I have a friend who can be very supportive and kind when things are calm. However, when she’s stressed or something is going on in her life (which she doesn’t explain, I’m just assuming), she withdraws completely. No communication, no heads up, doesn’t turn up to plans arranged previously and doesn’t let me know, just silence.
This has happened more than once. When we eventually reconnect, she’s apologetic and emotional about not being around. Says she won’t do it again but the pattern repeats.
I’m at the point where I feel like I’m collateral damage whenever she’s under pressure. I don’t think it’s malicious but it’s exhausting.
AIBU to think that if someone can’t communicate under stress, that’s enough reason to step away?