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To want to give new neighbours a card?

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CocoBean22 · 23/02/2026 15:50

New neighbours next door to us have moved in this week and I thought it might be a nice gesture to post a card through their door in a few days/week to say welcome and introduce ourselves.
Im quite a friendly person so I would be touched if someone did this for me, however I understand day and not everyone is like that and it may be weird?
What do you think?
Would you think it was nice to receive a card when moving in or weird?

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AppropriateAdult · 23/02/2026 22:12

Honestly, anyone who would see a welcome card dropped through the door as ‘intrusive’ needs to give their head a wobble…

MsCrawford · 23/02/2026 19:40

Totally normal thing to do and really nice - our neighbours did that when we moved in- plus handy to learn names

Blorengia · 23/02/2026 19:27

I've done this in the past: Just a simple 'Welcome' card with our first names (and surname in brackets) and house number, and something like 'Do call at our door if we can help with anything'.

TittyGajillions · 23/02/2026 19:26

New neighbours? Why aren't you behind your sofa hiding?

andanotherproblem · 23/02/2026 19:25

I moved here last January and was actually rather annoyed no one did this, nor introduced themselves with it being such a small cup de sac, after living here a year I think I’ve spoke to the neighbours maybe twice, baffles me how people don’t want to be friendly with their neighbours, think I was hoping for desperate housewives vibes haha.

JustGiveMeReason · 23/02/2026 19:22

MakeYourOwnSunshine · 23/02/2026 19:18

Now that is weird. Some people project so much of their own thoughts and feelings onto others. What if you'd had dietary requirements? Had she never heard of takeaways?

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She didn't force it down their throats.

If none of the family could eat it (unlikely) then they could say so at the door "Oh, that is such a nice gesture, unfortunately we are all gluten free and allergic to onions, but it was lovely of you to think of us" or take it graciously and dispose of it quietly.

Not weird at all.

MakeYourOwnSunshine · 23/02/2026 19:18

Ilovepastafortea · 23/02/2026 17:44

A card is a lovely idea.

When we moved into our home about 4 years ago not only did we get several cards from neighbours, we had neighbours knocking on the door offering tea/coffee & help unpacking boxes. Our next door neighbour brought around a homemade casserole with homemade bread as she thought we would appreciate a proper meal after moving & wouldn't have time or energy to prepare one.

Now that is weird. Some people project so much of their own thoughts and feelings onto others. What if you'd had dietary requirements? Had she never heard of takeaways?

Savoretti · 23/02/2026 19:04

I think do it soon if you are going to. In a few weeks would be really odd

thetinsoldier · 23/02/2026 19:02

No, it’s a completely normal thing to do.

SENhelp50 · 23/02/2026 18:27

There are many ifs and maybes.

It's a lovely gesture - yet, now I'm older, never would I do this and I would never want to receive either.

Do you live in social housing like I do? Then absolutely don't do this. The CF social behaviour on these housing areas is off the scale and any sign you're kind, people pleaser type and you'll be taken advantage of

If you're in a relatively ok area then it's a nice gesture. But why are you doing it? Maybe it's best to just let things develop naturally. You will get to know each other in good time. I do agree that for some, a card could feel intrusive.

I'm naturally very outgoing, friendly and confident. Yet, I'd think ' please fuck off ' over a card like this. If we bumped into each other naturally and got chatting, that's totally different and I'd be ok with that on my terms.

DinoLil · 23/02/2026 18:16

That would be lovely.

Underthegreenwoodtrees · 23/02/2026 18:12

All our new neighbours welcomed us this way when we moved last year. Bonus for them that we invited them all for pre Christmas drinks, which in turn meant we were then invited to them for the same. And now we have a lovely circle of neighbours for socialising!!

Rewis · 23/02/2026 17:52

Go for it. Not something I've ever done or has ever done to me. But I feel like the type of people who would take it the wrong way would be the type of people who get offended by everything. Assuming it is a generic welcome to neighbourhood and not some weird pressure to invite you for bbq.

Samewrinklesnewname · 23/02/2026 17:50

RollOnSunshine · 23/02/2026 16:09

it's a terrible idea and creepy/intrusive etc

I’m intrigued as to why you see it like that?

JustGiveMeReason · 23/02/2026 17:47

Not sure how to vote as

YWNBU to put a card through - that really is a very normal thing to do

YABU to be overthinking it so much that you need to consult the internet as to if it is okay to do this. See point above about it being a really normal thing to do.

Ilovepastafortea · 23/02/2026 17:44

A card is a lovely idea.

When we moved into our home about 4 years ago not only did we get several cards from neighbours, we had neighbours knocking on the door offering tea/coffee & help unpacking boxes. Our next door neighbour brought around a homemade casserole with homemade bread as she thought we would appreciate a proper meal after moving & wouldn't have time or energy to prepare one.

Duckiewasthefirstniceguy · 23/02/2026 17:41

Depends on where you live. When we lived in a flat in central London, it would have been considered a bit odd. Now we live on a really friendly suburban street and it’s very much the norm. We also do Christmas cards. It’s nice. 🙂

RudePie · 23/02/2026 17:38

Definitely don't do this. They will automatically assume that you are "sex people" and will be straight round to drop their car keys in your fruit bowl.

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CocoBean22 · 23/02/2026 17:07

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 23/02/2026 16:26

I think if you send them a new home card from x and y at no. 23 then that's nice.

If you send an essay offering to water the cat and feed the plants if they go away, promising help with gardening, telling them when and where to put the bins out and to avoid Beryl at no42 because she's got an ASBO for coming home drunk from the bingo then that would be a bit much.

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Miranda65 · 23/02/2026 16:54

I would find it way too pushy, not to mention a bit creepy.
But where I live, hanging out with neighbours isn't really A Thing.

Mydogisagentleman · 23/02/2026 16:52

We've had 3 new neighbours in 10 years. I've put a card through and given the latest a bottle of Prosecco.
Unfortunately they are Muslim. The man was very gracious and gave it back.

365RubyRed · 23/02/2026 16:48

It's a friendly and welcoming thing to do, and perfectly normal where I live. Only on Mumsnet are neighbours the enemy.

CinnamonBuns67 · 23/02/2026 16:33

I think that would be lovely, I'd have loved it if my neighbours did that.

BillieWiper · 23/02/2026 16:31

In my area that would be seen as kind of intrusive. I think. I'd probably more just organically bump into them and say hi, then start a chat and hopefully become friendly.

But the worst the card recipient can do is bin it. It just might seem awkward for you to see them if they do ignore the card. As you then might be unsure if they were hostile or just not fussed.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 23/02/2026 16:27

Lovely idea. I'd be very pleased if someone did that. It's a nice ice breaker.
We are moving later this year into a small village and now if I don't receive cards I shall be very disappointed! 😂

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