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Weirdo and now feeling anxious

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Anxiousq · 24/02/2026 12:10

As I was entering my workplace a guy stopped me to speak to me he seemed pleasant at first I thought maybe he was asking for directions or just being friendly.

He said he knows my workplace very well and asked what department I work in and what my name is. I felt a little weirded out by him but didn’t want to be rude so told him. I make my way to enter the building he stopped me again and kept talking. I said I need to get going but he continued. He said he’d like to come in and do a talk I told him to email them or call and I can’t help him. He then said my name and said “it was lovely to meet you and I’ll tell them you recommended me to come in and do a talk”.

I feel so annoyed I didn’t just ignore him but also I suffer from anxiety so I am overthinking this massively. I’m very new to the job and feel really awkward this weirdo is going to say he knows me and I’ve told him to come and do a presentation!

please talk me down from this. Yes I know in the future just walk on and don’t give real name etc.

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Bobbyelvis4ever · 24/02/2026 12:43

If you don’t want to speak to your line manager (and as a manager of many years, I’d be sorely disappointed in myself if any of my team didn’t feel that they could), then please try either HR or security.

Or ask a colleague at the same level for advice on where the organisation would like weird happenings reported.

Please don’t just sit and worry about it. A man made you feel uncomfortable with his actions. He was in the wrong, not you.

RumbleHoney · 24/02/2026 12:20

Anxiousq · 24/02/2026 12:10

As I was entering my workplace a guy stopped me to speak to me he seemed pleasant at first I thought maybe he was asking for directions or just being friendly.

He said he knows my workplace very well and asked what department I work in and what my name is. I felt a little weirded out by him but didn’t want to be rude so told him. I make my way to enter the building he stopped me again and kept talking. I said I need to get going but he continued. He said he’d like to come in and do a talk I told him to email them or call and I can’t help him. He then said my name and said “it was lovely to meet you and I’ll tell them you recommended me to come in and do a talk”.

I feel so annoyed I didn’t just ignore him but also I suffer from anxiety so I am overthinking this massively. I’m very new to the job and feel really awkward this weirdo is going to say he knows me and I’ve told him to come and do a presentation!

please talk me down from this. Yes I know in the future just walk on and don’t give real name etc.

“I felt a little weirded out by him but didn’t want to be rude so told him.”

Always prioritise your safety over politeness and managing someone’s feelings.
Women are socialised to be agreeable and accommodating so I get that it’s easier said than done!

Anxiousq · 24/02/2026 12:20

Bertiebiscuit · 24/02/2026 12:19

I'm sorry he did that to you, sounds extremely creepy at the very least. The problem for women as I see it is that when a man is making us afraid to us we usually panic because experience has taught us we just can't predict what he will do next and how dangerous he is. In such situations i always think "i wish i had said /hadn't said......" as if there is a magic thing to say or do that will make me safe from them, and if course there isnt. We just try to get out of the situation whatever it costs. If he makes any kind of attempt to contact you, or to talk about you to anyone else explain that he scared you and is now stalking you - report to police or phone National Stalking Helpline, they can give you good advice. Try not to blame yourself.

Thank you. I did feel he kept stopping me from leaving but I know I could just have walked past him, thank you for understanding

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Olderandwiserpossibly · 24/02/2026 12:19

I think even if you are reluctant to bring yourself to anyone's attention you really need to mention this to your line manager. To cover yourself.
There is the potential for this to cause problems for you at a later date and it's really much better to cover yourself just in case.
I'm sorry this experience happened to you OP.

Anxiousq · 24/02/2026 12:19

I’m just in a very emotional mindset right now and I’m holding it together. I just want to do my job and go home. My job isn’t very stressful if I’m being honest it’s actually quite peaceful especially as I’m left to get in with things which I prefer

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Bertiebiscuit · 24/02/2026 12:19

I'm sorry he did that to you, sounds extremely creepy at the very least. The problem for women as I see it is that when a man is making us afraid to us we usually panic because experience has taught us we just can't predict what he will do next and how dangerous he is. In such situations i always think "i wish i had said /hadn't said......" as if there is a magic thing to say or do that will make me safe from them, and if course there isnt. We just try to get out of the situation whatever it costs. If he makes any kind of attempt to contact you, or to talk about you to anyone else explain that he scared you and is now stalking you - report to police or phone National Stalking Helpline, they can give you good advice. Try not to blame yourself.

Anxiousq · 24/02/2026 12:15

drusilla49 · 24/02/2026 12:11

I would just mention it to my line manager, so if he does contact the company under the pretext of you agreeing to it, then it’s on record that you didn’t.

Thank you but truthfully I’m trying to stay under the radar right now as I had an awful experience in my last job when I returned from maternity leave. I just want to do my job and not really have any conversations with line management right now. I know that might sound strange but my last place was so toxic that I just want minimum to do with anyone. Without being too identifiable my job doesn’t require me to talk to colleagues and I see line manager very little apart from occasionally say hi to when we cross paths

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drusilla49 · 24/02/2026 12:11

I would just mention it to my line manager, so if he does contact the company under the pretext of you agreeing to it, then it’s on record that you didn’t.