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Area gone to shit, feel forced to move 😪

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Runouttatown · 21/02/2026 11:38

I've lived in the same London suburb all my life. Until just a few short years ago it was a very nice area, and we thought we'd likely stay for ever, perhaps downsizing when the DC left home. We've spent a lot of time and money improving and extending our home over the years and it's perfect for us, just the way we want it, so would not wish to leave it for a few years yet.

However, the area has been going downhill at an alarming rate over the last 3 or 4 years to the point that we find we now absolutely hate it and want to get out - overcrowded, horrendous traffic, driving & road rage, unpleasant, rude people, lots of crime and antisocial behaviour. HMOs springing up all over, including one at the end of the street, most of which contain single, foreign men, not families. We're overrun with food delivery bike riders (many of whom live in the HMOS) who congregate in the high street, leering at women & young girls and spit disgusting red tobacco on the pavement. The area looks increasingly run down, fly tipping and a general lack of care. It has long been fairly multi cultural (no problem with that at all) but we're now finding that as white british people we are fast becoming a minority, and frequently encounter people who cannot speak any English. I'm sure some will accuse me of being racist but I absolutely am not, I'm just sad at what has happened to our once lovely area and, no, I'm not blaming immigration for all of it, although it's clearly a factor.

I know many areas are the same but there are plenty that are not - I only have to compare our Community Facebook page which is full of posts complaining of the above issues to that of the area we're thinking of going to which is completely different.

We've accepted we now need to move several years before we are ready but I feel so sad and angry about it. Several friends have already moved and others are considering it for the same reasons. The DC are happy for us to move as they hate it too - one at uni, the other working & considering buying their own place, not round here!

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Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 16:35

Parts of London are worse than the old USA ghettos and worse the areas cannot cope with the incumbents so they are relocated to distant towns and villages..

These places were nice but have been decimated and have also become ghettos.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 16:21

In the 1960s census, London was 98% white British.

In the 2020s census, London was 37% white British.

I asked AI how that ranks in terms of major cultural shifts and it said no other major city in history has come anywhere close to such a massive change so quickly. Only small cities like Detroit, which saw an even bigger shift over 70 years have seen anything like this, and it both led to and was the result of major economic decline

Frouly · 21/02/2026 16:06

ExtraOnions · 21/02/2026 13:11

London has always been made up of transient communities .. from French Huguenots, through the Irish, East Asian, West Indian moments if the 20th Century, to Eastern Europeans of the 21st Century .. people immigrating into a country will move to a city, because that’s where they will find work / housing / other people from the same community.

The ones you are talking about are working (good for them) - when I lived in a HMO as a student, we were all about partying & late nights, we must have been awful neighbours.

London isn’t the rest of the country .. at the last census the bit if the country I am in is 99% white - we have issues with very much home grown crime. A Sex Gang was recently prosecuted abd jailed, all white men.

This is very misleading. Yes London has always had transient/immigrant communities. But it certainly hasn’t always ‘been made up’ of them. Until the last few decades London was overwhelmingly British and there are such a thing as native Londoners. If you’re an old person who was born in London, your town has utterly changed in character in an unprecedented way. I don’t think this is necessarily a problem, but it’s pretty undemocratic since people have been consistently voting for parties that say they will reduce immigration and then don’t.

Endofpartone · 21/02/2026 15:55

Goinggonegone · 21/02/2026 12:49

Having had to live in them when younger, I am genuinely interested in where people think the tenants of HMOs.should live?

The thing that gets me down most in an area is litter.
Everyone deserves a home where they feel comfortable.

Do you ever go litter picking?

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 15:55

Your own paste says it clearly: More than a million claimants were born overseas.

That's not sustainable. The welfare state was never set up so that more than one million people could be funded to live in the UK on benefits

Somerford · 21/02/2026 15:54

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 15:43

Answering my own question as @TheCriticalThinker didn't want to. Which is that most of those 11 million people are not claiming benefits.

"Data showing the immigration status of those claiming universal credit (UC) - a benefit designed to help both employed and unemployed people with living costs - has been published for the first time.

In June, nearly eight million people received universal credit, 83.6% of whom were British and Irish nationals.

More than a million claimants were born overseas, including around 700,000 EU citizens who arrived in the UK before Brexit and have the right to live and work in the UK.

Around 1.5% of claimants were refugees and 0.7% had arrived in the UK via safe routes such as those for Ukrainians and Afghans.

More than 75,000 claimants who are in the UK temporarily and would typically not be able to receive benefits are also claiming UC.

The Department for Work and Pensions has said most foreign nationals can claim only after five years residency, but there are exceptions such as for victims of modern slavery.

