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To let two 17 year olds stay in a hotel in London on their own

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Susieblue18 · 23/02/2026 20:28

My son wants to go to an event at the O2 arena in March with a friend. They will be almost 17 but hotels are saying they can’t stay without an over 18 present. I even checked with St Christopher’s hostel and they’re the same, even with a room for 2. I know some of the premier Inns and travelodges are self check in, are they likely to get away with this? I phoned a couple of hotels but they’re said they will ask for ID.

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Franjipanl8r · 23/02/2026 21:38

It’s to stop child trafficking and child exploitation among other things, it’s nothing to do with how sensible 16 year olds are or aren’t.

Franjipanl8r · 23/02/2026 21:35

All budget accommodation in London asks for passport or driving license ID for check ins. They won’t be able to lie.

Spidey66 · 23/02/2026 21:31

Can’t you go with them to stay in the hotel? They can order a twin room while you (on your own or with your partner/a friend/your mum) book another and go see the sights or a show or something?

Frannyhy · 23/02/2026 21:25

Forgot to say that Airbnb don’t allow third party bookings although many hosts will accept them. Just be aware if there is a problem Airbnb won’t help.

sillistudi · 23/02/2026 21:23

Most airb&b don’t allow under 18s either.. they too have insurance that prevents it.

Frannyhy · 23/02/2026 21:23

Airbnb doesn’t allow under 18s to stay unaccompanied although some hosts might take them with a deposit. They are not supposed to this.

if the host retains the money claiming that damage has been done, you may find it very hard to get it back.

ComtesseDeSpair · 23/02/2026 21:21

Londonrach1 · 23/02/2026 21:15

Yha is probably better for 16 year olds as they don't risk having their accommodation refused. It's daft it's over 18 but I wouldn't risk it

It isn’t daft from the perspective of a business which doesn’t want to be in the position of having to safeguard unaccompanied minors, particularly young and possibly naive teens in an unfamiliar city who can get themselves into all sorts of trouble, from underage drinking, to medical emergencies, to just being “befriended” by some older teens or adults at the concert who suggest going back to their hotel room to continue the “fun.”

MontgomeryClift · 23/02/2026 21:18

Definitely try AirBnB. I’ve done this for my DC at same age. Booked it then messaged to explain who it was for.

Londonrach1 · 23/02/2026 21:15

Yha is probably better for 16 year olds as they don't risk having their accommodation refused. It's daft it's over 18 but I wouldn't risk it

SargeMarge · 23/02/2026 21:14

Susieblue18 · 23/02/2026 20:48

I hadn’t actually considered this would be an issue. It seems bizarre that you can get married in Scotland at 16 but can’t stay in a hotel!

That’s government policy. Hotels are private businesses and don’t want to be responsible for under 18s. It just opens them up to dealing with underage drinking, or issues where no one is actually available who can give consent (medical help etc). And they aren’t considered adults so hotels don’t want to deal with them without an adult present.

It has nothing to do with voting age, marriage age, driving age.

You’d be an idiot to try it. An adult is going to have to go and stay in the hotel that night with them.

Greengagesnfennel · 23/02/2026 21:14

yha As others have said. That is what you need.

it was literally set up to be a safe place for young people to stay. Allowed alone from 16.

RedRiverShore6 · 23/02/2026 21:13

I would look at the Youth Hostel rules, hopefully they will be ok for 16 year olds, I certainly wouldn't risk them not getting into a hotel in London. Could they just get a train home instead if not.

RosesAndHellebores · 23/02/2026 21:13

They will be askednfor id and not allowed to stay. Either you book a room also sonthere's an adult in charge, or you go the yha route. Might be worth trying uni halls - some let in the holidays.

whatsupwhatsup · 23/02/2026 21:12

How about an Airbnb?

mullers1977 · 23/02/2026 21:12

Maybe ask an Airbnb locally and offer to leave a deposit

SargeMarge · 23/02/2026 21:11

Susieblue18 · 23/02/2026 20:42

@SargeMargenot lying 🤔, my son will be 17 two days later, so yes, almost 17!

So 16 then. Your thread title says “two 17 year olds.”

They’re 16. They won’t get away with it.

Alwaysontherun · 23/02/2026 21:10

It’s very likely they will ask for ID. My daughter studied in London from she was a 16 coming 17 and we had a lot of problems finding accomodation that would allow her to live there. Even now, at 20, she gets asked for ID when staying in a hotel even using self check in as there is nearly always staff hanging around

SellFridges · 23/02/2026 21:10

I’d probably risk a Premier Inn with a back up plan. Make sure you pay in advance and do the check in ahead of time so they only need to collect the key from one of the machines.

DH took DD and a mate to a gig last year and he had one room and they had another. Not technically allowed as they are under 16 but nobody even queried it.

stichguru · 23/02/2026 21:10

Expect them to get ID and not be allowed to stay. The hotels will probably need different insurance, and there is the issue of lability. The reality is you either need to risk them going down a really criminal route of fake IDs and stuff, or you end up with teens stuck wandering the streets in London at night. Both those options are seriously bad!

DisappearingGirl · 23/02/2026 21:09

This happened to two sensible 17 year olds I know - got to the hotel after a gig and weren't allowed to stay.

BakedAl · 23/02/2026 21:08

Mustreadabook · 23/02/2026 21:04

YHA Thameside is the closest

I have stayed here before with my family and it was fine.

KeepOffTheQuinoa · 23/02/2026 21:08

YHA Youth Hostels.

There are several in London

QuietLifeNoDrama · 23/02/2026 21:06

Personally I don’t think it’s worth the risk. If they get asked for ID which they likely will if they look anywhere near 18 they’re going to be stuck in London for the night with nowhere to go.

rookiemere · 23/02/2026 21:06

What about the London YHA you might be ok to be over 16 there and they have private rooms.

Birdsongisangry · 23/02/2026 21:04

Every time I've used a Premier Inn self check in, there's been a staff member stood somewhere nearby overseeing it, a bit like how it works at the supermarket self check outs. They'll definitely be asked for ID, and the hotel are within their rights to cancel the booking. Not worth risking as they'll be stranded.
As well as possible safeguarding issues, the U18 can't be held liable for any costs/damage as they're not old enough to agree the contract with the hotel, so it would be daft for the hotel to accept them.