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Kid is sick, then carries on into family attraction

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Breadandbutta · 20/02/2026 14:35

I'm just interested in what other people think.
A kid, pale as a sheet, walking slowly, threw up just before the entrance to a family attraction this morning. I'd say they were about 9yrs, with mum/dad/siblings. Not much sick, mostly liquid, so presumably they had a fairly empty stomach. Dad gave the child some water to rinse his mouth and the family carried on into the attraction and headed straight to the toilets. Dad was walking alongside him. Mum didn't bat an eyelid and stayed with their other 2 children.

Aibu to think they should've gone home? I'm just curious as to what others think when they see a kid throwing up in public when about to embark on a half term day out in a busy place with lots of kids! Or is there probably a reasonable explanation for the kids sickness, other than a gastro bug?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/02/2026 22:59

Tbh it might have freaked me out too and I’d be washing my hands extra carefullly all day.

But it could well be something like travel sickness as pps have said.

Sounds like parents might have made the classic error of thinking an empty stomach helps car sickness! As a sufferer myself, it’s miles worse if you’re hungry. I’m best if reasonably full of plainish nutritious food, have plain food like crackers or something to snack on in the car and plenty of water. Absolutely no sweets or anything like squash. My parents as non sufferers got that wrong in all counts - thought an empty stomach, “sweets to suck” (🤮) and squash in the car might help 🤮🤮

FrozenFebruary · 20/02/2026 22:56

Yeah especially given the mum wasn't paying much attention to it I'd say routine car sickness (my god daughter would throw up on any car journey over 10 minutes. One if us would sort her out, the other would watch the other kids. She would look pale, walk slowly etc but 5 minutes later be bounding about.

my niece was on medication for a long time when she was young, that made her sick, not contagious!

there is SO much Noro etc around at the minent, extra hand washing is just sensible especially where there are so many people.

Thechaseison71 · 20/02/2026 22:52

User9767475 · 20/02/2026 20:41

Emetophobe here and I would also hate to see that! However if the family seems very desensitised to it then it's probably harmless. A child who normally isn't sick but suddenly gets sick in a public place will send most parents into a tiff because they know it's a virus or worse. It seems like the family barely reacted so they've seen it before.

A genuine question for those with kids who have travel sickness (or had it themselves)...do most families still plan long trips despite the fact it would almost certainly put the child through a lot of nausea, stress and discomfort. It sounds cruel to me knowing that a child reacts badly to a situation, yet repeatedly forcing them to go through with it. It's like knowing a child has gluten intolerance but forcing them to eat bread and suffer the consequences. I could never get my head around why some families are happy to let a sibling be extremely travel sick on trips instead of avoiding it somehow.

Obviously, from a certain age they can make their own decisions just like adults can decide to go cruising despite seasickness. But it seems very odd to force young children into car journeys where they will inevitably be sick and they have no way of defending themselves. If you put a child through any other sort of situation where they ended up sick (violence, force feeding, neglect) then you would probably be reported for abuse.

Not necessarily long journeys though. My friends daughter could throw up on a 10 min car journey from nursery or school.

Breadandbutta · 20/02/2026 22:46

freakingscared · 20/02/2026 21:39

can you not understand some people safe for years to go places ? Can you imagine being at Disneyland or disneyworld and others expecting you to just go home because a kid is sick ? My daughter gets travel sickness it was probably that

Yes. I've been to center parcs before, which is known for people getting sick, and the woman at the customer service desk infront of me was asking for more bedding and towels, because her child had been up and sick all night. Her child was sat in the Starbucks opposite laying all over the table. Urgh. She should've kept him in the lodge!!!!

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Climbingrosexx · 20/02/2026 22:44

My first thought was car sick if they were just walking into the attraction. Otherwise if a bug I definitely would take them home, not much fun for anyone if a kid is throwing up

Breadandbutta · 20/02/2026 22:44

Anyahyacinth · 20/02/2026 21:28

I think I've met them. Toby carvery child puked into his yorkshire pudding parents who were sat drinking at another table came over and shook him and told him off...no comfort nothing. The other children went on eating. They left a while after and said not a word to staff. Awful.
We fled as couldn't afford to pick up Noro ...guilty and powerless about the child

😷 yuk yuk yuk.

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freakingscared · 20/02/2026 22:43

YourGreenCat · 20/02/2026 21:43

Here's one 😂

Who cares if the poor kid is too sick to enjoy anything, mummy wants her money worth and he will damn well enjoy it.

It's pathetic but too frequent.

I doubt anyone would do that. That is not what op described here

Breadandbutta · 20/02/2026 22:42

IveStillNotGotThisFiguredOut · 20/02/2026 21:24

Maybe it’s a migraine

Maybe car sickness

Maybe he is unwell but begging to go along.

I don’t think sick people have to self isolate unless they are so unwell they want to.

NHS advises 48h isolation since last episode of d or v.

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Breadandbutta · 20/02/2026 22:41

PollyBell · 20/02/2026 21:22

Could be car sick or any number of things i dont automatically panic when someome is visibly sick and assume it is contagious

I do ... But wish I didn't!!

