Would you like these work hours?

You earn the same for about 1/4 the hours of a FT position. Well yes, I’d do that.
Why are you asking?
If it works for you then do it.

I think it’s worth it

1. every weekend off
2. every morning with your children
3. able to do all school/nursey pick ups
4. mornings off
5. one full weekday off per week

sounds good, especially if getting the same wage as full time hours

@Ontheroadtonowheregood the fact you only live 10 minutes away and can still pick your DC up from school makes it a potential solution for now. Is it a perfect work schedule - no. Does it work with DC and bring in an income - yes.

I appreciate it’s 3 bedtimes you miss but you are there for 4 bedtimes a week. You are also there to pick up DC from school 5 days a week. The worst but is the two days with two sessions as you will feel rushed.

You are not signing up to this schedule for 20+ years, try it out and see if it works. If not then look for something else.

Well if I was earning a regular hourly wage then I'd hate those hours but you get paid the same as you'd get for 40 hours for 11 so the pay would compensate. You're out of the house for a couple of hours 3 evenings a week which is what many parents do just for a hobby after full time work. I really don't see any reason for guilt.

I would rather do this than a full time job 9-5 especially as it makes the same amount and you get to do all drop offs and pick ups and DC is able to be home after school not in childcare (not that childcare is awful, it's just a bonus for them to be at home and decompress after the school day, have time to do reading/homework etc). It also means you can do dinner prep, cleaning etc during the day so that you're free to do activities etc on the weekend and in the evenings.

Yes, good.
Personally it work for me.

This - although a lot of people were being deliberately obtuse - this would have been a lot clearer.

In your circumstances OP, this sounds perfect. Your kids get to see mom work, you still get loads of free time without losing out on salary and you are still there in the holidays, mornings, weekends and two evenings a week.

The other three you get to (hopefully) come home to fed and bathed children who are ready for their bed time story!

Yeah. As long as he's one of the good ones that actually does that stuff.

When my DC were small I worked as a carer. I did school pick up every day but a couple of nights I'd have to go back out from 6 til 10. I also worked a whole day (7am-10pm) every other weekend. It wasn't the best (had been working daily 9:30-2:30 prior until made redundant, needed to do more hours caring to bring in the same amount).

Can you still do school pick up if you finish at 3? Also primary covers a big range of needs - mine were going to bed at 8 by year 5 iirc so you'd still be back in time for bedtime.

If I could get by on working 9.5 hours a week (alongside DHs income) I'd want those hours to all fall inside school hours I think. It's too much faff around early evening/dinner time for not enough total hours (unless the hourly rate is astronomical).

EDIT: have read OPs updates re earning similar to a ft wage. I'm still not convinced I'd want to be working over dinner time tbh.

Sounds perfect to me @Ontheroadtonowheregood .
Dc are with a parent every evening. Dad can cook/homework etc when you're at work.

My DC are grown up now but I had PT jobs when they were young, one that was after school for a few hours daily and it was fine.

Your DC will be with their dad and if it's good money and something you enjoy doing then that's a bonus, it's only just over 5.5 hours where you'll be away from your DC during the whole week.

You'll also have school holidays off, which seem to come round so quickly now, where you can spend time with your DC doing nice things now the days are stretching out a bit.

Sounds good to me. Still able to do pickup/drop-off and spend time with kids. Probably more time since you'd not be squeezing housework into evenings and weekends.

God me too!

It would have been so much easier if OP had said something like:

"I have a skill and vocation (music). Working in this for about 12 hours a week would bring earn about the same as a 9-5 minimum wage job. Hours are split across 4 days such that I could do all school drop offs and pick ups, and have time for other activities - hobbies, dog walking, housework in the mornings while dc were at school. The downside is that 3 of the days involve a couple of hours of evening work and I would miss teatime, homework and bedtime on those days. Dh is home early enough to do all of those, but I don't want to miss important time with dc while they are young." (adjusted to suit).

In which case my answer would be - sounds perfect for a work life balance. Your dc get to spend dedicated time with their dfather, you are persuing a vocation where you might be able to increase hours as dc get older.

I’d sooner work 1 x 12 hour night shift a week, that’s lots of very short shifts.

I think you’d better off just doing 10-4 one day using after school club, then 10-3 . 11 hours in total. This means when you are at work you are fully there and when you are home you are fully present not worrying about work. Context switching is a real killer for productivity.

With Your pattern no one will understand your hours and will expect things of you when you are not there.

You have to think of school holidays . With your pattern you’ll be paying for 5 days of holiday club and missing fun days out etc.

I think that's fine. You will be out and therefore unavailable to see your DC three evenings a week. That still leaves the majority of evenings, plus the weekend (or possibly minus two hours of the weekend). Presumably too, you would be able to get most of your life admin / housework / personal hobbies out the way whilst your DC was at school? So then you could have plenty of quality time with them when you were together!

You won't get many sensible answers on MN though. So many bitter people, saying to work every hour God sends and be a martyr For Reasons. Either brainwashed or jealous (or both). Enjoy the set up you have, it sounds perfect to me.

Well if you need the money, you work the hours. Ideally every person should have money of their own. Would have helped if you didn't was tutoring or teaching.

Doesnt matter if its likeable or not.

Also, I find it majorly irritating when people post really vague questions with no context and then come back and answer in abrubt, short sentences.

Why not just give the context from the start, OP? It would probably help people understand the situation a bit more and answer based on that.

Based on your update, I do think YABU. You work, what, 9.5 hours or so a week and are unhappy that it takes time away from your children? So, stop working then, or don’t. What do you actually want?

If that’s your worry then that’s a bit different. People are getting caught up in the bitty shifts.
I work 3 evenings a week and Saturday with primary/nursery kids (I also work the days on those weekday evenings, I’m not sat at home while my kids are at school although that sounds dreamy). Yeah it’s not ideal but the payoff is that I LOVE my job and the money while not great bumps our income up enough to make a big difference. And DH sees the kids more/more intensely than he did before so that’s good.

That sounds like a lovely job.

It seems like your only issue is feeling guilty about the time away from your children and no one else can answer that for you. It's just up to you whether it's worth it.

Makes sense. In that case I think you’ve done well to constrain it to just those out-of-school hours!
Is your OH ok with it - is he making you feel guilty? Anyone else?

I don’t really understand the point of this post. You asked if people would like these hours, most people have said no for very valid reasons, but you keep coming back and saying why these hours suit you better.

If you’re happy with the hours then what’s the issue?

If i got my full time salary for those hours, bring it on.