Husband leaves me a list of duties

Its incredibly rude to write you a list like this - it shows exactly what he thinks of you. That he 'keeps' you and you are there to do his bidding. Are you a SAHM? I'd actually be worried if I were you. SAHW rely on really healthy, happy relationships, with high levels of mutual gratitude and respect for each other's roles, and this does not sound like such a relationship.

If you are a SAHW, then things like ' could you pick up my dry cleaning darling?' is not unreasonable. However, the fucking, ' go and get the biscuits I like' is. Its demeaning and humiliating. It shows how superior he thinks he is and how you are there to do his bidding.

I would not be happy about this and I would also be quite concerned about what it said about the state of the marriage.

Yep, wipe it clean and write ‘Fuck off Ian’. Or start making much longer lists: ‘Ian redecorate 1st floor guest room’, ‘Ian fix the fences’, ‘Ian unblock ground floor basin’.

Bless him, if I or my DH attempted to do this, we’d be ripped to shreds as soon as other family members got hold of the pen.

Yes I'd be writing (his name) Fuck off I am not your slave.

Rude twat.

We have a whiteboard to write down whatever we've just finished up in the kitchen so say teabags etc.in preparation for whoever is next out at the shops. We also have a calendar which lists everything either one of us is doing re appointments, coffees out etc etc and family birthdays - it's up to him to sort his family out - I've enough to do with my own.

Smurf would never put up with that bullshit.

(IYKYK)

I so wish MN would bring back the laugh emoji. As someone of Irish heritage I so loved this story.

Reminds me of a story my nanny used to tell about her mother & her father.

They <obviously> had fish every Friday night. He would pompously say how he wouldn't eat anything other than Cod, wouldn't eat haddock if he was starving. This was in the 1920's/30's & haddock at the time was a cheap fish - much cheaper than cod. Eventually my great nanny lost her patience & said 'what do you think you've been eating every Friday for more than 20 years - do you think I can afford cod on the pittance housekeeping that you give me? You've been eating haddock every Friday since we got married you stupid ....' 😂

Just write on it, 'Sorry, this board is currently out of order. The please and request functions seem to have been overriden by the demand function.'

I would be writing "no" after each task and see if he says anything.

Burn the white board.

‘Fuck that shit’ should do it.

He's not writing reminders for him - it's a list of jobs for OP.

My DH has memory problems & writes reminders for himself (I do the same for him) & also for things that he's asked me to do for him that he can't do for himself as (for medical reasons) he can no longer drive. So on the fridge whiteboard he may write 'remind Pasta to collect my prescription on Thursday'. That's no problem as it's respectful & also reminds him that he's asked me to do it & he doesn't need to ask me several times on Monday, Tuesday...etc as well as reminding him that he's already requested his repeat prescription & doesn't need to ask me about it again, and again, and again. If he wrote 'Pasta get my prescription when you're in town on Thursday' I'd tackle him about it as that's not respectful.

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Fucking hell.

These are commands not requests. That is what would annoy me. I wouldn't do it.

Then you write -His Name- then "Go take a FLYING FK !! "

Erase his 'directives' and write 'You have a wife, not a servant, you rude fuck.'

And let's face it, he could have taken the chicken out in the time it took him to write that. Lazy fucker.
And - and it's a big 'and' - does he not know to use the word 'please'? Lazy rude fucker!

My DH would know better than to speak or write to me like this because this is exactly the reaction he would get. He'd also be on his own in the spare room having to collect his own fucking dry cleaning & all other PA tasks for a very long time.

Also he would be deafened by the sound of my vagina slamming shut.

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Depends how old is he, is he losing his memory or worried he is so thats why hes writting stuff down

Just rub your name out and put his. I don't mind/enjoy doing things for the people I love but the moment it becomes an instruction and he doesn't even ask you in person, there's not a chance I would be doing a single one of those tasks out of principle.

There's an old joke about a scotsman and englishman and an Irish man each getting married and not being happy with their wives housework. Englishman spoke sternly to his wife and saw a difference right away. Scotsman tried the same and first day didn't see much difference but reiterated it and by the next day things really improved. The Irishman spoke to his wife, saw nothing the first day, nor the second day, by the third day the swelling had subsided and he could see a little out of one eye but he'd definitely learnt his lesson.

As an Irish woman I feel I can tell that joke but also, good luck leaving me a list fo chores for a grown adult. He can wipe his own a**e. How do you get 18 yrs on and have him think this would suddenly fly?

Wipe the thing clean, draw something obscene on it and go for a spa day.

I’d stuff his white board up his arse. In the words of Nan, what a fucking Liberty!

There's no context to this at all and the OP hasn't been back.

I would either rub my name of and put his instead or i would put
(his name) STOP BEING A DICKHEAD. Do your own jobs I am not ironing your shirt.
Even if like me you’re actually home much much more with less responsibilities he should not be leaving you jobs to do. Twat

(his name) GO FUCK YOURSELF

Great minds think alike.

@JanineCody Use permanent markers and draw lots of little floppy ones.