloody Sunday was a crime and I don’t think I’m the only British person with those beliefs. Far from it.

Loads of them do absolutely detest us

I wouldn’t say that’s at all true of the majority. Irish people don’t trust the British government and get irked by the fact that British people often don’t know their own history. It means politicians in particular can then say and do things that are pretty tone deaf!

There is still rivalry too, don’t want to be beaten by England in various sports etc. And some people (English, American etc) seem to think Ireland is quite a backward place which is annoying 😅

But that’s a long way from detesting English people at an individual level. Lots of English people live very happily in Ireland and are very welcome.

Tryanalogue · 26/02/2026 09:23

Jellyandpeaches · 25/02/2026 22:14

I agree with you although there was immigration to Ireland in the 90s, particularly the late 90s. (Also please don’t call Ireland Eire…there are a few reasons for this).

I’ve always liked to call it the Free State. Nice name for a country.

Tryanalogue · 26/02/2026 09:20

Evaka · 24/02/2026 20:04

This is bizarre. I'm Irish in London with a very Oirish name and in 20 years no one has said such a thing to me. I wonder if you're in a town with a particular history of anti Irish/Catholic sentiment and people try to compensate?

It is bizarre yes. Where are people’s manners!

You just don’t ask about someone’s religion in polite society.

Nevermind17 · 26/02/2026 08:55

@Carla786 Is Irish hatred of the British really common though? I hope not.

It is common. My DS’s ex is Irish. She openly talked of how much she’d hated the British, but everyone she had met since she moved here was lovely (but she still hated the ones she hadn’t met).

I was once in a taxi in Dublin. The driver asked where we were from and I told him we were from Liverpool. He said “Ah, you’re grand then. You’re not English”.

Loads of them do absolutely detest us, and I do understand where that comes from but at the same time they need to recognise that it’s discrimination and grossly unfair. I’m not personally responsible for the actions of the British government 200 years ago, or that those atrocities aren’t taught in our schools. I support a united Ireland, if that is the wish of the majority of Irish people. I believe that Bloody Sunday was a crime and I don’t think I’m the only British person with those beliefs. Far from it.

Boolabus · 26/02/2026 08:46

ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2026 08:41

Though you can tell something about a culture by how (and indeed if!) it satirises itself.

Well it satirised the catholic church, but there is a lot more to Irish culture than that! particularly in the 90s, and as a teen of the 90s I can definitely assure you of that

ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2026 08:41

Though you can tell something about a culture by how (and indeed if!) it satirises itself.

Jellyandpeaches · 26/02/2026 08:27

That is worrying all right @Boolabus 😅

Boolabus · 26/02/2026 08:22

Jrisix · 24/02/2026 21:30

That's weird. I might assume but I wouldn't say anything. We were raised on Father Ted in the 90s though so that's probably my main window into Irish culture, and I'm sure things have moved on...

I worked in Pakistan for a while and everyone assumed I was a Christian because I'm white. I'm not a Christian but I was raised in a culturally Christian environment so I suppose it made sense.

We were raised on Father Ted in the 90s though so that's probably my main window into Irish culture,

Oh Dear.... Father Ted was your window into Irish culture are you for real 😂

Jellyandpeaches · 26/02/2026 07:57

It does feel like every couple of months somebody pops up just to ‘make a comment about English people, as an Irish person

I suspect it’s quite often the same ‘somebody’.

Playingvideogames · 26/02/2026 07:46

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 21:50

@Catlady007007
The thing is…. I don’t think this post is genuine. I think it’s been started deliberately to encourage an argument about race and to sow division
Im afraid I think it’s highly unlikely that someone in the UK in 2026 would immediately point someone, even if they were Irish, to a Catholic Church. The only exception maybe was if the other person was also catholic and they were trying to find common ground. If so, the OP has missed any nuance and is using it deliberately to cause an argument.
The censuses of the 1990s in Ireland showed that over 90% of the population identified as catholic and over 93% were born in Ireland and the remaining 7% were British ( of Irish extraction) plus some Poles.

I agree. I think a lot of these anecdotes are questionable because they just seem utterly unbelievable.

