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To be awake and feeling tearful over SEND EHCP disaster

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InBitsandInTears · 21/02/2026 04:34

This week I got a message to say LA proposes to name a mainstream secondary school for DS and attached is an EHCP that was finalised in November that I've never seen.

I don't know why I didn't get the notice. I was told there were delays because of a backlog. It's impossible to get through on the phone.

With hindsight I am blaming myself for not doing more or doing differently.

The EHCP is a complete mess. Mainstream is impossible.

DS would far rather be at home, I feel like just giving up.

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StartingFreshFor2026 · 17/03/2026 09:10

I got my mediation certificate in about 30 minutes from the call. I'd say personally I think you shouldn't mediate because time is running out to be honest.

Start drafting your appeal now, they take a lot of time and energy. Once you get your hearing date, if it is too late you can ask the tribunal for an expedited hearing.

Choconuttolata · 12/03/2026 18:30

Well done 👏👏👏

Just tell the mediator that mediation is not suitable due to it being a phase transfer and time being of the essence and get them to issue a certificate. I got mine very quickly.

Get your appeal application sent off and logged straight away once you get it through. Good luck with it all.

Littlefish · 12/03/2026 18:29

Chai88 · 21/02/2026 06:22

Seriously? That’s awful. When that SENCO rang me she was adamant the LA could never force them to take my daughter. I then asked the LA who said they needed a formal response from that school and would then take that into account. So we got a place at a SEN school. Do you think we would have regardless? Such a confusing process and I feel for OP.

I work with a school who, after reviewing a child’s EHCP, told the LA that they couldn’t meet a child’s needs. They were basically told that the child would be coming to them and that they would have to find a way to meet need. The LA offered a higher rate of funding to help support this, but the school wasn’t given any choice.

ExistingonCoffee · 12/03/2026 17:58

Good news.

Don’t bother actively partaking in mediation. Just get the certificate and submit your appeal to SENDIST ASAP.

InBitsandInTears · 12/03/2026 17:10

By sheer luck (and judgement, persistence, your encouragement and reaching out in every direction) yesterday

  • I sent an email
  • to a senior person our Senco gave me an email address for on Monday
  • after our Headteacher told me at pickup on Tuesday Ofsted were starting an Area Send inspection on Wednesday
  • with the subject line 'Urgent: Phase Transfer' as you /Sendiass/Ipsea advised
  • guided by an Ipsea template which quotes the relevant legal framework.
  • asking for a finalised EHCP to be properly issued with the correct accompanying letter triggering my right to appeal.
  • within 5 working days.
  • and copied in my MP, Sendiass, Sossen and Lord Lucan etc
  • and made it clear that if I didn't get these documents in reply to my email I would be taking legal advice (which is booked in next week) with a view to seeking judicial review.

To my amazement today I got a reply, letter with mediation and appeal rights and finalised (nonsense) EHCP.

I phoned the mediation provider immediately.

Thank you 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

I am now at the beginning of a new difficult challenge but out of the looking glass world where which every way you run you end up going in the opposite direction.

Unfortunately the mediators describe my child's primary condition as "Autism (including Asberger's syndrome)". I'm hoping to encourage them to correct it to celebrate neurodiversity week. Which will be quite soon.

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Choconuttolata · 12/03/2026 13:33

@InBitsandInTears just send the heavy weight letter because they have already breached the deadline and have five days to respond to the letter. Even then you still have to have the finalised EHCP before you can appeal. There will be lots of people applying to appeal now at all stages including those for 16+ provision so you want to get onto the Tribunal waiting list ASAP. The sooner that all happens the sooner you get a date (it should be expedited because it is a phase transfer, so make that it clear on any application that it is a phase transfer appeal). As it is your Tribunal date may not fall in time for the start of Year 7, we managed to get a date for August by doing the appeal on the papers after the LA delayed the process and the original hearing date which is a tactic they use sometimes. It could be September before your case is heard at this rate. You need to push it now to get the ball rolling, don't be afraid to go in heavy, sadly you have to show them you are serious otherwise they walk all over you.

ExistingonCoffee · 12/03/2026 12:24

Parents are being told their child needs a specialist place but there isn't one available.

These parents should appeal once they have the right of appeal.

For non-wholly independent schools, on its own being full is not enough of a reason to refuse to name parental preference. The LA has to prove the school is so full admitting DC is incompatible with the provision of efficient education for others &/or the efficient use of resources. The bar for this is higher than LAs and many schools admit. It has to be something tangible and specific and is more than an “adverse effect”, “impact on” or “prejudicial to”.

And if it is inappropriate for provision to be made in a school, there is EOTAS/EOTIS.

Needlenardlenoo · 12/03/2026 07:24

I don't have anything useful to add but I'm thinking of getting "I have made a lot of progress although not in a straight line" on a poster.

Hang in there, OP.

Thegladstonebag · 11/03/2026 23:24

Ooodelally · 21/02/2026 06:32

If all else fails you could ask the primary SENCO to hold an emergency review and redo the plan. Once it again goes to draft you can then object to any inaccurate content left in by the LA. Not ideal and a last resort if SENDIASS can’t help you forward differently but an option to at least have a plan that reflects your child.

The LA would have to agree to an early review.

