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To have said something to ex?

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Oliverloverr · 24/02/2026 11:57

So ex see’s our 2 DC every other weekend. The kids have started to get upset due to the length of time between visits to their dads so I raised the issue with him and he said he would get back to me on it. My daughter (9) came home from
her dads this weekend really upset and just said she didn’t want to say bye to her dad, why couldn’t he just keep them for an extra few hours? He bought her a gift explaining how much he loved her and told her to hug it when she kissed him (in my
opinion it is all bollocks as actions speak louder than words). If he really missed them he would attempt to see them more, he is just a Disney dad.

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Oliverloverr · 24/02/2026 12:17

He used to see them 2 days in the week but we agreed it would be better for every other weekend as he would get 2 full days with them rather than them being at school

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Rizzz · 24/02/2026 12:17

He hates you, hates your mother and won't tell you where he lives.

Why?

You say 'for some reason' but you must know, surely?

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Oliverloverr · 24/02/2026 12:16

ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/02/2026 12:15

Whose idea was every other weekend? With his hours is it viable for him to have them more without telling you where he lives? How long have you been separated?

We have been split now for around 18 months. My point is he could see them more if he really wanted to.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/02/2026 12:15

Whose idea was every other weekend? With his hours is it viable for him to have them more without telling you where he lives? How long have you been separated?

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Oliverloverr · 24/02/2026 12:13

ColdAsAWitches · 24/02/2026 12:06

Nowhere near enough information. How far away does he live, is it court ordered, what are his working hours, and yes, how have you both behaved during all this? Have you stopped him seeing her any times, do you refuse to do any transportation? As I said, far too many variables for a clear-cut answer here.

It isn’t court ordered no, I have also never ever stopped him from Seeing them.

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Oliverloverr · 24/02/2026 12:12

He literally hates me for whatever reason. I am blocked, my mother is blocked, I don’t really have any way of contacting him unless he calls me.

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Oliverloverr · 24/02/2026 12:10

randomchap · 24/02/2026 12:06

How is your co-parenting relationship with him? Would you be happy for him to have them more? Logistically is this possible? IE, does he live near enough to have them on a school night.

Are you able to have a productive conversation with him about it? If he had them more nights, you might lose some CMS payments, is that going to affect you?

He doesn’t Live too far away and works really long hours. I am absolutely happy for him to have them more (even 50%) I would happily do the transport but he refuses to tell me where he lives. I would even help him out if it meant he saw them more.

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randomchap · 24/02/2026 12:06

How is your co-parenting relationship with him? Would you be happy for him to have them more? Logistically is this possible? IE, does he live near enough to have them on a school night.

Are you able to have a productive conversation with him about it? If he had them more nights, you might lose some CMS payments, is that going to affect you?

ColdAsAWitches · 24/02/2026 12:06

Nowhere near enough information. How far away does he live, is it court ordered, what are his working hours, and yes, how have you both behaved during all this? Have you stopped him seeing her any times, do you refuse to do any transportation? As I said, far too many variables for a clear-cut answer here.