It does feel like every couple of months somebody pops up just to ‘make a comment about English people, as an Irish person…’ and these threads always end in a pile on by certain Irish posters to say how racist, imperialist and awful we are, and berate us for not knowing Irish history or showing enough contrition about events from hundreds of years ago (tbh nothing would ever be enough for them anyway).

It’s like a strange urge they get to repeatedly kick the hornet’s nest and then cry victim when people don’t want to tolerate their bullshit.

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 23:16

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 21:50

@Catlady007007
The thing is…. I don’t think this post is genuine. I think it’s been started deliberately to encourage an argument about race and to sow division
Im afraid I think it’s highly unlikely that someone in the UK in 2026 would immediately point someone, even if they were Irish, to a Catholic Church. The only exception maybe was if the other person was also catholic and they were trying to find common ground. If so, the OP has missed any nuance and is using it deliberately to cause an argument.
The censuses of the 1990s in Ireland showed that over 90% of the population identified as catholic and over 93% were born in Ireland and the remaining 7% were British ( of Irish extraction) plus some Poles.

Exactly. I'm increasingly suspicious of this OP.

Jellyandpeaches · 25/02/2026 22:14

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 21:50

@Catlady007007
The thing is…. I don’t think this post is genuine. I think it’s been started deliberately to encourage an argument about race and to sow division
Im afraid I think it’s highly unlikely that someone in the UK in 2026 would immediately point someone, even if they were Irish, to a Catholic Church. The only exception maybe was if the other person was also catholic and they were trying to find common ground. If so, the OP has missed any nuance and is using it deliberately to cause an argument.
The censuses of the 1990s in Ireland showed that over 90% of the population identified as catholic and over 93% were born in Ireland and the remaining 7% were British ( of Irish extraction) plus some Poles.

I agree with you although there was immigration to Ireland in the 90s, particularly the late 90s. (Also please don’t call Ireland Eire…there are a few reasons for this).

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 21:50

@Catlady007007
The thing is…. I don’t think this post is genuine. I think it’s been started deliberately to encourage an argument about race and to sow division
Im afraid I think it’s highly unlikely that someone in the UK in 2026 would immediately point someone, even if they were Irish, to a Catholic Church. The only exception maybe was if the other person was also catholic and they were trying to find common ground. If so, the OP has missed any nuance and is using it deliberately to cause an argument.
The censuses of the 1990s in Ireland showed that over 90% of the population identified as catholic and over 93% were born in Ireland and the remaining 7% were British ( of Irish extraction) plus some Poles.

Catlady007007 · 25/02/2026 21:20

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 21:07

Visiting family actually. I’m of Irish descent

Until very recently, Eire with the exception of Dublin maybe, was predominantly white Irish.

I have family in Spain (who are Spanish). As a mere visitor to Spain to visit family, I wouldn't dream of declaring that I know more about Spanish culture and history than the Spanish who were born, bred and educated there because it would make me sound very stupid indeed.

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 21:07

Catlady007007 · 25/02/2026 20:48

You are comparing your visit to someone who lived and was educated there. Really?

Visiting family actually. I’m of Irish descent

Until very recently, Eire with the exception of Dublin maybe, was predominantly white Irish.

Catlady007007 · 25/02/2026 20:48

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 20:41

I visited Ireland in the 1990s and it was predominantly white with a few Poles and everyone went to church

You are comparing your visit to someone who lived and was educated there. Really?

februaryrains · 25/02/2026 20:41

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 03:08

I'm not from Dublin. I wasnt raised any religion

So I was in school in the 1990s in Ireland.

The Catholic church definitely did not hold "an almighty sway" in my area at that time. I never really even saw anyone from the catholic church like priests or nuns.

In the 1990s lots of people from abroad had moved to Ireland. I remember muslims, hindus and athiests being at school with me.

Yes it is absolutely historically accurate

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I visited Ireland in the 1990s and it was predominantly white with a few Poles and everyone went to church

pollymere · 25/02/2026 20:31

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 18:33

Yet I see no threads started by English people about ‘the problems with Irish people’, but many in the reverse.

Really? This thread is absolutely littered with them!

