Me and my ex share 2 DC together.
Both under 4 and live with me full time.
I live in a rented HA property whilst he currently resides in a council flat.
Because I live in a house he is adamant that he should also live in a house.
He is 43 and feels as if the time is going for him to purchase a property.
He is now asking if he can stop paying me child maintenance so when he goes for a mortgage it won't show on his bank statements that he pays me XYZ every week.
He was out of work from November last year and only started work last week.
He paid me no money this time.
He generally is an awful person to be honest.
In my last pregnancy I suffered life threatening complications during child birth and all he did was abuse me in the hospital and even the midwives were so alarmed that they had written this in my notes.
All he did was complain about having time of work to help me with the baby.
He see's DC for few hours a week and think thats parenting, he has no idea how hard it is.
He has also just got a new car Mercedes on HP.
I don't feel this is fair or right what he is asking.
I want to know would I be unreasonable to just let it all go through the courts?
I don't want him seeing the kids when he is not even paying me.
He only see's them for 4 hours on a weekend.
Never had them stay over.
He does live 45 minutes away however which is a huge factor due to petrol.
It is hard for me as I only work part time and I would love to save for a house but it would be impossible at this stage.