For context my parents got divorced two years ago and I’m an only child.
I recently got engaged to my partner of 7 years and the father of my daughter. I am ecstatic about it and really didn’t expect it as we are moving house soon and I just truly did not think he’d ask, let alone do it in the lovely, personal way that he did.
I announced to my mum first and got a very flat reaction, then to my dad who said ‘congratulations’ and then proceeded to tell me about his wife’s upcoming doctors appointment… we told our wider family a few days later and again, very flat reactions. It’s been a few weeks now and we haven’t even had a congratulations card. I just feel really sad about that, especially considering I’m an only child, I thought my parents would be pleased especially as they were a bit disappointed that we weren’t married before we had our child.
I was chatting to my mum a few days ago and she basically said ‘over my dead body will I stand in a room with your father’ I obviously laughed and said ‘well, apart from my wedding right?’ ….. she proceeded to shout at me and say she wouldn’t come to my wedding if my dads there. Whilst I always dreamed of the white wedding, I’m now seriously contemplating just eloping (with our baby there!) in the summer and being done with it. It’s not what we envisioned but I can’t bear the stress of keeping everyone happy.
i guess what I want to know is am I being unreasonable to A. Be upset at the general lacklustre reaction to the news of the engagement and B. Elope and deprive my parents of seeing their only child get married?!