To feel incredibly sorry for myself?

Do you feel a bit replaced? That's OK to admit. I've felt like that before and in some ways I found it harder than the relationship ending. Maybe you should withdraw from his family, not because they've done anything wrong, just for you.

…and if she has met someone, they’ll never, ever be allowed to go this special place with her or anyone else…

YABU @Carlie97 . You broke up with him 8 years ago, this is ancient history and if you are ruminating on it that is your issue. I understand all you say about social media links with his family but that is your choice, you don’t have to be friends with them and if you choose to do so you take the risk you will see stuff like this.

We might all feel faintly nostalgic for old relationships from time to time, especially in the circumstances you describe but it’s silly, you can go to the “special place” if you want to but it isn’t your’s and the reality is if you share a place or activity with a partner and they like it they will go on to share it with others in the future.

Rude!!!

I would remove his family from social media, they will always be his family and you will always be their family members ex-girlfriend first and foremost even if you’ve grown to be friends I think it would be healthier and kinder to yourself to just cut ties on social media.

It’s been a significant amount of time now since the break up and your reaction to PP giving you some advice was really out of proportion. I think you could do with seeking some support with your mental health.

AIBU to feel sorry for myself over this?

After 8 weeks / 8 months - YANBU
After 8 years - YABU

I meant she(my exes new thing) will find out soon enough how lazy he is.........
Of course people move on, thank god🤣

Seems a like a massive overreaction to be this upset about an ex so long ago. He has every right to go to a place he likes with his partner and family. If you still go, why shouldn’t he?

On the other hand, in order to block the new girl friend as mentioned upthread, OP would have had to look her up on FB (unless they knew each other to begin with) in order to block her, which wouldn’t have been a particularly healthy thing to do.
It sounds like she was taken aback by the strength of her reaction to finding her long-ago ex taking new GF to ‘their’ places. I suspect that the breakup was led by him, and still hurts somewhere inside, especially if OP hasn’t found a lovely new partner to move on with.
Hope you can process this soon , @Carlie97

So this is somewhere he goes with his family, if they are tagged. Not just a couple thing? And it's somewhere you still go without him?

Yabu to expect him not to go there with or without his new gf then. He can hardly say to his family no we can't come, that was a special place 8 years ago.

Yanbu to feel whatever feelings you feel, but you need to deal with them to move on after this long.

Starting to think the guy is better off…

I’m confused as to why people are assuming you’d instantly block the gf.

I’d never go on to an ex’s new partners Facebook page - that would be odd.

Plus I assume that OP did not realise that she’d feel so strongly about the photos and so there was no need.
It sounds like the type of photos (visiting the same place) are what has hurt more than the actual photos together.

Its ok to advise blocking the new gf now but it’s not helpful to ask why someone didn’t already do something - how is that good advice, that’s just trying to kick someone when they’re down.

Well you are clearly severely lacking in emotional intelligence. You are presumably at least around the age of 30. You are pining after somebody that you broke up with almost 10 years ago. You're following that man's relatives on social media then whining that you're getting updates about your ex's life.

If you can't do the adult thing and shrug then scroll on then you obviously need to unfollow or block these relatives or leave facebook altogether. Social media isn't mandatory. It's not like Skynet are going to come and arrest you if you block these posts...... and you're telling the pp they're stupid?....🤣

My friend took his second wife to the same honeymoon destination as his first marriage! He said “I have all my honeymoons here!”

Both first and second wives thought it was hilarious.

How you get and more sleep after this snarky response!

Unfriend the family if you don’t want to see him enjoying his new life.

And it’s time to move on also.

I'm sorry you're feeling down about this. I guess even after a time it's a shock to see but I think a PP makes a good point about 'wouldn't you like to take someone you love to this special place' when the time comes.

Also the one who said men are unoriginal with stuff like this. About 6 months after I ended my marriage XH took his new girlfriend to the holiday let we'd stayed in after we got married - there were pics of her on FB in the bed where we'd consummated our marriage 😂!

None of this sounds healthy.
You sound like you havent moved on at all. Id really consider therapy.

Great that his family are nice. But they are HIS family.
Unless you and his sister run a food bank together on something you should just remove his family and get on with your life.

As an fyi one of my exs proposed to his now wife at a place I showed him and we spent a lot of tike together at 😅 i didnt think much about it beyond it being humorous because it showed his tragic lack of imagination.

Stop speaking to his family, block him - move on. You haven’t really moved on.. it’s so hard I know but it’s time. Don’t let him have any more of your life!! He’s clearly got no imagination. Find a new place that is yours to love; forget about the one he’s gone to. He’s not as great as you think op! Hugs xxxx

It can of course be very hurtful.

As a PP said, it’s ok to be sad but it’s not ok to wallow in it - you only hurt yourself.

It seems a shame to block/unfriend his family members as they were such a big part of your life but if seeing things like this is going to hurt you, then it may be the best thing for it.

I personally find coming off FB all together, or just having a good break from it does wonders for your MH.
I have not been on it for years.

You need to remember that he was just a chapter in your life.

I look back on my teen years and feel so sad that I’m not that young and carefree anymore but I then I remember the negatives of that age too and now I am an adult and can do whatever I want.

They say we spend too much time focusing on the past and future, and not enough time focusing on the present.

Be thankful that chapter is over and focus on the chapter you are on now.

Oh, and you should apologise, but I suspect we won’t hear from you again…

Wow. People are right, blocking the girlfriend will mean you don’t see their posts on his family’s Facebook. Which is odd that you even still follow his family, as surely you’d see other posts that could include him. I’d unfriend all of them. You clearly aren’t over him. Staying friends with his family brings no benefit whatsoever.

Op, you didn’t respond to if you have met someone, I’m guessing the answer is no. Do you want to be with this man? Were you thinking he was single as he couldn’t replace you? What’s behind your feelings, if you can try to understand that it may help you move on.

Find put what? And ex moves on people do it is normal, men do it women do it people dont always stay with the same person it is not abnormal to move on

Wow calling someone very stupid is uncalled for. People are only trying to help, maybe get some therapy and grow up yourself. After 8 years you shouldn’t be feeling sad over an ex. The only stupid one I see is you for still following an ex’s family on sm that aren’t your family.

And this rude comment has lost any sympathy from me

there is no need for it

you broke up 8 years ago and have chosen to remain friends on sm /real life with some of his family. You can’t therefore be surprised if any girlfriend of his ex will also do the same and hence you see the post. Do you expect them not to make friends with their boyfriend’s family? The norm is you would not be remaining in contact with them

likewise he has the right to take his girlfriend to any place he likes.

block her now and get on with your life