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To wonder if mum friends are not always real friends

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Wherethehellismyhusbandsongstuckinmyhead · 22/02/2026 21:34

Are they all just about convenience?

Had what I thought was a fairly solid set of mum friends, we’d talk about our relationships, kids grew up together, we did events altogether and then it gradually faded out. For me it was because my Dc was ill for a long time so I wasn’t able to meet up easily. People seem to have moved on with different mum friends, which I understand. It feels like the friendships had no real meaning and weren’t what I thought they were.
Various other friendship groups have been maintained throughout the years-school friends, uni friends, work friends

Just feels a bit sad, is it just for convenience and when the kids move on, the mums do too?

OP posts:
TheAmberKoala · Yesterday 13:56

I find some people really follow their kids and focus all their efforts on the family of whoever the kids are friends with.
Sometimes this happens with work or other friends too.

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