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To be annoyed at partner booking a trip…

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inkyspells · 24/02/2026 18:10

I have wanted to go away for ages but due partners work we have to wait till June for our main holiday.
Today he texts me saying he has booked 2 nights in Gran Canaria next weekend.
We don’t get there till 5pm Saturday and come home 5pm monday.
What is the point
The flights were only £40 return but still ridiculous
Aibu to be annoyed ?

OP posts:
Anonanonanonagain · 25/02/2026 12:59

Let us know when he has dumped you and pass on my contact details thanks.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:58

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:53

As I previously said I've travelled for a month on and under seat bag size. Why is it so difficult. Ok it's the same amount of clothes as a week but definitely more than 3 days

Congratulations. I’m assuming you didn’t fly on a small budget airline? Because those planes hardly have any room for your feet never mind your feet and a bag to put a couple of outfits and toiletries in.

Not sure what your issue is tbh 🤣🤣

Highstool · 25/02/2026 12:55

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:46

Ah so if you want to pack clean clothes and toiletries then you will be taking luggage, no? You know a cabin/overhead bag.

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane.

You initially said that you didn’t take luggage when you travel (Assuming traveling for a 2 night trip like the OP). So that’s why I assumed you must stink if you travel with no clean clothes.

Congratulations on your air miles!

Hello 🙂 I do it very regularly. I wouldn't dream of paying for a large cabin bag for a three day trip. I don't know what you'd put in it.

You travel in something warmish when you leave UK, and pack 2 days clean underwear, a couple of tops, pair of shorts, swim suit, for me, some runnign kit, a dress if you like, and flip flops. What else?

I'm just back from a week in Spain with DH. We only paid for one large cabin bag between us and tbh would have probably managed without. It was only because we were racing while there and wanted to take race shoes.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:55

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:41

Clean day time clothes for day 1.
Clean evening time clothes for night 1.
Clean day time clothes for 2 day.
Clean evening time clothes for night 2.
Clean outfit to travel home in.
Underwear X 3.
Swimming costume or bikini.
Hair brush. Tooth brush.
Pair of shoes. Or maybe 2 if you don’t want to wear the same pair for travel, day and night.

So I applaud anyone that travels for a trip without luggage.

So the clothes are no good to wear again after 4 hours wear of an evening?

You much use lots of washing powder

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 12:55

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:46

Ah so if you want to pack clean clothes and toiletries then you will be taking luggage, no? You know a cabin/overhead bag.

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane.

You initially said that you didn’t take luggage when you travel (Assuming traveling for a 2 night trip like the OP). So that’s why I assumed you must stink if you travel with no clean clothes.

Congratulations on your air miles!

No. I can fit all of that in a handbag which fits easily under my seat. It's no more "luggage" than I take into the office or that I carry when I go shopping.

I don't need to make any provision for it when I travel, thus it is not luggage.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:53

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:46

Ah so if you want to pack clean clothes and toiletries then you will be taking luggage, no? You know a cabin/overhead bag.

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane.

You initially said that you didn’t take luggage when you travel (Assuming traveling for a 2 night trip like the OP). So that’s why I assumed you must stink if you travel with no clean clothes.

Congratulations on your air miles!

As I previously said I've travelled for a month on and under seat bag size. Why is it so difficult. Ok it's the same amount of clothes as a week but definitely more than 3 days

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:51

Harrietsaunt · 25/02/2026 12:48

Yes, but it’s still luggage…

Oh whatever

Harrietsaunt · 25/02/2026 12:48

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:40

Sigh. Under seat bags ( or personal items) are different from cabin baggage.

However it's possible that the PP has no checked in luggage to have to get to airport early for and wait around on labding

Yes, but it’s still luggage…

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:46

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 12:38

Why would anyone stink? How much stuff do people need for 2 nights? Clean underwear, clean tshirt, toothbrush and toothpaste, deodorant and whatever bits of skincare you want would be plenty, no?

