At home with poorly EBF 6 month old (cough and cold) and full on 3 year old,
DH went on a boys night out with 4 other dads last night 2 were driving and the other 2 back in at a decent time
went onto find my iPhone when the baby woke me up at 2:30am to feed; and my husband who was meant to be staying at his sisters the next town along was at a random house!
I rang him and it was a friend of a friends house (all men, DH is straight). He was clearly sounding drunk and refused to see what the issue was so and so invited them back for a g and t, none of the original group of dads he went out with were still out just him. He then got a taxi back and went back to his sisters (truth as could see on the find me app that we have)
baby feeding and coughing lots and then toddler up since half 6 and wouldn’t go and watch something on her own while I got some extra sleep (iPad with locked screen so only able to watch what’s on there, with some milk and cereal for a snack, in the next room and able to wake me, quite an independent but full on little lady)
anyway
it’s now 9am he’s still asleep at his sisters
Tonight we are going to a gig locally and his sister is due to babysit (prearranged).
im gunna have to cancel im just too exhausted
how do i go about this to not upset him and his sister
i feel like im gonna be seen to be punishing him for a night out but actually im miffed he took it too far and im on my own with 2 of them one being poorly one being a toddler who won’t sit still for 5 minutes
also can I trust where he was?
don’t really know what I’m asking here just feeling tired grumpy touched out and let down