Forgot to take my friend to her hospital appointment- how do I fix this!?

Do the big gesture and send a bouquet of flowers with a heartfelt sorry note… hopefully she’ll appreciate the sentiment. You can do no more. The ball is in her court.

I know some people are more forgetful than others, but I could not imagine arranging to take someone to hospital and then forget about it. It's a big thing, it would have been on my mind days before, I would have prepped the night before, confirmed plans etc.
So for that reason I would have a really hard time forgiving someone who forgot their promise to me. I'd feel like I was so way down on your list of priorities that I don't matter.

Maybe she'll come around to forgive you, but don't be surprised if the friendship completely cools off after this.

I don't think you should view at her silence as her punishing you. Sometimes when someone who you care about lets you down it's better to calm down and get some distance so that you don't say something unecessarily hurtful. I have been known to do that too, rather than act out in the moment.

You might be able to come back from this, but give her space and then let her know how sorry you are.

Do you not have a diary? I wouldn't trust myself to just remember appointments.

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Did she manage to get to her appointment or did she miss it because of you ? Was it a colposcopy or a colonoscopy ? If it was the latter she will have had to take a load of prep the day beforehand which is very unpleasant, both types of procedure are to look for abnormalities so I imagine she had had to awit for the appointment and would have been very anxious for a while about them. You added to that anxiety.
If you weren't able to prioritise her and her appointment you should not have offered.
I think the situation depends on whether she missed her appointment or not, if she managed to get to it, then give her space and when she's ready you can move on, she doen't want to discuss it with you at the moment because she is angry ith you, give her time. if she missed the appointment because of you then, don't be surprised if she withdraws. You let her down majorly.

Yeah I would give her space - you let her down big time

i think as much as you didn’t do it intentionally, this has probably had a huge impact on her. A colonoscopy is a really really unpleasant and scary experience, and the hospital needs to know who will be collecting you in order to allow you to be released. I can imagine that her having to scramble around last minute to try and find someone to get her there and pick her up was a huge stress at an already very stressful time. She is totally within her rights to feel hugely let down by this as it happened at a time when she really will have needed support. There is nothing you can do to change it now though, so give her lots of space and apologise sincerely when the time is appropriate.

It’s easy to forget things when the normal routine changes- half term and illness and gp visit. What was the plan for childcare if you had remembered?

The thing is, it’s not just an appointment it’s a health worry that will be unresolved for longer.

Could she have got at uber?

I think most people would be pissed off more so if they had no other way of getting there or say would have had to leave a good bit earlier to use public transport etc. However there is no need to punish you for a genuine mistake which it obviously was.

How was this not in your phone calendar, with an alarm to remind you?

You need to give her some space.

Just need to give her space and be prepared to loose the friendship over this, not sure how you would of forgotten to be honest. You obviously don’t think she’s very important.