Inappropriate comments from grandfather

Someone cracking an inappropriate joke on Face time isn't an Epstein. Should the OP get him arrested too?

Women have always always done this. Men predate in women and children in such significant numbers and other women cover it up.

Read the women involved in the Epstein thread. It is a tale as old as time. Women who are so uncomfortable with the frequency and prevalence of male pattern abuse of women and children that they go to any lengths to cover it up because of their own discomfort and their need to protect their own minds from fear.

Absolutely right. And there have also been some marked changes on here in recent years. The internalization has always existed, but for 5 years or so there have been people queueing up to undermine women's instincts, tell them that they are wrong, and protect the predilections of men at all costs including their own peace of mind and the wellbeing of their children.

I usually ask myself what motivation would prompt someone to act so, and also who stands to benefit from keeping the status quo precisely as it is.

I’m with you OP. Completely. I’m not remotely surprised by the lack of support you are getting on here. It doesn’t matter if we see Pelicots and Episteins until the cows come home. In a tale as old as time people will ignore and minimise subtle boundary breaking behaviour for all of time. Women line up to protect men in these situations and the predatory neighbour situation shows just how far women will go.

He tried to bring a paedophile to the wedding and he tried to say the victim led the paedophile on. He makes weird sexualised comments about a baby. You do you but there is plenty of reason to think this GF is not someone who is going to be healthy to have a young child around.

People who just latch onto anything that's posted and leap to worst case scenario. If the OP wants to keep the child from their grandparents that's up to her but don't add two and two and get ten and call someone a potential child abuser with no evidence

I’m with you OP. Completely. I’m not remotely surprised by the lack of support you are getting on here. It doesn’t matter if we see Pelicots and Episteins until the cows come home. In a tale as old as time people will ignore and minimise subtle boundary breaking behaviour for all of time. Women line up to protect men in these situations and the predatory neighbour situation shows just how far women will go.

I cannot stress how much you should not leave your kid alone with him. From everything in the Epstein files to knowing about historical abuses and how they were covered up by GP’s generation, this is a serious red flag IMO. I wouldn’t be surprised if grandpa had a skeleton in his closet.

I cannot stress how much you should not leave your kid alone with him. From everything in the Epstein files to knowing about historical abuses and how they were covered up by GP’s generation, this is a serious red flag IMO. I wouldn’t be surprised if grandpa had a skeleton in his closet.

I try not to let my feelings about FIL impact on my husband and children’s time with their dad/ grandad so I tolerate what I don’t like unless I think it’s harmful to my kids. It’s the first time we’ve left DD with them and they were at our house. The neighbour served a prison sentence then died so he’s not a factor, but something that lingers in my mind. FIL made comments at the time about how the teenage granddaughter was flirtatious and the pedo should have just said “no” to her advances. So I genuinely think at least in that situation he believed the pedo that the sexual abuse was instigated by the victim until I pointed out no teenage girl fancies their grandfather figure .

Sorry I tried to make this not about me/ him to not be leading but I can see its probably leading either way.

hes my father in law, we don’t have a great relationship as i find him really abrasive. There is some history of him falling in the wrong side of issues like this (i wanted to uninvited their peadophile neighbour and his wife from our wedding after the neighbour was charged for sexually assaulting his step granddaughter. It ended up in a falling out between me and in-laws. In the end I told them about how I’d been sexually assaulted in childhood at which point they never apologised but seemed to understand

Massive overreaction. Comments are old school cringe but doesn’t warrant such frothing and jumping down throats.

I try not to let my feelings about FIL impact on my husband and children’s time with their dad/ grandad so I tolerate what I don’t like unless I think it’s harmful to my kids. It’s the first time we’ve left DD with them and they were at our house. The neighbour served a prison sentence then died so he’s not a factor, but something that lingers in my mind. FIL made comments at the time about how the teenage granddaughter was flirtatious and the pedo should have just said “no” to her advances. So I genuinely think at least in that situation he believed the pedo that the sexual abuse was instigated by the victim until I pointed out no teenage girl fancies their grandfather figure .

I try not to let my feelings about FIL impact on my husband and children’s time with their dad/ grandad so I tolerate what I don’t like unless I think it’s harmful to my kids. It’s the first time we’ve left DD with them and they were at our house. The neighbour served a prison sentence then died so he’s not a factor, but something that lingers in my mind. FIL made comments at the time about how the teenage granddaughter was flirtatious and the pedo should have just said “no” to her advances. So I genuinely think at least in that situation he believed the pedo that the sexual abuse was instigated by the victim until I pointed out no teenage girl fancies their grandfather figure .