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AIBU to be confused: some couples don’t share a bed/room with their when they have a new baby?

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Raye7 · 19/02/2026 22:06

Today i discovered some couples don’t sleep in the same bed when they have a new baby (and the dad/other parent doesn’t help through the night). It’s not something we have done or even considered.

Does your partner sleep in the same bed as you, if you have a newborn/baby who wakes in the night?

Why do people choose to do this?

(obviously i know i am being unreasonable - people can do what they want - posting here for traction)

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WombatStewForTea · 19/02/2026 22:10

Helpforsummer · 19/02/2026 22:09

I breastfeed so what's the point of us both being knackered.
I also cosleep and I'd rather have more bed. Oh and he snores 😂

This!!
Tbh I'm quite happy having my own space

AirMaster · 19/02/2026 22:10

Are you breastfeeding? Are you co-sleeping? Do you have older children who need help at night? These all have an impact! I bed share and breastfeed so baby needs me and only me all night so no point in DH getting woken up constantly in with us when he can get better sleep in the other room and tend to the bigger one when she wakes overnight.

Ca2026 · 19/02/2026 22:09

We’ve always slept in the same bed, can’t really imagine not sharing a bed with my DH but I also did the majority of the night feeds and wakes. DH usually took them down early morning as he’s an early riser where as I used to prefer a sleep in. So I would go to bed early with the baby and do the night shifts, he would take them downstairs at like 5ish until he went to work or on a weekend until I woke up.

Helpforsummer · 19/02/2026 22:09

I breastfeed so what's the point of us both being knackered.
I also cosleep and I'd rather have more bed. Oh and he snores 😂