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Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 19:50

I moved to England to work last year. I'm Irish.

When I arrived at my workplace, one of my colleagues said "Ah you are Irish, this is a nice city, there is a Catholic church down the road that you can go to".

I think she was trying to be helpful but I thought it was quite bizarre. I'm not Catholic and I told her so.

Second time - I was out in the pub with a mixed group of people. Some of them I had never met before. One man said "ah you're Irish, you're a Catholic!" I told him Im not.

Third time- I was at another group. A woman said to me "you are Irish. Ah so you like such and such. And you are a Catholic". I told her I am not.

I found it strange as I have never really thought about religiom. Do some people here think that all Irish people are Catholics? My family were not religious at all and I was never brought up any religion

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Carla786 · 25/02/2026 02:05

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 02:02

Well yes but that's my point the diverse make up of Britain means that these perceived attitudes are just not in existence for many Brits anymore, the are probably too young to know, are completely ignorant to the history and the history isn't theirs if they have diverse heritage!

This is an important point. I am doing history at uni right now, and I went to a good school. But we learnt nothing at GCSE & A Level History, or before that, about Irish history, even recent events which majorly impacted Britain too. We didn't learn much about Britain post-1930s either. The focus was very much on global events, WW2 and Cold War.

It's tricky but as the UK it's really sad there's not enough education about Scotland, Wales or Ireland.

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 02:04

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 02:02

Well yes but that's my point the diverse make up of Britain means that these perceived attitudes are just not in existence for many Brits anymore, the are probably too young to know, are completely ignorant to the history and the history isn't theirs if they have diverse heritage!

As an Irish person who has experienced abuse recently in England. I can tell you that these attitudes definitely stil exist in England. Maybe listen to the people who are experiencing the abuse?

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Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 02:02

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:58

Why would the Irish not be liked in different countries, there is no historical conflict. Having said that, I am still shocked that in this day and age people are still knowledgeable enough to maintain such prejudices.

The British aren't all perceived in the way the Irish perceive them, certainly not where I have family in Scandinavian countries they quite like the British, their sense of humour, music even getting tipsy but again it is hard to tell what nations think of you unless you speak all of these languages.

But didnt you write that you are very surprised that any Irish people would receive abuse in England,

even after our historial conflict?

I said that the abuse I receive in England is definitely due to the Historical conflict. I pointed out that I revceive no abuse in countries where there has been no conflict. I only ever receive abuse in England.

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Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 02:02

mathanxiety · 25/02/2026 01:55

The 'troubles between England and Ireland' are not really relevant to the core assumptions people have about the Irish.

The attitudes that cause British people to.look down their noses at the Irish originate far, far deeper than recent history.. They are rooted in religious and cultural history that few Britons are aware of.

The attitudes can be traced in the pages of 19th Century issues of Punch magazine, where the Irish were relentlessly portrayed as simian creatures, lazy, feckless, uncouth, and Catholic.

Well yes but that's my point the diverse make up of Britain means that these perceived attitudes are just not in existence for many Brits anymore, the are probably too young to know, are completely ignorant to the history and the history isn't theirs if they have diverse heritage!

Bones101 · 25/02/2026 02:00

Studied in London for a while and had patients call me the Catholic and Paddy. It was so bad.

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:58

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:48

Racism is not just to do with skin colour, it is to do with ethnicity.

I pointed out that the only place I have reveived abuse for being Irish is in Emgland.

The Irish are well liked everywhere else so it can be a bit of a shock to come to England and experience abuse. It obviously stems from the history between England +Ireland.

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Why would the Irish not be liked in different countries, there is no historical conflict. Having said that, I am still shocked that in this day and age people are still knowledgeable enough to maintain such prejudices.

The British aren't all perceived in the way the Irish perceive them, certainly not where I have family in Scandinavian countries they quite like the British, their sense of humour, music even getting tipsy but again it is hard to tell what nations think of you unless you speak all of these languages.

mathanxiety · 25/02/2026 01:55

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:38

I am really surprised that you still receive abuse for being Irish in the UK. I'm not trying to be facetious but many people will be too ignorant or young to know of the troubles between England and Ireland. I have an Irish married surname but nobody ever mentions it or thinks anything of it.

The 'troubles between England and Ireland' are not really relevant to the core assumptions people have about the Irish.

The attitudes that cause British people to.look down their noses at the Irish originate far, far deeper than recent history.. They are rooted in religious and cultural history that few Britons are aware of.

