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Vulgar Comment Has Really Icked Me

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YourFlakyHam · 21/02/2026 16:31

Me and my partner were watching a youtube channel about a guy lives on a narrow boat. We've followed him for a few years and now he has a girlfriend,who he introduced to his viewers. His girlfriend had to leave for work and waved goodbye to the viewers.
My partner said "Do you think she put out?"
I was shocked and disgusted by his comment!
I called him out it ,was really pissed off with him tbh.
He laughed and said it was just an off the cuff joke.
But now I feel like he's tainted the program,it's lovely and innocent and just nice to watch.I also feel like I've lost some respect towards him.
The couple are in their late 50's and of course they would be in a,sexual relationship
It was a very immature and vulgar comment
I didn't expect it as he's never said anything like that before .It's just given me that ick feeing tbh and it was a few weeks ago.
My partner isn't young .

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INX · 21/02/2026 17:25

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BuckChuckets · 21/02/2026 17:24

Is he an American 14 year old boy??

Dollymylove · 21/02/2026 17:22

Have you always been this pearl clutchy?

YourGreenCat · 21/02/2026 17:14

Unpleasant comment

but what an over-reaction from you. he's tainted the program
by mentioning.. sex? It would be completely inappropriate with the Teletubbies but the idea of 2 adults having sex? 😂

Are you always so dramatic?

Cherrytree86 · 21/02/2026 17:12

YANBU OP. Your lovely wholesome programme has been sullied forever by your crude partner. It just won’t be enjoyable for you from now on. Shame on him

moofolk · 21/02/2026 17:10

Humorously wondering about the logistics of sex on a narrow boat - fine for adults to joke about.

The phrase ‘put out’ - not ok for an adult to say at all.

It is so sexist I’m not even going to start to unpack it.

sprigatito · 21/02/2026 17:10

YANBU, I would have found it gross too. I don’t think I would look the same way at him again after that. I couldn’t respect a man who made disgusting remarks about women.

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 21/02/2026 17:08

I haven't heard "put out" since Grease circa '78..which was set in a ' 50's American High school.

How did you respond OP?

INX · 21/02/2026 17:08

A grown woman using the words 'ick' or 'icked' is no more mature to be fair.

TwistedWonder · 21/02/2026 17:07

Grown adult men who come out with expressions that Jay from the Inbetweeners would use are a massive ick imo

TheIceBear · 21/02/2026 17:07

I don’t think it’s that bad of a comment really. I’ve heard far more vulgar things in my time . I would get over it fairly quickly

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YourFlakyHam · 21/02/2026 16:53

Exactly He meant do you think she gave him sex before going off to work .Wtf has that got to do with a narrow boat program ?
It was a comment you'd hear in the 70/80s

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"She gave him sex" ??? 😳

Are you quite old fashioned when it comes to sex?

Sidebeforeself · 21/02/2026 17:04

Stupid comment to make but nobody’s perfect. However your reaction about it tainting the lovely programme is , quite frankly, bizarre.

INX · 21/02/2026 17:02

Rosie and Jim! 🤣🤣

Great, now I've got the theme tune stuck in my ear 😭

AnAppleAWeek · 21/02/2026 17:01

Maybe stick to Rosie and Jim in future?

From what I hear there is no doubt that she put out!

dapsnotplimsolls · 21/02/2026 17:00

If he starts speculating on her 'body count' then you need to start wondering about his social media habits.

INX · 21/02/2026 16:59

YourFlakyHam · 21/02/2026 16:53

Exactly He meant do you think she gave him sex before going off to work .Wtf has that got to do with a narrow boat program ?
It was a comment you'd hear in the 70/80s

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Well it's got nothing to do with the program obviously.

It was just an immature thing to say.

But blimey, your reaction is so OTT.

Lennonjingles · 21/02/2026 16:56

It’s a bit immature, how old is your partner.

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YourFlakyHam · 21/02/2026 16:53

Olderandwiserpossibly · 21/02/2026 16:48

I really dislike the expression " put out". It has vibes of the woman offering sex on a transactional basis, not because she enjoys it.

Your DP sounds incredibly immature.

And yes knowing that he has a one track mind and is imagining people having sex everytime he seems a couple together is extremely off putting.

Exactly He meant do you think she gave him sex before going off to work .Wtf has that got to do with a narrow boat program ?
It was a comment you'd hear in the 70/80s

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TY78910 · 21/02/2026 16:50

Hate the phrase and yes his “joke” was dumb.

I do have to say though - if you feel it’s tainting the programme for you then you then you must think begonia her attractive? And that he’ll be watching it looking at her? That’s a little insecure

INX · 21/02/2026 16:50

'Shocked and disgusted'

'Really pissed off'

'Tainted the lovely innocent program'.

I mean it was a juvenile, crass comment - yeah.

But your reaction is also more than juvenile and rather dramatic.

Olderandwiserpossibly · 21/02/2026 16:48

I really dislike the expression " put out". It has vibes of the woman offering sex on a transactional basis, not because she enjoys it.

Your DP sounds incredibly immature.

And yes knowing that he has a one track mind and is imagining people having sex everytime he seems a couple together is extremely off putting.

Droppit · 21/02/2026 16:46

Urgh. I hate the phrase 'put out' - only ever heard it being referred to women. God forbid a woman wants sex early on ina relationship. Scandalous. 🤬

TheMatildaEffect · 21/02/2026 16:43

Fancy rocking the boat like that.

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