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To be annoyed at partner booking a trip…

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inkyspells · 24/02/2026 18:10

I have wanted to go away for ages but due partners work we have to wait till June for our main holiday.
Today he texts me saying he has booked 2 nights in Gran Canaria next weekend.
We don’t get there till 5pm Saturday and come home 5pm monday.
What is the point
The flights were only £40 return but still ridiculous
Aibu to be annoyed ?

OP posts:
MyMilchick · 25/02/2026 15:39

notacooldad · 25/02/2026 14:49

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane
Let me introduce myself!
I have it down to fine art by using a 35l rucksack that fits under the seat!
3 days is no time!

Me too! Especially somewhere warm like the Canaries clothes will be smaller/lighter

DriveMeCrazy1974 · 25/02/2026 15:08

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 09:01

But it’s not just a night out in a foreign place. It’s 6-7h of travelling time each way for a “night out”

I guess it's different strokes for different folks! We often do silly things that others would think an enormous waste of time. One time we drove to Portsmouth from Oxford just to get a Chinese meal to bring home because we'd had one there a while back and it was nice! A 4-hour round trip that resulted in our brand new car's windscreen getting cracked as well! An expensive takeaway that was! What's life without whimsey though?!

SpainToday · 25/02/2026 15:04

Highstool · 25/02/2026 14:57

It is expensive though 🤣

I paid £14.99 in September to check in a small suitcase?

Highstool · 25/02/2026 14:57

SpainToday · 25/02/2026 14:54

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane

Me neither. Its not the end of the world (or a sign of failure) to take a suitcase!

It is expensive though 🤣

Shinyhappyapple · 25/02/2026 14:56

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:46

Ah so if you want to pack clean clothes and toiletries then you will be taking luggage, no? You know a cabin/overhead bag.

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane.

You initially said that you didn’t take luggage when you travel (Assuming traveling for a 2 night trip like the OP). So that’s why I assumed you must stink if you travel with no clean clothes.

Congratulations on your air miles!

I would assume that for £40 flights that it’s just an underseat bag. But for two nights when it’s going to be warm, that’s probably OK. And I’m not even a light packer.

SpainToday · 25/02/2026 14:54

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane

Me neither. Its not the end of the world (or a sign of failure) to take a suitcase!

notacooldad · 25/02/2026 14:49

I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane
Let me introduce myself!
I have it down to fine art by using a 35l rucksack that fits under the seat!
3 days is no time!

Shinyhappyapple · 25/02/2026 14:45

SpringingUpAgain · 25/02/2026 11:19

You'd have a separate credit card that's paid out of the joint account for presents etc. A trusting couple that are both sensible with money would not question what each one is spending on the joint. I'm not saying it's for everyone but it is fairly common.

Thank you . Yes, that’s how it works.

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 14:25

Airport hotel on the Friday night plus 2x breakfast is another, what, £35 a head each, at least (assuming premier inn and not “nice meal and drinks” hotel)

Which is fine, but all the spends like that (along with maybe adding a joint cabin bag, airport parking etc) make the bargain flights a bit less bargainous.

MyMilchick · 25/02/2026 14:22

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 25/02/2026 12:19

Exactly! And I would relish the chance for a nice meal and some cocktails in the evening, then a relax in the sunshine for a few hours and a nice walk. Feeling the sun on my face, especially after the cold, wet shite we are being subjected to here in the UK at the moment. Even on the flight I would relax with a book and my favourite snacks. What a lovely weekend. 😊

a book, my favourite snacks and glass of red :p

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 13:58

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 12:58

Congratulations. I’m assuming you didn’t fly on a small budget airline? Because those planes hardly have any room for your feet never mind your feet and a bag to put a couple of outfits and toiletries in.

Not sure what your issue is tbh 🤣🤣

I generally start my trips on Ryanair so yes. It's much cheaper to take long haul flights outside the UK. I'm 5ft 6 and have plenty of room

2026IsMyYear · 25/02/2026 13:37

I think you're being a bit miserable @inkyspells!

In your shoes i would book an airport hotel on the friday night & head there after work for a nice meal & some relaxed drinks & decent breakfast there before you leave.

V leisurely saunter through the airport with v little luggage, nice glass of bubbles & a browse in duty free

I'd have done all the research in advance for nicest places for dinner & drinks once we arrive.

Fun day Sunday - whatever you're into - beach / pool / walk / water sports / sleep etc etc

Again i'd have a plan for Sunday night witj a booking

I do a lot of city breaks & love planning them. Admittedly Gran Canaria is not my thing but i'm sure a good time can be had ...with the right attitude!

Shinyhappyapple · 25/02/2026 13:33

SpringingUpAgain · 25/02/2026 11:19

You'd have a separate credit card that's paid out of the joint account for presents etc. A trusting couple that are both sensible with money would not question what each one is spending on the joint. I'm not saying it's for everyone but it is fairly common.

Thank you. That’s what we do. We’ve been married 30 years, had a joint account since I went on maternity leave.

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 13:25

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:06

Hiya 😆

Nice! Well, I wouldn’t dream of trying to shove clothes and toiletries into a small under-the-seat bag for a three day trip. I don’t know how it would all fit.