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 19:53

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 19:32

Of course, so I would say:

Gerry Adams - Before the Dawn
Dirty Linen - Martin Doyle
Say Nothing - Patrick Keefe
Killing Thatcher - Rory Carroll

Documentary wise, Hunger is a film but a good one regarding the hunger strikes. There was a good series on iPlayer called Once Upon a Time in Northern Ireland (they also did an excellent series on the invasion of Iraq). Also ‘Sunday’ on C4 (ends with audience debate which was quite poignant I thought).

Irish people may want to comment on that list if there is a moral hole in it somewhere but I think it covers the main aspects/viewpoints.

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This sounds great, thank you so much. I have read Say Nothing, which I thought was very well-written, but none of the others. I really like long-form documentaries, I think they can give insight you don't necessarily get from a book.

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 19:34

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:50

That’s just because of the deep rooted (justified) hatred of the British. It’s not like the way the English and French have an affectionate hate relationship it’s genuine hate. Like the Pakistanis and Indians or Taiwan and China. A local, ancient hatred. We just all live with it in our bones now although of course it’s outwardly greatly reduced in recent decades

I see what you mean, but not sure about those analogies. Pakistan has only been a country since 1947, that's not an ancient hatred. And Taiwan was similarly not an ancient hatred: that again began in the 1940s when Chiang fled there to keep the Nationalist government going.

What would be a better analogy...

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 19:32

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 19:26

Great post. It's certainly an unhealthy approach.

I'm quite interested in the Troubles myself : I don't suppose you might be able to recommend any books you found particularly informative?

Of course, so I would say:

Gerry Adams - Before the Dawn
Dirty Linen - Martin Doyle
Say Nothing - Patrick Keefe
Killing Thatcher - Rory Carroll

Documentary wise, Hunger is a film but a good one regarding the hunger strikes. There was a good series on iPlayer called Once Upon a Time in Northern Ireland (they also did an excellent series on the invasion of Iraq). Also ‘Sunday’ on C4 (ends with audience debate which was quite poignant I thought).

Irish people may want to comment on that list if there is a moral hole in it somewhere but I think it covers the main aspects/viewpoints.

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 19:28

Itsmetheflamingo · 25/02/2026 09:11

I have to say I agree with this. As I’ve said I have Irish parents and spent a fair amount of time there- so I don’t say this as criticism but as sort of arms length observation.

Irish people have recently been infected with the same far right facism that has infected pretty much all of Europe. They’re not immune to it, and it’s growing.

irish people have always had a reputation for being incredibly welcoming, part of the reason it’s such a popular tourist destination. However, the reality was there was little immigration, particularly by refugees or asylum seekers. That began to happen when Ireland became richer, more easily accessed and had more opportunities.

it’s become clear that when they feel something is being taken, they can be as unkind and as unwelcoming as the British, French, Germans, swedes etc.

Exactly, there have been lots of immigration riots.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_anti-immigration_protests

Irish anti-immigration protests - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_anti-immigration_protests

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 19:26

Playingvideogames · 25/02/2026 19:05

Irish history is also my history, and the history of a lot of English people - so many of us have Irish blood/grandparents/ancestry.

I have actually watched a lot of documentaries and read a lot of books about the Troubles (and history leading up to) including the autobiography of Gerry Adams (which is a very controversial choice to many here). I consider myself far better acquainted with Irish history than most.

But truly, compassion fatigue sets in when there is this constant berating of English people, how awful they are, how they’re ’uneducated about history’, how we have ‘never suffered’ and so on. It’s relentless, and these threads are yet more thinly veiled opportunities to dig at English people and force us to engage with it all over again.

Let me ask you, what will be enough for some Irish people to start to move on from this issue? Britain has released virtually all IRA prisoners, Northern Ireland has complete autonomy over its future. Britain has issues public apologies, held extensive and very expensive inquiries into the Troubles, we negotiated the GFA. Ireland has prospered in the last decade and is doing very well, better than England in many ways, so no active harm remains.

You have to realise this level of hatred is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die. It’s not healthy at all

Great post. It's certainly an unhealthy approach.

I'm quite interested in the Troubles myself : I don't suppose you might be able to recommend any books you found particularly informative?