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AIBU? Cousin named baby extremely similar name to mine

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DazedAndConfuseddd · 20/02/2026 08:34

My cousin (husband's cousin but I've been close with her for 13 years) recently had a baby boy and named him Albie. My 2 year old son is called Alfie. Feeling very uncomfortable with how similar their names are. They could have chosen from thousands and I just don't understand how someone wouldn't consider that or my feelings.

We are very close and they will be growing up around each other. She didn't even give me a heads up or check if I had an issue beforehand. I feel pissed off and upset.

For context, Alfie is a rainbow baby who has his own serious health conditions. He was a miracle baby and his name was something we spent a long time manifesting and talking about with family. My husband doesn't see the problem and almost gets annoyed at me for being annoyed.

AIBU by getting upset? I haven't brought it up to anyone and I won't, I just need someone to vent to!

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TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 20/02/2026 14:08

My parents didn't call my older sister by my name, because a girl was born nearby with the same name.

They have literally no fucking idea where this woman and other child live now.

I get mixed up with a director at work sometimes with the same name.

But nobody falls down and dies because having the same or a similar name is not that big a deal. And if you thought it would be a big deal for you, of have avoided a name in the top 20.

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