Most places people would travel to for a short trip will have shops.

Yes, I'm really very efficient. I fly at least a couple of times a week so I'm pretty good at organising myself to make the most of my time.

Ah so if you want to pack clean clothes and toiletries then you will be taking luggage, no? You know a cabin/overhead bag.

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane.

You initially said that you didn’t take luggage when you travel (Assuming traveling for a 2 night trip like the OP). So that’s why I assumed you must stink if you travel with no clean clothes.

Congratulations on your air miles!

BigBlackPuppyDog · 25/02/2026 12:45

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 24/02/2026 18:20

Well you would get Saturday evening, all day Sunday, Sunday evening and Monday morning. Plenty of time to have a nice weekend.

How can someone be annoyed by someone trying to do something nice for you? Beggars belief.

Yes, this! ⬆️

Live a little, OP… it’s cold wet and miserable here, get your feet on the
beach! ☀️☀️

We’re a long time dead!

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:42

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:40

Sigh. Under seat bags ( or personal items) are different from cabin baggage.

However it's possible that the PP has no checked in luggage to have to get to airport early for and wait around on labding

Sigh.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:41

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:36

If you going for 2 nights how much bloody stuff do you need?

Clean day time clothes for day 1.
Clean evening time clothes for night 1.
Clean day time clothes for 2 day.
Clean evening time clothes for night 2.
Clean outfit to travel home in.
Underwear X 3.
Swimming costume or bikini.
Hair brush. Tooth brush.
Pair of shoes. Or maybe 2 if you don’t want to wear the same pair for travel, day and night.

So I applaud anyone that travels for a trip without luggage.

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 12:41

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:36

If you going for 2 nights how much bloody stuff do you need?

Dunno, mate :) just noting that you would do laundry on a 1 month trip.

Anyway, OP hasn't mentioned luggage - I think the proportion of travel time vs holiday time is a much bigger deal. Not checking a bag doesn't save much time out of the total.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:40

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:38

Well, that’s my point!😂

The poster I quoted said she doesn’t take luggage.

My point is a cabin bag is classed as luggage.

So if that poster travels for a trip with no luggage, the surely she has no belongings or clothing with her. Which is why I think she must stink.

Sigh. Under seat bags ( or personal items) are different from cabin baggage.

However it's possible that the PP has no checked in luggage to have to get to airport early for and wait around on labding

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 12:38

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:31

Well aren’t you efficient. Don’t forget to collect your gold star and a Biscuit whilst you grab your pastry 😊

Some people live far away from airports. Especially if they need to travel on a main motorway where there could be delays due to traffic, roadworks, accidents. A lot of people plan for contingency time in order to get to an airport with sufficient time.

The flight from Newcastle to Gran Canaria is roughly 4 hours and 45 minutes. Thats not including the time you’re sat waiting to take off and the time sat when you land waiting to get off. The OP will most likely be on the plane for over 5 hours. if you like to read that’s great for you. But not everyone finds reading on a plane relaxing.

Well done for not having luggage. You do realise a cabin bag is still classed as luggage? Do you wear the same clothes on your back for days on end whilst you travel? You must stink!!

Also, there’s no trains from Gran Canaria airport. The OP will still have to get to the resort via a taxi or bus.

I think you’re the strange one here …

Why would anyone stink? How much stuff do people need for 2 nights? Clean underwear, clean tshirt, toothbrush and toothpaste, deodorant and whatever bits of skincare you want would be plenty, no?

Most places people would travel to for a short trip will have shops.

Yes, I'm really very efficient. I fly at least a couple of times a week so I'm pretty good at organising myself to make the most of my time.

ginasevern · 25/02/2026 12:38

WestwardHo1 · 25/02/2026 12:15

Our first holiday together was a 3 week trip to Borneo staying in 5 star accommodation that he organised fairly last minute as we hadn’t been together very long at that point. We had our own boat and guide accompanying us on the river trips and it was magical, especially the night cruise.