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Breadandbutta · 20/02/2026 22:39

BuildbyNumbere · 20/02/2026 20:45

If he was sick due to a bug surely would be unwell also and not able to walk around the park?!?

He was walking reallllyyy slowly and walking along behind his family, with dad.

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Denim4ever · 20/02/2026 22:07

Sounds like travel sickness on this occasion.

People's approach to children being ill is baffling sometimes though. I saw an insta reel where a mom described and filmed her childs first sick day off school. He felt better by lunchtime, although still felt very hot, so they took him for a burger and a milkshake. The latter was to cool him down. Some people are daft and shameless in equal measure.
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YourGreenCat · 20/02/2026 21:43

freakingscared · 20/02/2026 21:39

can you not understand some people safe for years to go places ? Can you imagine being at Disneyland or disneyworld and others expecting you to just go home because a kid is sick ? My daughter gets travel sickness it was probably that

Here's one 😂

Who cares if the poor kid is too sick to enjoy anything, mummy wants her money worth and he will damn well enjoy it.

It's pathetic but too frequent.

YourGreenCat · 20/02/2026 21:42

YANBU

but having a sick child has never stopped this kind of parents to go through with their existing plans, their holidays, or just send the poor things to school.

Too many idiot and selfish parents around unfortunately.

I feel so sorry for the little ones with earaches that are made to fly because mummy needs a sunlounge break, the pain must be excruciating.

freakingscared · 20/02/2026 21:39

can you not understand some people safe for years to go places ? Can you imagine being at Disneyland or disneyworld and others expecting you to just go home because a kid is sick ? My daughter gets travel sickness it was probably that

PersephonePomegranate · 20/02/2026 21:38

I second travel sickness here.

teafor1 · 20/02/2026 21:36

My child gets travel sick and because of anxiety. As a fellow emetephobe I feel your pain! But I’ve had to get on with it with my child. So yes she’s been sick like the child you saw today but she then went on the enjoy the day. It sucks for everyone.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 20/02/2026 21:30

Travel sick.

LoveSandbanks · 20/02/2026 21:28

One of my boys is a “fainter” and used to
throw up with it. It was more common in warm weather. Once threw up waiting to enter an outside pool. Absolutely no indication of illness and the best thing for him was to cool down in the water.

I have NEVER sent my children to school or other event with any sign of gastro illness but the fainting/puke was a different thing entirely.

Trust that the parents know best.

Anyahyacinth · 20/02/2026 21:28

I think I've met them. Toby carvery child puked into his yorkshire pudding parents who were sat drinking at another table came over and shook him and told him off...no comfort nothing. The other children went on eating. They left a while after and said not a word to staff. Awful.
We fled as couldn't afford to pick up Noro ...guilty and powerless about the child

IveStillNotGotThisFiguredOut · 20/02/2026 21:24

Maybe it’s a migraine

Maybe car sickness

Maybe he is unwell but begging to go along.

I don’t think sick people have to self isolate unless they are so unwell they want to.

PollyBell · 20/02/2026 21:22

Could be car sick or any number of things i dont automatically panic when someome is visibly sick and assume it is contagious

Bemused89 · 20/02/2026 21:20

I would think in this case probably it was a child who suffered from motion sickness due to the journey. If they are continuing on with their day without batting an eyelid it's not likely to be illness and probably happens all the time. I think the phrase not my circus not my monkeys applies here.

Queenoftartts · 20/02/2026 21:16

Most likely travel sickness my DD sometimes used to be sick after a TC seizure. We would never have got anywhere if we went home every time she was sick.

amusedbush · 20/02/2026 21:10

User9767475 · 20/02/2026 20:41

Emetophobe here and I would also hate to see that! However if the family seems very desensitised to it then it's probably harmless. A child who normally isn't sick but suddenly gets sick in a public place will send most parents into a tiff because they know it's a virus or worse. It seems like the family barely reacted so they've seen it before.

A genuine question for those with kids who have travel sickness (or had it themselves)...do most families still plan long trips despite the fact it would almost certainly put the child through a lot of nausea, stress and discomfort. It sounds cruel to me knowing that a child reacts badly to a situation, yet repeatedly forcing them to go through with it. It's like knowing a child has gluten intolerance but forcing them to eat bread and suffer the consequences. I could never get my head around why some families are happy to let a sibling be extremely travel sick on trips instead of avoiding it somehow.

Obviously, from a certain age they can make their own decisions just like adults can decide to go cruising despite seasickness. But it seems very odd to force young children into car journeys where they will inevitably be sick and they have no way of defending themselves. If you put a child through any other sort of situation where they ended up sick (violence, force feeding, neglect) then you would probably be reported for abuse.

I suffered terribly with travel sickness as a child, to the point my mum said the car would barely be off the driveway and I'd be vomiting. We couldn't go anywhere without bags, wet wipes and a clean t-shirt for me.

I remember how awful it was but meds didn't work and if I didn't just get on with it, we'd never have left the house. Thankfully I grew out of it in my late teens.

LlynTegid · 20/02/2026 21:02

I'm thinking travel sickness most likely not an infection.

Probably could have travelled a distance and the cost of the outing a stretch financially, so very unlikely to just go back home.