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Husband leaves me a list of duties

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JanineCody · 22/02/2026 13:54

My husband of 18 years bought a little whiteboard a few weeks ago which goes on the fridge so you can write reminders for groceries etc on it but over the past week or so he's been leaving me a list of "duties" on it.

-(My name) "Pick up my suit from the dry cleaners."

-(My name) "Go to Supermarket and get those biscuits I like."

-(My name) " Iron my blue shirt for tomorrow."

-(My name) "Take chicken out of freezer to defrost."

AIBU for thinking I am not his slave?

OP posts:
pinkyredrose · 22/02/2026 13:58

I'd be writing myself a list on there. 1, see divorce lawyer, 2 book a solo holiday, 3, night out with the girls, 4, don't forget my favourite food and wine at the shop, 5, ballgag for husband etc.

MammaBear1 · 22/02/2026 13:56

Well he sounds insufferable! You aren’t his unpaid servant!

If my other half did this he might find a
huge cock and balls drawn on his whiteboard 🤣

Hide the marker pens.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 22/02/2026 13:56

and of course you are putting his ' duties ' on the whiteboard too ?!!!
i.e. put bins out
cook dinner on Monday

are you very forgetful ? or is he just bossy or even worse controlling

BruceAndNosh · 22/02/2026 13:56

Write DIY beside each task.
Make sure your marker is non erasable

Twinkylightsg · 22/02/2026 13:56

Just throw it in the bin.

HoskinsChoice · 22/02/2026 13:56

🤣🎣 Nice try but not subtle enough.

Sisandbro81 · 22/02/2026 13:55

So for 18 years he hasn’t done this.
What precipitated the purchase of the white board a couple of weeks ago?

Couldyounot · 22/02/2026 13:55

(His name) Take long walk off short pier

HearHareHere · 22/02/2026 13:55

(Husband’s name) ‘get to fuck’?

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 22/02/2026 13:55

I'd erase it and write fuck off. Without saying a word to him.

heartsinvisiblefury · 22/02/2026 13:55

I’d be writing a note back on that whiteboard and it wouldn’t be polite.

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 22/02/2026 13:54

What happens if you don’t do the duties? Do you go on the naughty step?