This post seems to imply that it was the least you deserved. You know not everyone is loaded right?

Edited

Yeah, I thought it all sounded a bit "superior".

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:38

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:35

That fits into an under seat bag if you pack properly which is free even on bloody Ryanair

Well, that’s my point!😂

The poster I quoted said she doesn’t take luggage.

My point is a cabin bag is classed as luggage.

So if that poster travels for a trip with no luggage, the surely she has no belongings or clothing with her. Which is why I think she must stink.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:36

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 12:35

And obviously if you are somewhere for a month, you can do laundry.

If you going for 2 nights how much bloody stuff do you need?

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:35

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:34

Yes, you had luggage.

The poster I was replying to said she doesn’t take luggage.

That fits into an under seat bag if you pack properly which is free even on bloody Ryanair

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 12:35

And obviously if you are somewhere for a month, you can do laundry.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:34

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:33

Why do you have to stink? I spent a month in Thailand with 6.5kg of luggage. I didn't stink.

Yes, you had luggage.

The poster I was replying to said she doesn’t take luggage.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:33

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:31

Well aren’t you efficient. Don’t forget to collect your gold star and a Biscuit whilst you grab your pastry 😊

Some people live far away from airports. Especially if they need to travel on a main motorway where there could be delays due to traffic, roadworks, accidents. A lot of people plan for contingency time in order to get to an airport with sufficient time.

The flight from Newcastle to Gran Canaria is roughly 4 hours and 45 minutes. Thats not including the time you’re sat waiting to take off and the time sat when you land waiting to get off. The OP will most likely be on the plane for over 5 hours. if you like to read that’s great for you. But not everyone finds reading on a plane relaxing.

Well done for not having luggage. You do realise a cabin bag is still classed as luggage? Do you wear the same clothes on your back for days on end whilst you travel? You must stink!!

Also, there’s no trains from Gran Canaria airport. The OP will still have to get to the resort via a taxi or bus.

I think you’re the strange one here …

Why do you have to stink? I spent a month in Thailand with 6.5kg of luggage. I didn't stink.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:32

Ansjovis · 25/02/2026 12:31

The addition of 'lol' onto the end does, at least to me, signify that the question is not being asked in good faith. Because someone being different to you is not, in and of itself, funny. Just a normal part of life.

Seriously.? So your imagination assumes I'm being rude. ??? Ok that's on you

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:31

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 12:13

I also see that people have weird views of travel. I'm never in an airport long enough to be hanging around. I arrive with enough time to park, get through security (fast pass) and stroll to my gate with enough time to grab a coffee and pastry on the way.

On the plane I read. I enjoy reading, and having however many hours to sit and do it is nice. I could sit and read for 4 hours no problem!

I don't have luggage. And there's no "getting to the resort" as I just hop straight on a bus or train and go somewhere.

Well aren’t you efficient. Don’t forget to collect your gold star and a Biscuit whilst you grab your pastry 😊

Some people live far away from airports. Especially if they need to travel on a main motorway where there could be delays due to traffic, roadworks, accidents. A lot of people plan for contingency time in order to get to an airport with sufficient time.

The flight from Newcastle to Gran Canaria is roughly 4 hours and 45 minutes. Thats not including the time you’re sat waiting to take off and the time sat when you land waiting to get off. The OP will most likely be on the plane for over 5 hours. if you like to read that’s great for you. But not everyone finds reading on a plane relaxing.

Well done for not having luggage. You do realise a cabin bag is still classed as luggage? Do you wear the same clothes on your back for days on end whilst you travel? You must stink!!

Also, there’s no trains from Gran Canaria airport. The OP will still have to get to the resort via a taxi or bus.

I think you’re the strange one here …

Ansjovis · 25/02/2026 12:31

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:21

What's rude about asking a question ❓

The addition of 'lol' onto the end does, at least to me, signify that the question is not being asked in good faith. Because someone being different to you is not, in and of itself, funny. Just a normal part of life.

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