I am feeling increasingly annoyed at my mother and don't know if I am being unreasonable or not. For many years she used to pop over to see me and have a coffee on a Sunday afternoon but stopped doing so for a couple of years due to extrememental health issues. She decided last year that she was going to restart but without consulting me. Like has changed considerably in this time - I have doubled the hours work (now about 60 a week), my son commutes to a different city for college meaning early starts and long days we have some caring responsibilities for 2 older relatives (not full-time). It is no longer convenient as it is now the busiest part of the week which I have told her repeatedly and offered Sunday morning or Saturday instead. She refuses to come at other times or will come and then still want to come Sunday afternoon. Some Sundays she will chase me for hours or message me repeatedly asking if she can come, suggesting she won't stay long, will help me with my work etc sometimes over 10 times to the point I dread Sundays. I saw her yesterday instead and when she mentioned coming over this afternoon, I explained it wouldn't be convenient, my daughter came home from uni and we have had to go to the airport and pick my son up from a school trip. I was in the process of getting a quick tea when she walked in, unannounced and without knocking. She had her own key cut when house sitting without consulting us. I am at a loss and almost don't feel like my house is my own. I feel like actually telling her she isn't welcome at all if she can't respect my boundaries and changing the lock but don't know if this would be unreasonable. My husband thinks I should tolerate it.