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Dismissed from work.

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user1464187087 · 20/02/2026 23:33

Good evening,
Please be gentle with me.
I was dismissed from work a few months ago. I worked as a staff member for the police for nearly 26 years.
For many years I worked as a police 999 Call Handler and ended up sufferring with anxiety as a result. I took calls from people who comitted suicide, died in fatal house fires, people that witnessed fatal road traffic collisions and a hell of a lot more.
I was dismissed because of my sickness due to anxiety and feel it was unfair.
I was in a union and felt that they didn't help me.
Am I being unreasonable to think this is unfair?
I didn't have months off sick and had been back working full time for four months at the time of my dismissal.
I started working there when I was 17 and was dismissed when I was 42.
I can't seem to get over it.
Sorry for the long post.

OP posts:
EBearhug · 21/02/2026 22:12

If you are female unions are total rubbish.

Depends on your union. Mine has been great.

OP, I would go through all the bits of the job you lived, and then all the bits that made you ill, and try to find a job role that contains a lot of the first list and little of the second. There are all sorts of roles involving helping people who contact you, but without the potential trauma of the emergency services. For example, I've recently spoken to people on the NHS Blood and Donor site - it's probably going to be lots of talking about whether people are eligible to donate and where their local centres are, nothing like the adrenalin of the emergency services, but still very important. I've no idea if there are any vacancies or where they're actually based, but it's just an idea to help you with thinking about alternative options.

YourSassyPanda · 21/02/2026 20:35

Emergency services life is tough and you need a lot of resilience to cope with it, even on the outskirts of the action in an admin or call centre type role where you aren’t physically being put in danger every day.

You used to be able to do it without a problem, now a toll has been taken on you and you aren’t able to do it anymore. This isn’t a failure on your part, just a sign that you’ve given enough of yourself and now it’s time to move onto something a bit easier on the soul. Not everything can be for all of us forever, your employer isn’t at fault of the rules have been followed but neither are you. Times change and people change and I hope you are very happy in your new position.

SunnyRedSnail · 21/02/2026 20:35

LoudTealHare · 21/02/2026 19:31

There is no such thing as medical redundancy! They should have pushed for medical retirement as they’d have to make her up to the earliest date she could retire!

Medical retirement then rather than redundancy. But this woman is a big union person and made a miraculous recovery to turn up for the last two weeks of term last July. She makes lots of demands then goes off sick again. Its really annoying!

TheDreamyFinch · 21/02/2026 20:29

I am police staff and in my experience with HR and also police staff regs and in my experience a good employer it is rare for this to happen. How helpful was your union?

LoudTealHare · 21/02/2026 19:31

SunnyRedSnail · 21/02/2026 17:48

It's sad that you didn't get the help when you needed it and they're treating you like a statistic rather than a person.

Personally I'd write them a strongly worded letter saying how hard you worked, detail about calls you handled, the impact it had on you, and most of your absence is due to their own failure to provide the support you needed in a timely manner. I'd then point out your unblemished attendance since you received the support and say that's it's a shame they cannot see beyond statistics.

But ultimately, they are going on statistics, and a computer sees you as a blot on resources.

As an example being on the other side: I work in a school and have a colleague that has had multiple long stints off with MH issues. Not only do the school have to pay for someone to take her classes, it has a huge impact on the kids (constant cover lessons), not to mention the rest of the department who have to pick up the extra work (marking, planning, extra classes once Y11/Y13 have left etc...). Except just when this person could have been made redundant on medical grounds, their union informed her to come back in for the last two weeks of term so that the school couldn't do medical redundancy. Needless to say they are now off sick again and we are all shattered. Just to point out how long term sickness impacts others...

I hope you're able to move on from this.

There is no such thing as medical redundancy! They should have pushed for medical retirement as they’d have to make her up to the earliest date she could retire!

