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Am I going to fail probation

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Greenraintoday · 21/02/2026 07:16

I'm getting worried, half way through probation, have had 3 unavoidable bouts of sickness ( all different cases and not disability related) been late in to work 4 times and have been reminded to answer emails that I forgot several times

In my defense I have had alot going.on in personal life and this has impacted me

AIBU to think I should be given another chance ?

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Strugglingforanamechange · 21/02/2026 18:46

If I were your line manager I would not keep you on, however, you would not have reached this stage of your employment with me without knowing that. You should be getting regular feedback as part of your probational period to give you a chance to improve. It shouldn’t come as a surprise to you at the end of if you are let go.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 21/02/2026 18:25

Terfymcnamechange · 21/02/2026 17:59

Most people catch around 10 viruses a year, that's before migraines, broken bones etc.
Do you expect to be off work for every cold? You need to be going in unless vomiting, shaking with fever or hospitalised.

Many people have kids and shit going on in their lives, but you have to make sure you aren't late for work and respond to emails, or you will be fired. That's the same for everyone

It’s always the same people who are off with coughs/colds/childcare issues/funerals of their Mum’s neighbour from 20 years ago/train issues/routine appointments in the middle of the day

ByUniqueViper · 21/02/2026 18:10

3 bouts of sickness. Were you so ill on all 3 occasions that you were unable to work?
If the sickness wasn't bad enough you're late to work on multiple occasions and don't deal with emails. Do you think that sounds like a good start?
If you were in my team I would think this was the start of things to come and would be terminating your contract!

Terfymcnamechange · 21/02/2026 17:59

Most people catch around 10 viruses a year, that's before migraines, broken bones etc.
Do you expect to be off work for every cold? You need to be going in unless vomiting, shaking with fever or hospitalised.

Many people have kids and shit going on in their lives, but you have to make sure you aren't late for work and respond to emails, or you will be fired. That's the same for everyone

Catsbreakfast · 21/02/2026 17:51

Staying home with a cold in probation. I’ve heard it all now. You can’t be serious.

Moanyoldmoan · 21/02/2026 17:42

This has got to be satire - there’s no way you are getting that job, I would’ve given up on you way before now, clearly incapable and not the job for you to put it bluntly

Della19 · 21/02/2026 17:42

I'm a manager in a ~£100million a year turnover company. I wouldn't mind the sickness, if genuine.
I would fail your probation on the grounds of inability to be on time to work, and inability to do the job (not responding to emails, even after reminding). Had to fail someone's probation last year for similar. Your employer does not owe you total flexibility, it's something you earn by being a good and reliable employee (which, seemingly, you are not)

ALJT · 21/02/2026 17:37

If you do get another chance you’re extremely lucky. I was never late to work but caught flu in my probation that had been doing round the office and I got let go because I was off for a week. I had a 6 month probation. Don’t get me wrong, it was a blessing in disguise cold calling was awful.

Hhhwgroadk · 21/02/2026 17:27

Your personal life is nothing to do with your employer and how you perform.

BuckChuckets · 21/02/2026 17:27

Greenraintoday · 21/02/2026 10:17

I have childcare issues which is why I am late and sickness is due to colds and flu , have just not been well enough to go in

I am doing my best but don't see that these are deal breakers, don't I have more rights now under the new workers bill anyway?

Colds AND flu (as in, actually flu), or just colds/bad colds? Being off sick with a cold multiple times during probation would be enough for me to decide someone wasn't going to pass.

Hhhwgroadk · 21/02/2026 17:21

I would only accept poor sickness record if the person had a physical disability. Not able to carry out work related tasks plus poor time keeping would be a scenario I would not in any circumstances tolerate. I would never chase an employee on their tasks after the training period was over, they would be put on notice of termination of contract.

OhYeahOhYeah · 21/02/2026 17:18

I am sorry to say this but if you were my employee, I would not be keeping you on.

Childcare issues and colds are part of life BUT are things most people can figure out in a pinch and get themselves in to the office on time and ready to go.

Three sickness absences, four late starts and not keeping up with the very basics of any job sadly equal an inadequate candidate.

ACynicalDad · 21/02/2026 17:15

Sort yourself out and I night just extend probation. Keep this trend for the second half and no chance you’re staying. It’s going to get harder to dack people so expect more people to fail probation.

luckylavender · 21/02/2026 17:14

Such a terrible attitude to work.

Umidontknow · 21/02/2026 17:13

Why do you think they should give you another chance? What's in it for them?

