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So, how is it actually possible for our adult kids to ever move out of home?

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cateringday · 24/02/2026 11:00

I’m imagining it’s the same for a lot of people.
two kids 20 and 18, they both actually have £10000 in the bank as an inheritance but can’t see how they would ever get enough for a deposit or pay a mortgage. If they rent then all that money will be gone anyway.

how old are kids leaving home these days

we live in the south east

OP posts:
Octavia64 · 24/02/2026 11:07

I’m south east.

I downsized at least partially to give my two a house deposit.

stargirl27 · 24/02/2026 11:06

cateringday · 24/02/2026 11:00

I’m imagining it’s the same for a lot of people.
two kids 20 and 18, they both actually have £10000 in the bank as an inheritance but can’t see how they would ever get enough for a deposit or pay a mortgage. If they rent then all that money will be gone anyway.

how old are kids leaving home these days

we live in the south east

Are they working? DP and I always worked, whilst at uni and afterwards, which we needed for our rent.

stargirl27 · 24/02/2026 11:06

I also live in the South East. I moved out at 18 for uni and rented, then back in with my parents at 24 whilst I was in law school, then purchased a flat with my partner at 26. I received a similar amount as your children as an inheritance but the majority of the deposit came from his savings. We're both lucky to be fairly high earners, DP in particular.

My siblings both moved out at around 30 but didn't have partners to purchase with.

I am a family solicitor and the majority of the divorcing couples I work with seem to have children in their early - mid 20s still living at home. I think it is really difficult to move out as a young adult, particularly in the South East.