LoudTealHare · 21/02/2026 19:25

user1464187087 · 20/02/2026 23:33

Good evening,
Please be gentle with me.
I was dismissed from work a few months ago. I worked as a staff member for the police for nearly 26 years.
For many years I worked as a police 999 Call Handler and ended up sufferring with anxiety as a result. I took calls from people who comitted suicide, died in fatal house fires, people that witnessed fatal road traffic collisions and a hell of a lot more.
I was dismissed because of my sickness due to anxiety and feel it was unfair.
I was in a union and felt that they didn't help me.
Am I being unreasonable to think this is unfair?
I didn't have months off sick and had been back working full time for four months at the time of my dismissal.
I started working there when I was 17 and was dismissed when I was 42.
I can't seem to get over it.
Sorry for the long post.

Contact Acas for advice. Did you appeal at the time? If you didn’t it may make it harder but Acas are best placed to advise you

SunnyRedSnail · 21/02/2026 17:48

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 17:27

Hi,
Your post has made me cry!!
I have no idea who you are.
That is such a lovely message.

It's sad that you didn't get the help when you needed it and they're treating you like a statistic rather than a person.

Personally I'd write them a strongly worded letter saying how hard you worked, detail about calls you handled, the impact it had on you, and most of your absence is due to their own failure to provide the support you needed in a timely manner. I'd then point out your unblemished attendance since you received the support and say that's it's a shame they cannot see beyond statistics.

But ultimately, they are going on statistics, and a computer sees you as a blot on resources.

As an example being on the other side: I work in a school and have a colleague that has had multiple long stints off with MH issues. Not only do the school have to pay for someone to take her classes, it has a huge impact on the kids (constant cover lessons), not to mention the rest of the department who have to pick up the extra work (marking, planning, extra classes once Y11/Y13 have left etc...). Except just when this person could have been made redundant on medical grounds, their union informed her to come back in for the last two weeks of term so that the school couldn't do medical redundancy. Needless to say they are now off sick again and we are all shattered. Just to point out how long term sickness impacts others...

I hope you're able to move on from this.

AnotherNameChange1234567 · 21/02/2026 17:42

What date were you dismissed? I think it’s worth taking to a tribunal if within time limits.

bikiniwaxlyrical · 21/02/2026 17:42

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 16:47

My sickness record was poor prior to the 4 months of me being back at work.
I don't think anyone can deny that, least of all me.
I had several occasions where I was signed off by my GP.
I think it's the years prior to being poorly that upset me.
Ive just mentioned to another poster that a few years ago I got my long service and good conduct medal. It's not much use to me now.
Anyway, it's just a bit of feeling sorry for myself I suppose.

Are you saying you redeployed and lasted four months before going sick again?

Soontobe60 · 21/02/2026 17:41

IwishIcouldconfess · 21/02/2026 08:28

Surely if you can't cope with a job, which is known to be stressful, you ensure you have good coping mechanisms, look after yourself, ask for help, look for another role, not keep going off bloody sick!

If only it was sooo simple!

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 17:27

Ineedolourinmylife · 21/02/2026 10:56

I recognise this poster as I also worked at the exact same place and the mental health support for call handlers is absolutely terrible. I did it for 2 years and at the end was in such a state i had to leave. The force literally treat their call handlers like a number sat on a seat and if u are not there, there is no support its just a problem. There is no apreciation of the trauma and unless you have done the job you have no idea what it is like. The OP was amazing at their job and did it to an excellent standard for a very long time, if the support had been there like it should have been it wouldnt have come to this for them. OP, I think you have been treated disgustingly by the force and you should hold your head high. You will be an asset to any employer moving forward and I really hope you find something that makes you happy.

Hi,
Your post has made me cry!!
I have no idea who you are.
That is such a lovely message.

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bikiniwaxlyrical · 21/02/2026 17:26

To be fair. I have never known anyone be sacked because of sickness in the police so your sickness record must have been horrendous. You get six months paid sick leave???

mellicauli · 21/02/2026 17:17

You can be proud that you spent 26 years helping many thousands of people at the point they needed it most. I am sure you dealt calmly and efficiently with life and death situations, saving people and keeping them from harm.

You are a conscientious and reliable worker who turned up for work even when the intolerable working conditions led to mental health issues. You could have signed off sick, but you didn't. You wanted to continue to come in and do what you could. Any failure was just the inevitable result of employers who asked too much and failed to act in your best interests.