Dogmum74 · 21/02/2026 17:12

Probation means nothing. Any business can get rid of you for no reason whatsoever within 2 years of employment (equalities act cover excluded). But yes, you sound like a nightmare. Sickness and late 4 times?

CassandraCan · 21/02/2026 17:09

WellErrr · 21/02/2026 07:22

To be totally honest and because you asked….

4 lates
3 absences
Poor performance (not answering emails etc)

I would not keep you on.

Same

Newbie8918 · 21/02/2026 17:03

I’m a manger and I wouldn’t be keeping you on with this level of absenteeism and lateness.

The Sickness is unavoidable but the lateness and not answering emails isn’t and constitutes a conduct issue.

As a latch ditch attempt and if you are genuine, ask your manager for a meeting. Explain your circumstances and take ownership. Ask them to extend your probation so you can show them how much you want the role. If they agree, it’s time to excel.

TicklishMintDuck · 21/02/2026 16:57

It really depends on your employer, I think. I attended a new job last year 100% even during radiotherapy, apart from quite a few hospital appointments, yet they managed to find reasons not to pass me even though I met all deadlines and had settled well into the team, etc. Could you have an informal chat about it, or is it not that type of place? Good luck x

Boxingshibes · 21/02/2026 16:54

I've only read about 3/4 but you must realise you will not be kept on.
In fact I'm surprised you can afford to be off ill during probation. Did you get sick pay?
My employer doesn't pay sick pay till 2 years ( not sure this is legal though)
I've taken 1 day off in almost 2 years when I was hospitalised.
Since Jan one of my children have been in and out of hospital for days at a time, luckily they're older but I've had to work with no time off. I can't afford it. I've had to work then go to the hospital , sleep there then go back to work. Luckily DH is able to be there during the day.
Do you have a partner who can help?

LilyBunch25 · 21/02/2026 16:43

Movingonup313 · 21/02/2026 16:35

No. I needed a dr prescription for antibiotics for the tonsillitis but didnt attend or need to request a dr cert for the others. The winter is brutal. The lady had a new job which is stressful in itself. He childcare has failed (im sure she hasnt asked them to fail her). All of the stresses of that make you more run down and vulnerable to viruses etc and less able to manage them with OTC medication.

I'm not disagreeing with that- but I like many colleagues have also been subject to viruses in the last few months- I'm getting over one now. I have significant stress in my own life, including dealing with a very high level of care at home for someone else. I have to manage my work and timekeeping around that. I have had two familial bereavements in the last 10 months too that I had to deal with. I still maintain that the OP goes beyond unfortunate circumstances- not doing the actual work properly while there is a red flag, as is the immediate query about the workers rights bill.

SarBe · 21/02/2026 16:41

I mean, I wouldn't go take you beyond probation. No excuse for lateness or failing to reply to emails.

Movingonup313 · 21/02/2026 16:35

LilyBunch25 · 21/02/2026 14:33

Also would I be right in thinking that those conditions- the migraine, tonsillitis, were potentially documented after self cert period by a GP? If so it is absolutely different.

No. I needed a dr prescription for antibiotics for the tonsillitis but didnt attend or need to request a dr cert for the others. The winter is brutal. The lady had a new job which is stressful in itself. He childcare has failed (im sure she hasnt asked them to fail her). All of the stresses of that make you more run down and vulnerable to viruses etc and less able to manage them with OTC medication.

LilyBunch25 · 21/02/2026 16:25

Ewock · 21/02/2026 13:24

Is it just mums you have time for or do others qualify for this as well? Or do you believe that only mums can have a difficult time with things in their lives? Where does this stop or is it fine for everyone to be late, take lots of sick days and not actually do their job?

I have more difficulty now I'm caring for another adult than I did when I was raising my kids and working. I still do all I can to juggle things, am not late and haven't been off sick for 10 months. I do my job because I'm paid to, and no it isn't always easy far from it.

sparkleghost · 21/02/2026 16:22

It doesn’t sound great.
Do you have a good relationship with your manager? Maybe it would be a good idea to ask for a 1:1. Be honest and sincere - tell them you appreciate that the lateness, absence & performance issues don’t reflect well on you, but that you’re committed to the company and you want to do better & prove yourself by the end of your probationary period. You could always discuss what has been happening in your personal life if you think that they might be sympathetic - but I’d focus on acknowledging the shortfalls and apologising. It might not make any difference, but I think it’s worth a go. A self-aware probationary employee that wants the job is better than a probationary employee that doesn’t seem bothered. Good luck and I hope things get easier in your personal life x

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