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Ah you're a Catholic!

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Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 19:50

I moved to England to work last year. I'm Irish.

When I arrived at my workplace, one of my colleagues said "Ah you are Irish, this is a nice city, there is a Catholic church down the road that you can go to".

I think she was trying to be helpful but I thought it was quite bizarre. I'm not Catholic and I told her so.

Second time - I was out in the pub with a mixed group of people. Some of them I had never met before. One man said "ah you're Irish, you're a Catholic!" I told him Im not.

Third time- I was at another group. A woman said to me "you are Irish. Ah so you like such and such. And you are a Catholic". I told her I am not.

I found it strange as I have never really thought about religiom. Do some people here think that all Irish people are Catholics? My family were not religious at all and I was never brought up any religion

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Dgll · 24/02/2026 22:33

When I've lived abroad most people have assumed I'm Christian because I'm English. I go with it even though I'm an atheist. I'm culturally Christian and celebrate Christmas so it doesn't feel like too much of a stretch.

Itsmetheflamingo · 24/02/2026 22:31

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 21:47

I didn't. Im talking about other people. Lots and lots and lots of people move to Ireland from other countries. It is very, very multicultural.

IMe a lot of British people absolutely don’t know that Ireland is multicultural now.

WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 24/02/2026 22:30

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:29

As Ive written, my colleague is under 40

I’m talking about you. Not your colleague. They’ve probably just finished Derry girls.

Itsmetheflamingo · 24/02/2026 22:29

My parents are Irish. IMO what you’ve experienced is related to English people tending to know Irish people of my parents generation (the big influx of immigration in the 50/60s) who would’ve had catholic backgrounds.

many British people wouldn’t know any Irish people who lived in Ireland more recently than that. As you know the diaspora brought a lot of community with them and that was often visibly associated with the church.

personally I’m surprised that people are asking you about it, but British people aren’t very religious in any recent generation so it might just be something they remember/ are interested in?

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:29

WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 24/02/2026 22:28

You’re overthinking this. Ireland is majority catholic. It’s not unreasonable to assume you’re catholic (a catholic atheist if you will) anyone over 40 will assume the same. They mean no harm. I would do the same from a family of Irish catholics. You must be very young if you’re from Ireland and have never thought about religion.

As Ive written, my colleague is under 40

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WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 24/02/2026 22:28

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:24

A majority isnt everyone though. Spain is majority Catholic. Ive never assumed that any of the Spanish people that I know are Catholic. One of the Spanish women that i know told me that she was brought up no religion.

You’re overthinking this. Ireland is majority catholic. It’s not unreasonable to assume you’re catholic (a catholic atheist if you will) anyone over 40 will assume the same. They mean no harm. I would do the same from a family of Irish catholics. You must be very young if you’re from Ireland and have never thought about religion.

2wheelmum · 24/02/2026 22:27

AppropriateAdult · 24/02/2026 22:21

But they were talking to (I’m assuming from the totality of your posts) a white woman with an Irish accent. The reality is that the vast majority of people born in Ireland to Irish parents 42 years ago would nominally identify as Catholic, even if they’re not really practicing.

Regardless of the stats though, why on earth would you assume an individual person's religion and then point them to the nearest church?

AppropriateAdult · 24/02/2026 22:27

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:24

A majority isnt everyone though. Spain is majority Catholic. Ive never assumed that any of the Spanish people that I know are Catholic. One of the Spanish women that i know told me that she was brought up no religion.

No, of course not. But some people aren’t very deep thinkers, or are a bit socially inept. Given this person’s later comments, they also just sound like an arsehole.

AppropriateAdult · 24/02/2026 22:26

Whatisgoingon2 · 24/02/2026 21:42

I thought Ireland was famously split into Catholics and protestants so wouldn't assume which background someone was from. I would assume historically your family was either/or though. But wouldn't assume anything about your own religious practice or recommend a church etc. . Weird

You’re thinking of Northern Ireland. Ireland (ROI) has traditionally been >90% Catholic, although that has changed in recent years.

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:24

AppropriateAdult · 24/02/2026 22:21

But they were talking to (I’m assuming from the totality of your posts) a white woman with an Irish accent. The reality is that the vast majority of people born in Ireland to Irish parents 42 years ago would nominally identify as Catholic, even if they’re not really practicing.

A majority isnt everyone though. Spain is majority Catholic. Ive never assumed that any of the Spanish people that I know are Catholic. One of the Spanish women that i know told me that she was brought up no religion.

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Dappy777 · 24/02/2026 22:24

They probably meant “you must be culturally Catholic”? That wouldn’t be an unreasonable assumption. I am culturally Anglican, even though I have zero faith and regard all religions as man-made nonsense. Just because they assumed you were culturally Catholic, that doesn’t mean they assumed you were a believer.

My ancestors were mostly raised in the Church of England (though I also have Catholic Irish ancestors), and I have an affection for the Book of Common Prayer and The King James Bible, but only because the language is so beautiful and because my ancestors heard those words week in and week out for generations. I don’t believe anything that is written in them, and I have no respect or affection for the religion they represent. However, they are part of the canon of English literature, which is kind of the literature of my ‘tribe’.