43% of police operators stay in the job for less than 5 years, so your contribution was far above what most people can give to such a role.

So hold your head up high. You have so much to be proud of and lots of transferrable skills that employers will be lucky to have.

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 17:14

IwishIcouldconfess · 21/02/2026 08:53

The OP is being very candid about facts.
I bet support was offered!

I had couselling through work and now i've been dismissed i'm paying for my own.
Work absolutely supplied counselling.
I know a lot of people are saying that i'm not giving the full picture here.
What do you want to know?
Remember this is new territory to me.

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sophiasnail · 21/02/2026 17:13

I am in a totally different industry, so it might be different in the police, but were you given specific targets as part of the capability procedure? And if so, did you meet them?

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 17:08

IwishIcouldconfess · 21/02/2026 08:28

Surely if you can't cope with a job, which is known to be stressful, you ensure you have good coping mechanisms, look after yourself, ask for help, look for another role, not keep going off bloody sick!

You charmer. Even shouting the last bit.
I took 999 calls for years without 'going of bloody sick'.
Dealing with trauma can build up on you over years, a drip drip effect if you like.
That's what happened to me anyway.
At the time of doing that job (before becoming poorly) I was running 10k three or four times a week.
I also got myself a less stressful job in the police that I applied for.
I can understand your post if I had done the job for a month, however I think you are being a bit harsh.

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FishersGate · 21/02/2026 17:04

Its probably also relevant how often your sickness periods were in comparison to your years of service. That's what they will be taking into account

FishersGate · 21/02/2026 17:02

Also its well known call handlers have high turnover due to stress

FishersGate · 21/02/2026 17:01

combatewok · 21/02/2026 13:25

I’m not a HR professional so happy to be corrected.

Every police force will have an attendance standard such as a certain amount of time or periods you can have off In a rolling 12 month period.

You could’ve had anxiety / mental health issues covered under the Equality Act (Although I assume they’re well documented). The organisation has a legal obligation to implement reasonable adjustments to see if they can support you in remaining in Work. The keyword is reasonable. If you were struggling in your call takers role due to health issues, they should’ve put some restrictions in place for you and if the restrictions needed to be long-term, they could’ve looked at the Adjusted Duties panel- one of the outcomes of that would be relocating someone into an alternative position that they are able to do, which in your case would’ve been the helpdesk.

if you were dismissed solely for attendance, the typical route would be going down the UPP - (attendance) And there would be usually a stage 1, 2, 3 with 3 being the point where you can be dismissed. The two outcomes from each stage would either be no further action or formal
Attendance plan whereby you have to meet attendance standards during that formal
plan period and keep them up during the validity period afterwards.

The only way that they could or should be dealing with attendance or performance issues outside of the UPP is if you were in the probation, but you're clearly not in probation.

If you’ve been keeping your attendance up and not breached any formal Attendance plan and this is down to disability related illness and they haven't been through all of those stages then I think possibly it would be worth speaking to ACAS Regarding disability discrimination, especially
If you feel that adjustments weren't made and you were properly supported?

Agree with this. I am police staff gor 19yrs here. I have a chronic health condition requiring monthly treatment before diagnosis they were terrible and I was put in attendance procedures, as to be honest they were poor but I got unison help. Once diagnosed 10 years ago, I have occ health support, reasonable adjustments such as home working and some leeway with absence due my condition being DDA covered.

I am surprised you were allowed to apply and move whilst on a procedure? I have have holiday restrictions, overtime restrictions previously.

Truth is like a lot of places they really dont give a shit and you are replaceable. Loyalty means nothing

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 16:59

IwishIcouldconfess · 21/02/2026 08:18

Come on OP
Tell us the full story and not just your side
Capability procedures take years!

