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To be unsure of how much I actually believe on here

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Youllneverseemeagainn · 20/02/2026 12:07

Anybody can write whatever they want and can fabricate everything.
I'm amazed by the number of posters who claim to earn circa 200k (and no not just women). They claim they've 'worked damn hard' to get here and now only need to work about 3 hours a week in some mysterious role. The number of people earning this sort of salary in reality is very low, what are the odds that they're all on Mumsnet?

The number of posters with perfect marriages, still having amazing sex 3 times a day after 65 years of marriage, slept together within 3 seconds of meeting and moved in together the same day, husband covers the bed in rose petals still every day and so on. Again it's not the norm.

Everyone's child is a strapping 6'4 with 'model looks', thin as a rake despite eating 4000 calories a day.

It's just not representative of most people, I'm not saying the above doesn't exist but it's the number of posts on here that stipulate things like this, it feels very exaggerated, does anyone else find this?

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Whowhatwhere21 · 20/02/2026 12:21

I kind of agree, but I've also been on the receiving end of people calling bullshit on me.
Under an old username, I started a thread a few years back as I found a kilo of cocaine in the cellar of my house. It was so utterly bizarre and noone was around for me to tell! So I shared it on here. I don't think a single person on the thread believed me and i was called a liar over several pages. which i do kind of understand as its obviously a strange find, But at the same time, its a bit of an odd thing to make up. I gave up trying to defend myself in the end 😅

IsTheOffDutyDoneYet · 20/02/2026 12:19

If it makes you feel any better OP I certainly do not make £200K, though I worked hard (as a lot of us do) for my role. I don’t have a cleaner, I hoovered yesterday afternoon throughout and due to DDogs it looks like I haven’t bothered. My mental health is in the toilet and I’m having breathing hyperawareness and panic on the daily that is quite literally pushing me to the brink. Oh, and none of my DC are towers of perfection either. Not that this makes them anything bad at all. But sometimes I do read some threads and think if that was my biggest problem I’d be floating. Unfortunately people lie, people over egg the pudding as it were. You have to take things with a pinch (or a fistful) of salt some times.

Youllneverseemeagainn · 20/02/2026 12:13

They overpay the mortgage by £3000 every month, 2 years of salary in a savings account, £500 per week shopping bill for 2, but life is very tough on this wage don't you know!

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Robertplantgoddess · 20/02/2026 12:11

If someone posts that my kids are short/ average and im just about scraping by with relentless shite - people want to better that and so will bend the truth until it snaps.
For what its worth i have a very average life/income etc but I love it.

Playingvideogames · 20/02/2026 12:10

Oh and their children are always ‘well over the 99th centile’ - what are the odds!

plentyofsunshine · 20/02/2026 12:10

YANBU It's very common on mumsnet to tell fibs about

  1. how much you earn
  2. how much you pay your cleaner
  3. what activities you have got booked in for christmas

Take it all with a pinch of salt, I do.

Youllneverseemeagainn · 20/02/2026 12:10

Playingvideogames · 20/02/2026 12:09

Yes, the posters who have these incredible lives who would definitely LTB if he didn’t put the loo seat down, and don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a DH that ‘pulls his weight 50:50’

Yeah right!

Exactly! These DHs who get up at 4am to clean the house top to bottom and do a monthly shop before cooking breakfast in bed for their wife every morning..right.

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Playingvideogames · 20/02/2026 12:09

Yes, the posters who have these incredible lives who would definitely LTB if he didn’t put the loo seat down, and don’t know anyone who doesn’t have a DH that ‘pulls his weight 50:50’

Yeah right!

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