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What normal things did you not have or not have in your house growing up?

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Fairypowder13 · 21/02/2026 16:30

We ran out of kitchen roll today and it got me thinking, growing up we never had kitchen roll in the house. I can remember visiting people who did and thinking that it was quite posh.

I grew up in a very poor home and we were always warm, clean, clothed and fed, but also lacking so many basic things. My parents always had money for cigarettes and alcohol though 🙄

I can remember having to have my hair washed with washing up liquid at times, I had very long hair and my mum never bought conditioner so you can imagine how knotty my hair would be. I did eventually get access to hair conditioner after begging my mum after I’d seen it advertised.

No cushions on the sofas.

No family holidays or day trips. Didn’t see the sea until I was 16.

No fabric softener for washing.

Never had a bed or mattress of my own, had one that was given to us until I was old enough to buy my own, it was all broken in the end but it didn’t occur to my parents to buy one.

No birthday cake or celebration, we’d get one small cheap present but nothing beyond that.

No stocking for Christmas. We’d put out one of our socks.

No winter coat, I had to wait to be given one by my older cousin.

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montysmaw · 21/09/2026 01:20

LadyCrustybread · 21/02/2026 21:45

We still had those in the 00s. And when I was at university in 2015 the power was out for 3 days.

No these were scheduled regular power cuts. They had to ration electricity due to a miners strike and an oil crisis in the middle east.
I only vaguely remember them but the candles were quite a novelty

Katemax82 · 21/09/2026 05:44

MrsMillyFluff · 21/02/2026 17:55

We had nothing. I shared a three bedroom house with DGM, DGF, DM, her sister and her 5 brothers. I had hand me down clothes, second hand presents, we didn't have central heating, we had a lovely coal fire, coats on the beds for extra heat in winter, but I really was spoiled with love and attention. We home baked and got by, went on long country walks and seaside holidays thanks to several relatives with caravans. I look back fondly on those years but there is something in me now that must have affected me from being a child....my food cupboards and freezer always have to be full, if I want to buy something I would have liked as a child I buy it. So while I have the fond memories there's definitely something in me that recognises it can't have been all sunshine and fun.

My mum hoarded food too, I thought it was a reaction to being skint when I was a teenager but maybe it was growing up in the 50s. When she died my stepdad threw away about 20 bin bags of food from their spare room that had shelves crammed with bulk bought stuff like flour that was 10 years old and a chest freezer filled so much it wouldn't shut

Katemax82 · 21/09/2026 06:03

JudgeJ · 25/02/2026 11:51

Just checked, it was 1993 they were banned!

My husband is 10 years older than me and used to like pork chops with the kidney attached (the idea makes me want to vomit)

sueelleker · 21/09/2026 09:12

montysmaw · 21/09/2026 01:20

No these were scheduled regular power cuts. They had to ration electricity due to a miners strike and an oil crisis in the middle east.
I only vaguely remember them but the candles were quite a novelty

I'd just started work. My boss rigged up a car headlight attached to a car battery so that we could see!

RosesAndHellebores · 21/09/2026 09:25

Katemax82 · 21/09/2026 06:03

My husband is 10 years older than me and used to like pork chops with the kidney attached (the idea makes me want to vomit)

Oh, they were lovely.

Mischance · 21/09/2026 09:29

Love and warmth

MisplacedMyFurCoat · 21/09/2026 11:45

No microwave.
No electric hob.
No tomato ketchup.
No fizzy drinks.
No ready meals or shop-bought snacks.
No fast food/takeaways.
No gaming consoles.
No duvets.
No tissues or paper napkins.
No track suits or trainers (unless for sports).
No wall to wall carpets.
Only one TV, phone and computer in the house.
No shower.
Only bar soap in all the bathrooms, never liquid. (We did have shampoo, conditioner and hairbrushes though.)

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