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:22

AppropriateAdult · 24/02/2026 22:21

But they were talking to (I’m assuming from the totality of your posts) a white woman with an Irish accent. The reality is that the vast majority of people born in Ireland to Irish parents 42 years ago would nominally identify as Catholic, even if they’re not really practicing.

My best friend in Ireland is a white woman with an Irish accent .Born in Ireland. Her mother is Irish, her dad is portuguese. She is no religion.

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AppropriateAdult · 24/02/2026 22:21

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 21:44

What about all the people that move to Ireland from other countries amd have children there?

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But they were talking to (I’m assuming from the totality of your posts) a white woman with an Irish accent. The reality is that the vast majority of people born in Ireland to Irish parents 42 years ago would nominally identify as Catholic, even if they’re not really practicing.

WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 24/02/2026 22:17

It seems fashionable about the minute to bring up the catholic / Protestant divide. The English are trying to educate themselves on it. Annoying my phone doesn’t autocorrect catholic with a capital. iPhones must be Protestants.

CombatBarbie · 24/02/2026 22:14

Without causing WW3 on here, you don't have this issue in Scotland. Its certainly never the 1st thing I assume, however jocks are pretty well versed and will ask you if you support Celtic or Rangers instead because there are clearly the only 2 teams Irish and Scottish support 🙄

Its veiled ignorance OP. Just like every gypsy or traveller is Irish.

ErrolTheDragon · 24/02/2026 22:13

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:03

It still doesnt make everyone a catholic does it?

Current catholics in Ireland are about 3.6 million people out of 5.4 million people.

It is closer to 2/3 than 3/4

And in people 40 and under it’s down to about a half Catholic, quarter ‘no religion’.

RainbowBagels · 24/02/2026 22:13

Quite apart from the assumption of being Catholic, what an odd thing to say about the Catholic church! I don't live in London and have never had a conversation about religion. I think you have a strange colleague who may have some issues with Irish/Catholics.

crowsfleet · 24/02/2026 22:08

ReturnOfTheToad · 24/02/2026 22:07

Polish are the largest non Irish group in Ireland and 70% of those declared themselves as Catholic in the last census. So there is also the fact that not all Catholics in Ireland are Irish!

the plot thickens 😂

ReturnOfTheToad · 24/02/2026 22:07

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 21:44

What about all the people that move to Ireland from other countries amd have children there?

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Polish are the largest non Irish group in Ireland and 70% of those declared themselves as Catholic in the last census. So there is also the fact that not all Catholics in Ireland are Irish!

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 22:03

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/02/2026 21:59

3/4 = 3 in 4 people. that's a lot of Catholic people.

It still doesnt make everyone a catholic does it?

Current catholics in Ireland are about 3.6 million people out of 5.4 million people.

It is closer to 2/3 than 3/4

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ErrolTheDragon · 24/02/2026 22:01

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/02/2026 21:54

'Is 69 percent a vast majority? I dont think so. Thst is the current percentage of cstholics in Ireland'

69% is nearly 75% which equates to 3/4, very much a vast majority.

What is the remaining 31% made up of ?

I would guess Church of Ireland, Jewish, Hindu, Muslim, Sikhs, Plymouth Brethren and Jehovah's Witnesses ?

It’s nearer two thirds than three quarters. As to the remainder, it’s quite easy to get census data - you’ve forgotten the next largest group which is what the OP belongs to.

As of the 2022 census, 69.1% of the population in the Republic of Ireland identified as Catholic, while 14.8% reported having no religion. Other religious affiliations included 4.2% Protestant, 2.1% Eastern Orthodox, and smaller percentages for Islam and Hinduism

Delphiniumandlupins · 24/02/2026 22:00

Your colleague is a numpty. Tell her this (remember to include "No offence").

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/02/2026 21:59

3/4 = 3 in 4 people. that's a lot of Catholic people.

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 21:55

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 24/02/2026 21:54

'Is 69 percent a vast majority? I dont think so. Thst is the current percentage of cstholics in Ireland'

69% is nearly 75% which equates to 3/4, very much a vast majority.

What is the remaining 31% made up of ?

I would guess Church of Ireland, Jewish, Hindu, Muslim, Sikhs, Plymouth Brethren and Jehovah's Witnesses ?

And atheists.

It's a majority yes. I wouldnt describe it as a vast majority, when we are talking about millions of people.

It is a percentage that is also getting lower, every year that it has been checked.

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crowsfleet · 24/02/2026 21:55

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 21:47

I didn't. Im talking about other people. Lots and lots and lots of people move to Ireland from other countries. It is very, very multicultural.

sure! Ireland has become multicultural in the past 30 years.

I understood your question that you were wondering why people assume that you, a Republic of Ireland native is Catholic. Doesn’t mean that I’d mention religion or point you to the nearest church. I wouldn’t assume that you practise religion.

I’d never think that people who moved to Ireland from abroad are Catholic.