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Embarrassed myself at friends wedding.

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SimpleSingle · 22/02/2026 11:55

I went to a friends wedding a month ago. Had too much to drink, and fell asleep in the toilets. I was found by one of the bridesmaids who helped me to my room. The next day, everyone was joking about it.

I am mortified. I have 3 children and im 40 years old. I feel so much shame for getting myself in this state. It keeps popping into my head and I feel that awful feeling in the pit of my stomach! What an embarrassment I am.

I don’t really know what I’m hoping to get out of this post, but I am alone with my thoughts and feeling awful about this whole thing. I socialise with this extended group every 6 months or so, and I’ll be seeing them again soon, and I just don’t want to go. My friends parents all know etc. Will I ever not feel so awful about this???

OP posts:
Gall10 · 22/02/2026 11:59

Falling asleep in the loos is far preferable to ‘twerking’ on the dance floor and making a pass at the groom…or bride.
Believe me we’ve all done far worse!

SoScarletItWas · 22/02/2026 11:59

I don’t think this a big deal at all! With three kids a nap in the loo would be blissful. And if that’s the worst you did while drunk, well. A big old nothing.

I get that you’ll be embarrassed if they bring it up. Can you train yourself to expect it before you see them? Practice a few pithy replies. And then style it out.

‘A few drinks and a nap, yep that made it a perfect wedding for me!’

’Honestly Janet you’re getting boring keep bringing it up now, it’s sending me to sleep, might have to have another snooze in the loo’

Snootsnoot · 22/02/2026 11:59

If you can't fall asleep drunk at a wedding...
I think you are overthinking this and assuming people will think you are a bad mother as a result, which is not the case. We all do silly things, especially when drunk and around people we trust.

Original poster
SimpleSingle · 22/02/2026 11:58

Whats behind it is feeling like a failure and an embarrassment to my children. What sort of a mother does that???

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dudsville · 22/02/2026 11:58

What do you think is behind such a strong reaction that's still going strong a month later? Of course it wasn't your finest hour, but you're human, so what was it that's making you feel so ashamed?