Forgot to take my friend to her hospital appointment- how do I fix this!?

You have a sick child, of course that would be the priority.

She should have sent a reminder text that morning. That's what I do.

How did you forget something so important. That's unforgivable. I think if you were my friend that would be it for me. You clearly have too much on your plate to make a promise and then drop your friend and blame childcare without even considering her.

It's not like meeting fir s cuppa and last minute childcare causes a problem. That's easy to rearrange as long as you didn't make a habit out of being unreliable.

I would give your friend some space. In future, don't make promises for something so important thst you easily can forget. It's not fair on the other person.

Look.
We all make mistakes. We all f**k up, big time and small time.
To err is human, to forgive, divine.
If you have genuinely apologised, then let it go. Put it down.
Give it perhaps 3 months, and if she hasn’t contacted you, get in touch and invite her out for lunch or cocktails.
There are, sadly, people in our lives who will hold grudges for a lifetime - and you need to be prepared for that.
If your friend cannot find it in her heart to forgive this one error, then you must learn how to move forward in your life without her.
Tell her again how very sorry you are and then put it down.
Don’t carry this burden by yourself.
This is a lesson for you to never make a commitment to someone - anyone - without following through.
❤️

It would have been fine here as it was a colposcopy

It was a genuine mistake which she didn’t give you chance to fix.

Shes being a dick IMO.

I think the hospital usually advise that there's someone with the patient to get her home so ordering a cab wouldn't have been enough.

It was a mistake, it happens. Also your child was sick.

I wouldn’t hold it against you.

If only there was a way to read the OPs updates!

She now knows that OP was dealing with a sick child, so she had good reason to forget.

To err is human!

Leave it now, to err is human, we all do
it at times.

You can’t do anymore.

I’m another in the camp “you forgot, you’re human, these things happen”.

If I were your friend I’d have at least phoned or messaged you the morning of to make sure you were still available, not made it your sole responsibility!

Prioritising her child's breathing is actually more important IMO.

I totally agree with this . The replies are so over the top and dramatic . It’s a bit of a hurtful mistake but god it’s a slip up and friends are allowed to slip up! We don’t know if this lady is a good friend to OP or if it’s the OP doing all the caring - which to me is what it sounds a bit like.

She's thinking that as you forgot you didn't prioritise it. I would have been really annoyed too.

I've had both a colonoscopy (without sedative, but would advise people have one! Hurt like hell) and a gynae colposcopy where I ended up getting a small amount of treatment on the spot.

Neither are that big a deal, despite what OTT previous posters are claiming. She could certainly have put her big girl pants on and got a taxi.

You forgot, these things happen.

Send her a lovely bouquet of flowers with a heartfelt message if you're in a financial position to do so. You shouldn't feel this guilty but you have become her de facto family and I can imagine how alone she has realised she is when you forgot about her.

Least she can do really… haha

It wasn’t her responsability to remind you, because you discussed this well in advance, you agreed on taking her, staying with her, taking her home. And then you didn’t show up, although you promised! How can you even ásk if you’re being unreasonable???

Don't give yourself a hard time you have genuinely forgot and obviously your child was poorly.
I understand your friend felt put out but if I knew my friends child was poorly and solo parenting in half term I'd be understanding.
The good news is it all went fine.
Give her time but don't let her punish you for a genuine mistake .
We all make mistakes .

Op i think the least you can do to make up for this is put one of your kidneys on ice incase she needs it later on

I believe you that it was a genuine mistake. But you’re doing a lot of “but the kids”, “but half term”, which is a bit like you’re trying to justify letting her down. I have kids, but I know how tiresome this excuse sounds to single childless people.
She is single and going through a health scare and an unpleasant procedure and had you down as a better friend, no wonder she is sensitive. You, albeit absent-mindedly, let her down big time. I think you need to make sure you offer a very large heartfelt and sincere apology (don’t start the “I have kids chaos” blah blah justifying as that won’t help) and then make it clear that when she is ready you are here and want to make amends.

Shit happens and you had your own shit going on. You did what you could once you realised and she chose not to take you up on your offer of a lift. It was always a favour, not an obligation of duty. Sure it's annoying for her, but surely she can understand you had your hands full with a sick child.

Okay it wasn't a colonoscopy.

It was a genuine mistake as your DC was unwell, you have sincerely apologised there's not a lot more you can do.
If she is a real friend she should understand, it was not nice being let down but she could have checked with you on the day. She should not finish the friendship over that.

Honestly give yourself a break.
It's an honest mistake although I can imagine her panic and upset on the day.
When your child is ill everything goes out the window - not intentionally but out of sheer panic and worry for your child.
You've apologised. Maybe send a card with another apology and explanation. Then just give her space.