Please help me see sense here, I am exhausted and at my wits end.
Just over a year ago, I found out I was pregnant and DH announced he wanted to quit his stable job and start his own independent business. He was convinced this was a wise move as it would make him more money than working for someone, which was true on paper however since we had no savings behind us and he had no set up, it wasn't the case. I tried to plead with DH not to do this, that we financially couldn't afford it and with a baby on the way making massive changes like this wasn't the right time. But against my better judgment he told me he wouldn't be told what to do or controlled and went ahead with it.
Not surprisingly, with no money to live off whilst he had no cliental and no proper start up the business very quickly dried up and lost us loads of money. I wasn't able to work during my pregnancy due to sickness but despite that it has always been my "money" we have lived off. Now that it has been over a year I have had enough. We had to move in with his parents and now have no money to leave. Last week I put my foot down and told DH enough now. He gave it a fair run, it isn't working, time to call it quits and get a stable job with a secure income. I told him I will not be living with his parents indefinitely until he can be bothered to get his life together, which I don't think he will as he seems pretty comfortable with this set up. Meanwhile I am miserable here and want to leave. I told him I would go if he doesn't sort himself out and he cried to me not too as we are all he has....
So with all this in mind I can't believe that yesterday my DH has now announced instead of letting the business go, he is going to try and rebrand into something different. I am utterly shocked by this and as per before he will not be told otherwise. He is convinced this time this will be the thing that will make us money and he won't hear otherwise. I told him he is being selfish but in his head he thinks he isn't and is doing this for us. This will inevitably mean more of my money being used up whilst he tries to scramble so sort of new cliental and establish this business.
I've now given him an ultimatum of the business over his family. He has called me controlling yet again and said he will not back down. I can't believe this is happening yet again, when after last time and many discussion he promised me moving forward any big life decision would be joint and he would consider my opinions more. He even admitted that he has a tendency to make impulsive decisions, especially when it comes to money and that they have never been right so far. I thought this time he would hear me out and admit this isn't working but if anything he is being so defensive off his business and just keeps saying that he hasn't invested all this time for nothing. His ego seems to want to prove he can make something of this at the expense of his family and I just can't believe it.
If I leave I had no housing or money, he has depleted all of it. I feel completely at mercy of him getting his head straight and realising we matter more but I'm scared that just won't happen.