The government produced figures, external going back to April 2022. In that time, the proportion of claimants who were born overseas has remained broadly level at between 15% and 17%.

During the same period, the total number of people on UC rose from 5.5m to 7.9m.

According to the most recent figures for May 2025, around half of EU citizens claiming UC are in employment, compared to a fifth of refugees.

The figures were published, external following pressure from some Conservatives and the independent MP Rupert Lowe.

A Downing Street spokesperson said the prime minister wanted to see the number of unemployed foreign nationals claiming benefits to go down and insisted the government was "toughening up the system" by doubling the time a migrant has to wait before qualifying for permanent - or settled - status in the UK.

They added that people in the UK illegally are not allowed to access UC"

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdx5pw8pwg5o

Edited

You demanded evidence for a claim that was never made. The PP we were spending tens of billions on migrants and showed you the benefits bill, add that to asylum costs and public services and you have your tens of billions. PP did not say that most or all immigrants were on benefits, you put those words in her mouth and demanded that she prove it.

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 15:43

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:02

The taxpayer is now spending tens of billions of pounds every year ensuring they have food, accommodation etc

For all 11 million? None of them work? Link please.

Answering my own question as @TheCriticalThinker didn't want to. Which is that most of those 11 million people are not claiming benefits.

"Data showing the immigration status of those claiming universal credit (UC) - a benefit designed to help both employed and unemployed people with living costs - has been published for the first time.

In June, nearly eight million people received universal credit, 83.6% of whom were British and Irish nationals.

More than a million claimants were born overseas, including around 700,000 EU citizens who arrived in the UK before Brexit and have the right to live and work in the UK.

Around 1.5% of claimants were refugees and 0.7% had arrived in the UK via safe routes such as those for Ukrainians and Afghans.

More than 75,000 claimants who are in the UK temporarily and would typically not be able to receive benefits are also claiming UC.

The Department for Work and Pensions has said most foreign nationals can claim only after five years residency, but there are exceptions such as for victims of modern slavery.

The government produced figures, external going back to April 2022. In that time, the proportion of claimants who were born overseas has remained broadly level at between 15% and 17%.

During the same period, the total number of people on UC rose from 5.5m to 7.9m.

According to the most recent figures for May 2025, around half of EU citizens claiming UC are in employment, compared to a fifth of refugees.

The figures were published, external following pressure from some Conservatives and the independent MP Rupert Lowe.

A Downing Street spokesperson said the prime minister wanted to see the number of unemployed foreign nationals claiming benefits to go down and insisted the government was "toughening up the system" by doubling the time a migrant has to wait before qualifying for permanent - or settled - status in the UK.

They added that people in the UK illegally are not allowed to access UC"

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdx5pw8pwg5o

BaffledNonsense · 21/02/2026 15:30

ThatFairy · 21/02/2026 15:26

Not only was the poster not communicating in good faith, she was unnecessarily snarky and disrespectful and made it personal.

Yep. There are certain posters who love to decry ' sea lioning!' ( admittedly, I had to look this up), but are the ones most likely to indulge in it themselves... Probably why they're the only ones to understand the meaning, the rational amongst us would have no need to know such a phrase.

ThatFairy · 21/02/2026 15:26

Somerford · 21/02/2026 15:11

The mistake you're making is thinking that the poster you're replying to is engaging in good faith. They aren't. They're waiting for proof that all immigrants in the UK don't work and acting smug and condescending because you haven't provided it, even though you never made that claim and it was the PP who put those words in your mouth.

You made valid point and substantiated it with a link, leave it there or you'll be here all day.

Not only was the poster not communicating in good faith, she was unnecessarily snarky and disrespectful and made it personal.

mrsgilfeathers · 21/02/2026 15:20

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:41

I didn't say that. I did say that link doesn't answer the question I asked you. My comment about RB was just for info.

Anyway. You're not going to give me an answer, so no point arguing the toss any further.

Edited

Then look it up yourself.

Somerford · 21/02/2026 15:11

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 15:01

Can't help thinking that a certain someone just didn't like the answer lol

The mistake you're making is thinking that the poster you're replying to is engaging in good faith. They aren't. They're waiting for proof that all immigrants in the UK don't work and acting smug and condescending because you haven't provided it, even though you never made that claim and it was the PP who put those words in your mouth.

You made valid point and substantiated it with a link, leave it there or you'll be here all day.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 15:01

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:47

Oh, bless. You didn't understand the question. Never mind.

