AIBU to be confused: some couples don’t share a bed/room with their when they have a new baby?

We did the ‘norm’ with DD1.

DD2, I bedshared and breastfed on demand for 2 years. DH was in the spare room. Then DH bedshared for 6 weeks to night wean. Then all 3 of us bedshared until she was 3.

At that point, both girls shared a room with their own beds.

So where's the choking issue then?

Choking to death

Again... you're adding words and making things up. Have you your glasses on or do you enjoy just adding random things in to try make your strange points?

Could have written that

All babies in our family couldn't talk until 2,5 or 3. Swings and roundabouts.

Your grandchildren reached these milestone much earlier than the average baby. You do realise that most babies don't do these at these ages?

DD didn't sit unaided until 10 months and didn't walk until 16 months.

He didn't choke. And the one I left the beaker in the cot with COULD sit herself up then.

But no one has actually shown any instances of a baby choking to death on a sip of water

I EBF and coslept, didn't want DH in the bed as felt it would make cosleeping unsafe. DH would take the baby from early AM, like 5 or 6am, and I would lie in to catch up on sleep. It worked well, DH got a longer uninterrupted stretch of sleep but got up early. I did the night wakings but got a long lie in. When both DDs were very very young and I was still recovering from birth, DH would do the nappy changes for me so I wouldn't have to get in/out of bed, but as they got older (and grew out of the newborn "Doing fifteen shits every hour" phase), I did the nappies myself

A 10 month old isn’t a 6 month old, in fact there is an incredibly large difference.

The fact remains, most 6 month old babies cannot go from lying down to sitting completely unaided.

Not sure what one time your baby sitting in a chair really has to do with it, totally irrelevant.

I've 2 grandchildren under a year. The 7 month old sits herself up and the 10 month old walks around with his beaker without choking.

I have a video of DS at just under 4 months sitting on one of those bouncy chairs drinking from a beaker happily without choking. DD could sit herself up at that age

Physical abilities don't become less with the generations

Very, very few babies can go from lying down to sitting up completely unaided at 6 months old.
Your memory and knowledge of infants has clearly lessened due to the considerable time that has passed since you had one.

I'm asking for the REALITY. You don't seem to be able to provide any instances of it actually happening lol. Seeing as you've resorted to swearing you obviously have no proof

Again... you're making up you're own narrative. When did I say dads could sleep as opposed to mothers?

If you're going to attempt Internet arguments... stop making things up and read what you are commenting on.

Honestly just f××× off and have a bit of cop on. You're clearly outdated in your views and have nothing better to do than criticise current safe sleep practices.

You can easily Google your stupid questions instead of criticising strangers on the Internet incessantly.

What baby has choked to death in a mouthful of water then? And why is it more likely at night than during the day ? This would make the news.

As for it to be called parenting as you said above, why are the dads allowed to sleep before working the next day then? Or are they not parenting?

It's highly bloody likely... hence why it's not recommended. Good thing you were lucky eh.

I did say UNLESS poo.

6 months plus is not a tiny baby. Unlikely that a baby that can sit up and drink from a beaker the rest of the tine would suddenly choke unnoticed on a mouthful of water ,lAnd I haven't criticized anyone. Asking why is not criticism

I don’t understand what you and confused about . I did this and it was the most efficient way to actually get some sleep . I combi fed my first and my dh would give him one bottle while I slept and he would sleep while I was breastfeeding . With our second I wasn’t able to breastfeed so we slept in separate rooms and I would sleep with earplugs in until he came in and handed the baby to me. Those few hours with ear plugs were bliss.
I don’t know how people DO sleep in the same room. I can hear the baby grunting and making noise and can’t sleep . How do people actually get a proper sleep if they don’t sleep in separate rooms ? And if you are ebf why should your partner not sleep in a different room for a decent sleep . It’s not like them even changing the baby is much help

Yeah I was definitely lucky with all of mine that they stopped pooing at night really early!
But 7 month olds only poo at night if they're ill ime.

You are criticising people who have changed nappies and who breastfeed their kids through the night.

I never said anything about you being a shit mum... you're clearly making up hour own narrative.

The danger of leaving a tiny baby laying down with a beaker is called choking.... a bit more than Leakage 🙄

Ah ya.. sure let's leave a baby sit in a dirty poo nappy all night 🙄

I didn’t expect dh to do the night wakes because he was at work and I was on maternity leave. So I could at least try to get some sleep during the day.

Although with our second, he didn’t end up sleeping through properly for years, and barely napped, so in the end it was just whoever could drag themselves out of bed as we were both just exhausted.

Changing nappies for a start ( which HAS been mentioned . Or talking to them