To be annoyed at partner booking a trip…

I do get all the wanting to be consulted etc and it is important that women have agency in decisions about how they spend their time, but I do find life is generally better when you approach it assuming things will be good.

It could be a terrible weekend, but it could be flipping brilliant too.

Ok… so many people splitting up.

The level of ungratefulness is absolutely staggering. How many times do you see women posting on here: my husband/partner didn’t buy me a birthday gift, didn’t help me, didn’t take me out… whatever, you name it.

And now we’ve reached a point where someone makes a genuine effort: takes time to search for flights and accommodation, books it, pays for it and that’s still not good enough because he didn’t consult her?!! 😳 Have a word with yourself….

Some people will never be pleased or happy. They actively look for problems in everything, even when someone is clearly trying.

Any random day might be rubbish eg it rains. Rain on one day of a week long holiday is one of those things, rain on the only day is different.

Agree, and relatively expensive for very little.

Why would it be awful?

Sounds like the issue is you don't trust him to not do something to spoil it. How is your relationship generally?

I had two nights in Gran Canaria last week as it's all I could get off work. It was great - the first flight was early and the flight home late so they were long days and I enjoyed pottering around in the sun.

But it’s not just a night out in a foreign place. It’s 6-7h of travelling time each way for a “night out”

OP you sound like my DH 🙄
“whats the point” It is EXHAUSTING to live with. So now I don’t plan anything.
He knew you wanted to go away and hes made the best with what he has available to him.
I get it might be a bit faffy but if you try a different mindset it might be amazing?
If you really don’t want to go then don’t. But don’t be surprised if its the last thing he plans 🤣

I'm amazed so many have said YABU. It's not a romantic 48 hour getaway to Paris. It's 8 hours on a plane and potentially 4 in an airport - for less than 48 hours in a destination where you'll want to stay longer. No sooner have you started to relax ,you'll be coming home again.

This might be some people's cup of tea but it's not the kind of thing you book as a surprise since it is also something many people won't enjoy. Sure, the OP will go and no doubt enjoy it but she's allowed to be irritated that her partner did this without asking.

I hope you get your holiday in June too OP.

My other half often books random short city breaks and I absolutely love him for it. That's in addition to him booking our main summer holiday. Is there some reason you're so annoyed? Is there a clash?

Great way to look at it

So the second day will come and go and if it’s a rubbish day …we have travelled all that way for mothing

Why would it be a rubbish day? Are you always this negative?

*So your only full day there is Sunday?
I would be annoyed too.

Well you would get Saturday evening, all day Sunday, Sunday evening and Monday morning. Plenty of time to have a nice weekend.

Some people think thevglass is half empty others think its half full.

Personally I would grab this chance and have fun rather than being a miserable duck about it.

I know people are saying about the travelling but I'd make that part of the trip, enjoy browsing at the duty free, maybe book the airport lounge. It makes a change for the weekend!

flying for at least 4 hours to go somewhere for about 30 hours? Air travel isn’t exactly relaxing and once you’ve had the fuss of getting there, departures and then getting to accommodation from the airport and doing the same in reverse, it’s such a time sink and usually I’m pretty pooped from it all. It’ll probably be about 16h of travel for 1 day of sun. What is the point.
I dont think its that tiring to be honest.
I always find that once Im in a different location within a few hours home seems so far away , mentally , and it feels like a break just by doing something different.
A change is as good as a rest!

I'd just look at it as a night out in a foreign place! Don't think of it as a holiday, don't even think of it as a couple of days away, just think of it as a great opportunity to have a good night out enjoying some food and drink!
That way it looks like your partner has been really extravagant and done something amazing!
I love a really short break away (albeit in this country usually!).
Turn it around as not being a silly idea but something that was booked on the spur of the moment and is just a little bit of fun. This is why I always have an emergency case packed with clean clothes/toiletries etc.

They aren’t married.

But impossible to know from your post if you are rolling eyes at the man who didn’t consult his fellow traveller on where she would like to go, or at the woman being berated for not being fawningly grateful for a trip that’s not what she wants.

🙄🙄🙄 no wonder people divorce left right and centre….

You sound very ungrateful. I’d be thrilled to have two days in the sun away from home

It depends on the airport. If it's a small regional one where you park up and go straight through an empty security and then you're right by the gate - not so bad. If it's Stansted or Gatwick and you have to park, then get a bus, then queue for security and then a train to your gate - much more tiring.

People can become mentally drained by traveling. It doesn't mean they have something wrong with them.

flying for at least 4 hours to go somewhere for about 30 hours? Air travel isn’t exactly relaxing and once you’ve had the fuss of getting there, departures and then getting to accommodation from the airport and doing the same in reverse, it’s such a time sink and usually I’m pretty pooped from it all. It’ll probably be about 16h of travel for 1 day of sun. What is the point.

You aren't spoilt OP for wanting a say in where you go for a mini break. It's a lot of hassle for a couple of nights. I'm with you on this one.

You don’t sound spoilt, OP. Having preferences of your own is not spoilt,

I’d kill for a day in the sun right now. Back in the day I used to fly to Italy for the day to buy cheap cigarettes. It was a lovely thing to do.

You do sound spoilt. Finding all sorts of issues.

Which airport are you flying out of? Make it a treat, go early and book the lounge.

What time do you arrive? Go to bed early, get up early and see the most that you can, and then spend the day relaxing before your flight.

Honestly, there are worse problems to have!

No good deed goes unpunished.