What do you want to know?
I'm not in the habit of making fairy tales up to total strangers who I will never meet anyway.
What would I have to gain by doing that?
I've lost my job. Maybe my employer was right to dismiss me. My sickness record wasn't good at all.
I went through the capability process and was dismissed due to sickness.
There were no issues with my performance whilst at work.
Feel free to ask anything that you think I am intentionally holding back.
I also agree that an organisation cannot employ someone forever if they keep going off sick.
Before I suffered with anxiety I had an unblemished record with no issues.
I only became ill a couple of years before being dismissed and that was due to taking 999 calls for 12 hours at a time either working day or night shifts.
Have you ever been on the phone with anyone when they have jumped off a bridge? Infront of a train? Trying desperately to talk them out of it.
Maybe you have, I don't know. But years of dealing with that takes it's toll on anyone.
I'm sorry if you don't believe me or think i'm holding things back, but feel free to ask.

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Manglewangle · 21/02/2026 16:59

I think the Equality Act has worked against people in some ways in that an employer is obliged to follow their absence policy to avoid treating people differently from each other. It may well come down to how many occasions and how long for the sick leave. If it crosses thresholds, they follow their absence policy regardless of whether you’ve worked there two years or twenty. The policy I’m under at the local authority is worded in a way to allow some discretion from my line manager. A lot depends on the particular sickness absence policy your employer has.

SmudgeButt · 21/02/2026 16:50

Sorry to hear this has happened.

Frankly I think someone would need to be made of forged steel and coated with teflon to take 999 calls for more than a short period of time. Probably won't make you feel any better but you're not alone in not coping. I knew a chap who was a volunteer for Samaritans and he got dismissed from his bland call centre job as every call he took there started triggering things.

I've also known a few high level finance types who got massively stressed from the pressure at work and quit. A couple of them are quite happy now stocking shelves and staffing tills at Tesco. I think it's a case of finding that good balance that is going to work for each individual.

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 16:47

PretendHedgehog · 21/02/2026 07:50

I'm sorry you're upset but you repeatedly say you haven't been off sick for four months.

It kinda indicates you've been off sick for quite a lot, repeatedly, and not doing so for four months is an achievement of sorts?

I feel you havent really given the full picture here. Maybe not intentionally, but also maybe intentionally

My sickness record was poor prior to the 4 months of me being back at work.
I don't think anyone can deny that, least of all me.
I had several occasions where I was signed off by my GP.
I think it's the years prior to being poorly that upset me.
Ive just mentioned to another poster that a few years ago I got my long service and good conduct medal. It's not much use to me now.
Anyway, it's just a bit of feeling sorry for myself I suppose.

OP posts:
user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 16:39

GirlFromMontmartre · 21/02/2026 07:40

Police HR here…. Capability is a LONG process, with a huge period of investigation.
There is more to this story I would wager.
Was the desk job a temp redeployment?

Hi there,
I have said a couple of times that I'm not witholding any information intentionally.
I might not be explaining myself brilliantly, but I literally have no reason to lie to strangers or hold information back.
I am trying to reply to this thread as and when I can.
The job on the front desk of the police station was not linked to any redeployment, I applied for it and was successful.
I then continued to struggle with anxiety and was off sick further.
I can't remember the exact number of occasions (I would tell you if I could).
But it was clearly a lot.

I'm not saying that what my employer did was inherently wrong. Just harsh after 25 years.
I got my long service and good conduct medal a few years ago after an unblemished career.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 21/02/2026 16:32

user1464187087 · 21/02/2026 16:21

That's a good question.
I had had quite a lot of sickness, but in blocks and signed off by my GP
I also lost a large amount of weight during this time due to stress, but it wasn't a case of taking a day off here and a day off there.
I can't remember the exact amount of sickness leave I took, I would tell you if I could because i've nothing to lose now, it was a lot.
I'm not saying that my employer should have kept me unconditionally, however i had demonstrated that I was capable of being back in work for four months without issues.
There were no performance issues at all, just the sickness.

I understand how hard this must have been, OP, but from what you've said, it sounds like you were in a pattern of getting signed off, then going back for a period, and then getting signed off again. Is that right?

If that's the case, it might simply be that, even though you had been back at work for 4 months, they had lost confidence that you were going to be able to maintain it. Do you think that's possible?

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