The attitudes can be traced in the pages of 19th Century issues of Punch magazine, where the Irish were relentlessly portrayed as simian creatures, lazy, feckless, uncouth, and Catholic.

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:53

Catlady007007 · 25/02/2026 01:50

I don't really understand why you appear to be taking it as an insult. That is how it reads to me, though perhaps that is unintentional on your part.

I think that many English people still have the belief that England is somehow superior to other countries - Ireland included. Probably due to being a colonial empire in the past. And with so much multiculturism, and the disaster of Brexit, there is a loss of identity so people live in the past. Thats my tuppence worth anyway.

Do some English people still think that they are superior? Thats sad.

I suppose those kind of people can't feel superior unless they decide that a neighbouring country is stupid.

I was talking to an English man once abut Ireland and England. He was about 55. He told me that he was taught from a young age that Irish people were stupid, and English people were superior.

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DeepRubySwan · 25/02/2026 01:52

I'm Australian from an Irish background and I would probably assume you are Catholic tbh sorry about that. I don't know any Irish immigrants to Australia that aren't Catholic and I know a lot because the area I live in is strongly Catholic, therefore we attract a lot of Irish!

Catlady007007 · 25/02/2026 01:50

I don't really understand why you appear to be taking it as an insult. That is how it reads to me, though perhaps that is unintentional on your part.

I think that many English people still have the belief that England is somehow superior to other countries - Ireland included. Probably due to being a colonial empire in the past. And with so much multiculturism, and the disaster of Brexit, there is a loss of identity so people live in the past. Thats my tuppence worth anyway.

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:50

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:39

People inherit views from their parents. Its the same in Ireland. Ive seem young people say "i hate the English". This was definitely a view passed down from their parents.

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Yes, I can well imagine that but that's more likely because of the history and the population size and the ethnic diversity is much smaller so there are more collective thoughts on this topic. In contrast that collective thought just doesn't exist here IME, mainly because it is a much more multicultural society where with a variety of references to different conflicts either via heritage or lived experience!

That said, I definitely think you are right and it is not ok to assume this and certainly not voice such an opinion.

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:50

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 01:49

Great post.

I mean Im not culturally Catholic in any way.

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Carla786 · 25/02/2026 01:49

Dappy777 · 24/02/2026 22:24

They probably meant “you must be culturally Catholic”? That wouldn’t be an unreasonable assumption. I am culturally Anglican, even though I have zero faith and regard all religions as man-made nonsense. Just because they assumed you were culturally Catholic, that doesn’t mean they assumed you were a believer.

My ancestors were mostly raised in the Church of England (though I also have Catholic Irish ancestors), and I have an affection for the Book of Common Prayer and The King James Bible, but only because the language is so beautiful and because my ancestors heard those words week in and week out for generations. I don’t believe anything that is written in them, and I have no respect or affection for the religion they represent. However, they are part of the canon of English literature, which is kind of the literature of my ‘tribe’.

Great post.

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:48

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:42

I very much have seen racism but not towards Irish people. I think it's quite strange that you think there is no racism in France, Greece, Germany, etc. Why would such countries be racist towards the Irish. Presumably it wouldn't even be racism in these countries as it has no historical relevance. I assume you are white?

Racism is not just to do with skin colour, it is to do with ethnicity.

I pointed out that the only place I have reveived abuse for being Irish is in Emgland.

The Irish are well liked everywhere else so it can be a bit of a shock to come to England and experience abuse. It obviously stems from the history between England +Ireland.

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mathanxiety · 25/02/2026 01:47

clementmarot · 24/02/2026 19:53

I think it’s a common assumption amongst the older generation because religious observance was very high in Ireland (highest in Western Europe) until relatively recently. Obviously Ireland has changed a great deal in the last 40 years though.

And obviously it has never crossed the minds of some that Ireland also has Protestants, Jews, etc, and always has.

My neighbours growing up in Dublin were CoI. Kids I went to school with were Plymouth Brethren. The CoI neighbours and the Plymouth Brethren families were a lot more churchgoing than many of the RC neighbours or fellow students.

There was a CoI National.School (primary school) in the suburb I lived in. There are old and well.established secondary schools run by CoI, Methodist and other protestant denominations.

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:45

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 01:41

I get what you mean but Saudi is a bit different as even now synagogues, churches, anything but a mosque are illegal, so is trying to convert others to anything but Islam. It's not quite a direct parallel to Ireland where it was strict but never that repressive.