InBitsandInTears · 11/03/2026 23:14

I have made a lot of progress although not in a straight line. I'm still on the lookout for an EP who covers the west country and booked in for legal advice next week.
I haven't received a finalised EHCP so can't appeal but have sent an ipsea template 'light version' letter to a named person who our current Senco suggested might act helpfully (I'm not counting on it). Assuming this fails I'll send the heavy version to the relevant Director of Children's Services as soon as I've had the legal advice.
I have heard more and more appalling stories from local families so I have no expectation of a meaningful 'win'. Parents are being told their child needs a specialist place but there isn't one available.

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DancingOctopus · 10/03/2026 14:53

ExistingonCoffee · 10/03/2026 14:26

@DancingOctopus I believe she was unwell towards the end of last year.

I am sorry to read this. I know she has health issues. She was recovering from some health procedure when she did our follow up.
I hope she's well on the road to recovery.

ExistingonCoffee · 10/03/2026 14:26

@DancingOctopus I believe she was unwell towards the end of last year.

DancingOctopus · 10/03/2026 14:17

ExistingonCoffee · 10/03/2026 11:58

@DancingOctopus is Jemma Levy back working and taking on new clients?

I am not sure. We last saw her in June 2024. I sincerely hope that she is well and working.

ExistingonCoffee · 10/03/2026 11:58

@DancingOctopus is Jemma Levy back working and taking on new clients?

DancingOctopus · 10/03/2026 08:17

Copy your MP into your email asking for the final EHCP. It might help.
I don't know where you are but Jemma Levy is an EP based in North London. She's fantastic and her reports absolutely stand up in Tribunal.

InBitsandInTears · 06/03/2026 22:17

Brilliant. I will follow these suggestions. 💐

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Choconuttolata · 06/03/2026 08:47

Use the template letter on here. I used this successfully to get my DS's phase transfer EHCP sent to me when it was late so that I could appeal at Tribunal @InBitsandInTears. It tells you all the people to send it too on there, I found the emails for my LA by searching online and sent it by email so I had proof it was sent. Send the text in the body of the email, my LA tried to say they couldn't open the letter attachment I sent at first try.

www.ipsea.org.uk/letter-to-la-when-it-has-or-will-breach-the-deadline-for-reviewing-and-amending-the-ehc-plan-in-advance-of-a-phase-transfer-template-letter-12

IdentityCris · 06/03/2026 08:41

Try an email warning them if you don't get the up to date version plus accompanying letter by Monday you will have to start judicial review proceedings. It might just push them into action on its own.

InBitsandInTears · 06/03/2026 02:04

Thank you @ExistingonCoffee that is extremely helpful.

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ExistingonCoffee · 05/03/2026 22:42

You should still go back to the LA (I would email the Director of Children’s Services) even if you don’t expect an answer. At this point, the intention isn’t necessarily to trigger action, although that would be helpful, it is about building a paper trial as evidence. You could also try emailing your LA’s Monitoring Officer if you haven’t already.

InBitsandInTears · 05/03/2026 22:28

@ExistingonCoffee I agree I don't think I have their decision letter. Unfortunately they are not responding to Egress messages, emails or phone calls so 'going back to them' has no effect.

I'm trying to get help with pre action letter. Also getting my papers and thoughts in order.

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ExistingonCoffee · 05/03/2026 20:04

In order to appeal, you need the LA’s decision letter that gives you the right of appeal. It doesn’t sound like you have this. You should go back to the LA for the decision letter (and the secondary phase transfer EHCP). In the meantime, if you haven’t already, I would look for someone who has capacity to take your case for a pre-action letter.

InBitsandInTears · 05/03/2026 16:50

I am no longer 'in bits and in tears' but I am pretty tired.

I have come back to update and ask whether I can now appeal.

On 16th I had a message say LA proposes to name local mainstream 'you have 15 days to comment '.

On 27th a message saying 'we're going ahead and EHCP will be finalised on the 3rd.

On 2nd message saying 'we are finalising naming mainstream'.
Letter and EHCP attached BUT the 'letter' is a copy of the message from the 16th and the EHCP is the (defective) one from last November naming the current primary.

Nothing about mediation appeal etc.

WTAF? And WWYD?

Can I now appeal?

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IdentityCris · 02/03/2026 00:14

Madthings · 01/03/2026 14:43

Also where could I go to get support re pre action letter amd judicial review? I cant afford to pay. Totally on my own with this.

SOS SEN do pre-action letters. They do charge, but much less than solicitors do.

InBitsandInTears · 01/03/2026 23:56

@Burntt thank you for describing your horrible merry go round experience.

DSs private Clinical Psychologist report from a couple of years ago set out really detailed recommendations for what DS needs eg this many lessons per week learning to type (because of motor difficulties with writing) sensory breaks, social stuff, lots of specific stuff. Doable in the right specialist setting. I cannot reproduce this myself at home so I cannot home educate.

I can and do support DS in all sorts of learning at home. If he was completely home based instead of partly school based and I was putting as much into it as I could he'd have a pretty good time and learn a lot.

I will, and am already, standing up to the LA over DSs right to an education. I'm horrified by the prospect of getting onto a draining merry go round which sucks my energy out for years while DS languishes alone and I fight city hall.

I feel this battle over secondary transfer is one I'm not going to win but I might eventually get something, EOTAS if not a school. Perhaps a school eventually.

I have fought some other big fights and won but this feels different somehow.

The best thing I can definitely make happen under my own steam is a plan to get DS to 14 or 16 when there could be a point of reentry. I think I could help him make progress with a few useful things. It would be very different from school though.

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