Rolling them and packing cubes

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NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 13:18

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:14

Fascinating!

I’d probably pack more than 2 pairs of clean knickers though myself. I need a fresh pair for the third day/travel day. And aswell if you’re not taking a bikini or swimwear -I like a fresh pair of knickers in the daytime and a fresh pair in the evening.

I'm quite sure if I could fit a dress or pair of trousers I can also fit a pair of knickers. But I wouldn't need to get changed for the evening so a clean pair for each day is fine for me.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:14

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 13:07

Normal sized bag. 2 pairs of clean knickers and socks, 2 clean tshirts. Mini deodorant, toothbrush, mini toothpaste, face wash decanted into a tiny pot, mini moisturiser, tinted serum in a tiny pot, lip balm, charger and keys. My passport and phone are in my pocket and my kindle goes in a back compartment of my bag, or can fit wasily in my jacket pocket.

I'd have plenty of space for a dress or another pair of trousers if I wanted.

If I'm doing an express day trip I don't bother with a bag at all.

My bag fits under any plane seat without needing to manoeuvre it.

Fascinating!

I’d probably pack more than 2 pairs of clean knickers though myself. I need a fresh pair for the third day/travel day. And aswell if you’re not taking a bikini or swimwear -I like a fresh pair of knickers in the daytime and a fresh pair in the evening.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:09

Thechaseison71 · 25/02/2026 12:55

So the clothes are no good to wear again after 4 hours wear of an evening?

You much use lots of washing powder

I don’t know about your holidays but I’m definitely out for more than 4 hours in the evening.

If I’m going on holiday I want to wear fresh clothes for each day and night.

I probably use the same amount of washing powder as the average person. I get it from Lidl so I’m hardly breaking the bank. Smells gorgeous too.

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 13:07

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:01

Wow how big’s your handbag to fit in 3 days worth of stuff for a weekend trip abroad? Crazy work there Mary Poppins 🤣

An under seat bag is absolutely classed as luggage by the way.

Normal sized bag. 2 pairs of clean knickers and socks, 2 clean tshirts. Mini deodorant, toothbrush, mini toothpaste, face wash decanted into a tiny pot, mini moisturiser, tinted serum in a tiny pot, lip balm, charger and keys. My passport and phone are in my pocket and my kindle goes in a back compartment of my bag, or can fit wasily in my jacket pocket.

I'd have plenty of space for a dress or another pair of trousers if I wanted.

If I'm doing an express day trip I don't bother with a bag at all.

My bag fits under any plane seat without needing to manoeuvre it.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:06

Highstool · 25/02/2026 12:55

Hello 🙂 I do it very regularly. I wouldn't dream of paying for a large cabin bag for a three day trip. I don't know what you'd put in it.

You travel in something warmish when you leave UK, and pack 2 days clean underwear, a couple of tops, pair of shorts, swim suit, for me, some runnign kit, a dress if you like, and flip flops. What else?

I'm just back from a week in Spain with DH. We only paid for one large cabin bag between us and tbh would have probably managed without. It was only because we were racing while there and wanted to take race shoes.

Hiya 😆

Nice! Well, I wouldn’t dream of trying to shove clothes and toiletries into a small under-the-seat bag for a three day trip. I don’t know how it would all fit.

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 13:05

The “personal item” size is 20cm x 30cm x 40cm. That’s pretty small.

(Again, OP hasn’t mentioned luggage. But it’s not unreasonable if someone’s idea of a nice time away is being able to take more than the bare minimum of clothes, if they want a few outfits, makeup, tablet to watch a film, couple of books etc, that’s fine If they went to the Lakes, the kitchen sink could go in 😀)

Highstool · 25/02/2026 13:04

Harrietsaunt · 25/02/2026 13:00

So you did take luggage…

I was responding to a poster who said "I don’t know anyone who can get away with packing 3 days clean clothes and toiletries into a carrier bag that can fit under the seat of a budget airline plane."

Which is actually very easy to do.

ImFinePMSL · 25/02/2026 13:01

NoSoupForU · 25/02/2026 12:55

No. I can fit all of that in a handbag which fits easily under my seat. It's no more "luggage" than I take into the office or that I carry when I go shopping.

I don't need to make any provision for it when I travel, thus it is not luggage.

Wow how big’s your handbag to fit in 3 days worth of stuff for a weekend trip abroad? Crazy work there Mary Poppins 🤣

An under seat bag is absolutely classed as luggage by the way.

Harrietsaunt · 25/02/2026 13:00

Highstool · 25/02/2026 12:55

Hello 🙂 I do it very regularly. I wouldn't dream of paying for a large cabin bag for a three day trip. I don't know what you'd put in it.

You travel in something warmish when you leave UK, and pack 2 days clean underwear, a couple of tops, pair of shorts, swim suit, for me, some runnign kit, a dress if you like, and flip flops. What else?

I'm just back from a week in Spain with DH. We only paid for one large cabin bag between us and tbh would have probably managed without. It was only because we were racing while there and wanted to take race shoes.

So you did take luggage…

SheilaFentiman · 25/02/2026 13:00

Anonanonanonagain · 25/02/2026 12:59

Let us know when he has dumped you and pass on my contact details thanks.

Wow, another lovely.

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