Can't help thinking that a certain someone just didn't like the answer lol

Fogwood · 21/02/2026 14:58

FlyMeToTheSpoon · 21/02/2026 11:51

My childhood street went the same way. There's now 6 HMOs on a small residential street, all filled with transient, foreign men who work in the gig economy and hang around outside looking dodgy at all hours of the day and night. There are often fights in the street, there's been a couple of stabbings, fly tipping all over the place because one council bin isn't enough for 7 separate people.

It used to be a nice multicultural street with kids playing outside. Now it looks like something from a Ross Kemp on Gangs documentary.

HMOs completely change the vibe of the areas they are in, and never in a positive way.

HMOs are a big problem where I am and have changed a few areas. They areas are within walking distance of the town centre so the town centre has completely changed. It's been such a rapid change. That's what people object to. It's unrecognisable from what the town centre was like 5 years ago.

I'm always amazed to visit family in other places who have seen none of these changes.

crosstalk · 21/02/2026 14:57

Instead of moving, why don't you do something about it?

Speak to your local councillor about the rubbish and street behaviour. Start a litter picking group. Speak to businesses eg local takeaways about litter and what you'd like help dealing with. Campaign re: HMOs - local people I know had problems with too much student housing and consequent noise, litter etc and got a limit set per grid of roads. Talk to local schools. Involve the press, run your own FB page.

BaffledNonsense · 21/02/2026 14:56

You've a valid experience OP and one which many of us share, but don't expect the guardian to write an opinion piece any time soon. The problem is widespread and growing. I used to think you could get away from it by moving to a quieter, nicer area but ime the shift is happening everywhere in England. Parts of Wales, such as Pembrokeshire, still have lovely well kept towns and villages, thriving high streets and a conspicuous absence of hmos. If you want to 'get out out ', I'd be considering moving further afield if you can.

Chattycatt · 21/02/2026 14:50

What suburb is this? (Sorry if it’s been stated)

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:49

Look at Blackpool - it's not "locals" who cause all the anti social behavior - it's people who've been transported there by the authorities/councils

This. It needs to stop!

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:47

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:44

I gave you the answer! You asked for a link on migration and benefits, and that was literally what the link was about?

If you didn't like that one because it mentioned someone you don't like, how about this one from this week:

mol.im/a/15550811

Oh, bless. You didn't understand the question. Never mind.

taxguru · 21/02/2026 14:46

@FlyMeToTheSpoon

HMOs completely change the vibe of the areas they are in, and never in a positive way.

The same happened a few decades ago to many seaside resorts, where the old boarding houses were converted into bedsits and then the authorities/councils etc "relocated" problem tenants into them, i.e. newly released offenders, etc. Entire streets turned into third world shit holes virtually overnight and most such seaside resorts have never recovered. Look at Blackpool - it's not "locals" who cause all the anti social behavior - it's people who've been transported there by the authorities/councils.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:44

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:41

I didn't say that. I did say that link doesn't answer the question I asked you. My comment about RB was just for info.

Anyway. You're not going to give me an answer, so no point arguing the toss any further.

Edited

I gave you the answer! You asked for a link on migration and benefits, and that was literally what the link was about?

If you didn't like that one because it mentioned someone you don't like, how about this one from this week:

mol.im/a/15550811

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:41

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:35

Because someone you don't like is mentioned in the story therefore the story isn't true?

I didn't say that. I did say that link doesn't answer the question I asked you. My comment about RB was just for info.

Anyway. You're not going to give me an answer, so no point arguing the toss any further.

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:39

Here is a summary:-

Moor Park, located on the border of Northwood in Hertfordshire/London, is an affluent, leafy residential area known for its low crime rate and high-value detached homes. The population is diverse, with a significant Asian (roughly 50%) and White (approx. 41%) population. It features a high proportion of residents in managerial/professional roles, with a large 45+ age demographic.

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:36

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/02/2026 14:31

Are you pretending that the disgusting neighbourhood you live in isn't still majority british because I bet "100%" that it is just as I 100% think that you're a racist

Have a look at the very high diversity in Moor Park, London Don't think the OP and others would complain about those people as neighbours.

The issue is people with no standards or morals and no work ethic destroying communities.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:35

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:30

That isn't what I asked.

Also, the Centre for Migration control is a dodgy as fuck one man band masquerading as a "think tank" a.k.a Robert Bates a Reform activist.

Because someone you don't like is mentioned in the story therefore the story isn't true?

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:32

Passingthrough123 · 21/02/2026 14:22

White British are still the biggest % of benefits claimants though. 76.2% of all UC claimants, followed by Asian/Asian British at 10.4%.

The overall benefits spend is £334bn.

That's a huge and totally unsustainable benefits bill. The total taxation received per year is only a maximum of less than three times that.. meant to be spent on everything from hospitals to the police