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To keep trying to reach out when someone has cut me off

77 replies

sillistudi · 22/02/2026 13:32

Close family member has given me silent treatment since we had a row a few months back. I’ve honestly appraised situation & left msgs apologising for my part in it.. but they are refusing to engage with me. Without going into all the details just want a sanity check that im not stupid for keep reaching out. Not every day/ week but every few weeks just to show I’m ready to resolve this when he is. Would you do the same or just back right off?

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Whaleandsnail6 · 22/02/2026 13:35

I think you need to send one last message saying something along the lines of my door is always open but I'll stop messaging now to give you space so ball is in your court if and when you want to talk.

Its not fair to keep trying with them if they are not ready and may not be welcoming the messages from you

MrTwisterHasABlister · 22/02/2026 13:34

Back off. You’ve tried to make contact and they don’t wish to respond. Respect their position. They know where you are should they change their mind.