Yeah I remember when I was in Ireland it was more Catholic than it is now. My mother decided to not make me Catholic. Actually now i think of it, my mother asked me at age 7 if i wanted to be Catholic. She asked me because some of my classmates at that age were making their Catholic communion at age 7. I could have beem christened and then communed at that age.

I said no. My teachers didnt care that I said no. My Local church didnt care. We had freedom to choose.

There was definitely a bit societal pressure to be Catholic just to fit in. But we did have freedom to choose.

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elliejjtiny · 25/02/2026 01:44

That reminds me of a friend I had in 6th form. She had brown skin so people would assume she was muslim. She always wore jeans etc and no head covering but people used to tell her off for drinking alcohol. She used to shout "I aint no Muslim, I aint nothing" at them.

PollyBell · 25/02/2026 01:44

Well if they watched the news in the past 100 years or so of anything that comes out of Ireland have they had their head up their own backsides? they must know the whole point of the issues there is no not everyone is Catholic?

have they been living under a rock?

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:42

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:36

If it doesnt happen to you, you wont see it im afraid.

People tend to be their racist selves where no one else can see it except the person they are abusing.

Anyone that called me names didnt do it in front of people. They did it when they were alone with me

I very much have seen racism but not towards Irish people. I think it's quite strange that you think there is no racism in France, Greece, Germany, etc. Why would such countries be racist towards the Irish. Presumably it wouldn't even be racism in these countries as it has no historical relevance. I assume you are white?

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 01:41

Ladamesansmerci · 25/02/2026 00:08

Yeah apologies, I'm including Northern Ireland as well, which I guess I would in real life too, as I don't know enough people from either Northern Ireland or the Republic of to distinguish between accents!

The point remains though, that due to history, it's hard not to make some kind of assumption about religion. Just as if I was meeting someone from Saudi Arabia, I might be presuming they come a Muslim background. Assumptions are everywhere. I would expect people to make assumptions about me too, based on my sex, my country, what I wear, my accent (I have a really broad Derbyshire accent!), etc. I truly don't care as long as people don't comment out loud.

The important thing imo is not the automatic assumption, but your second thought where you challenge the assumption and filter what comes out your mouth lol. Think what you like in the privacy of your mind, but there's literally no reason at all to assume out loud about someone's religion. I'd only ever bring religion up if someone else brought it up first (and honestly I'm a diehard Atheist so I'd personally avoid it full stop as it's all bs to me lol).

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I get what you mean but Saudi is a bit different as even now synagogues, churches, anything but a mosque are illegal, so is trying to convert others to anything but Islam. It's not quite a direct parallel to Ireland where it was strict but never that repressive.

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:39

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:38

I am really surprised that you still receive abuse for being Irish in the UK. I'm not trying to be facetious but many people will be too ignorant or young to know of the troubles between England and Ireland. I have an Irish married surname but nobody ever mentions it or thinks anything of it.

People inherit views from their parents. Its the same in Ireland. Ive seem young people say "i hate the English". This was definitely a view passed down from their parents.

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Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:38

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:33

Yes im sure i didnt write that all English do this. I wrote some.

I have never experiemced abuse for being Irish in spain, Italy, France, Germany, Greece, USA.

I HAVE received abuse for being Irish in England.

I am really surprised that you still receive abuse for being Irish in the UK. I'm not trying to be facetious but many people will be too ignorant or young to know of the troubles between England and Ireland. I have an Irish married surname but nobody ever mentions it or thinks anything of it.

Carla786 · 25/02/2026 01:38

Appleday11 · 24/02/2026 23:14

Returnofthetoad did you watch the new Netflix series "how to get heaven from Belfsst" from the makers of Derry girls? I enjoyed it. There a lot of fr ted and derry girls actors in it

Oh that sounds good, I want to watch

Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:36

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:34

I grew up in London and lived there until a young adult. I'm still in the south east and just don't recognise this old fashioned outlook as I am still in a very diverse and secular area.

If it doesnt happen to you, you wont see it im afraid.

People tend to be their racist selves where no one else can see it except the person they are abusing.

Anyone that called me names didnt do it in front of people. They did it when they were alone with me

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Appleday11 · 25/02/2026 01:35

Goldenbear · 25/02/2026 01:32

No

You wrote before

This is hilarious, I can guarantee being a teenager in late 90s West London was a much more diverse place to grow up with kids at school whose heritage or religious affiliation was much more culturally diverse e.g. South Korean, Chinese, polish, Turkish, Czech, Jamaican, Jewish than late 90s Ireland let alone in 2026

So you were in London at the period when you were talking about diversity.

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