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Despite his villainous behaviour, anyone feel a teeny bit sorry for Andrew?

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busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

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liamharha · 20/02/2026 22:04

Bought it on himself
And if he hadn't been such a inssuferable arrogant twat his entire life id be inclined to feel a bit more empathy for his current situation.
The problem with ppl like him is they only care when they realise they have e to be accountable.
He's treated ppl like shit his whole life allegedly,I very much doubt he will get any sympathy from even his nearest and dearest.

HawkinsLabsColdwarEra · 20/02/2026 22:02

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 21:52

Trump is like unstoppable as far as I can tell. Has a criminal conviction but wants go deport “criminals”.

at a guess they are not his people

Discoated · 20/02/2026 21:56

ThiagoJones · 20/02/2026 21:36

Who is ‘bullying’ him?

I can't stand it when overbearing, pushy, arrogant bullies claim to be the victims when their manipulative behaviour is exposed, and people stop doing their bidding or tolerating their patronising, corrupt actions. It's as if the moment they're held accountable for being a bully or perpetrator, they try to flip the narrative and present themselves as the victim, simply for no longer getting away with their abuse. Pitiful indeed.

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 21:52

BunfightBetty · 20/02/2026 21:47

Yes, this.

Andrew deserves this, by the sound of it, but why is it that the only two high profile people being investigated are British?

Why aren't the Americans investigating their people? Trump etc seem to be feeling immune.

Trump is like unstoppable as far as I can tell. Has a criminal conviction but wants go deport “criminals”.

BunfightBetty · 20/02/2026 21:47

henlake7 · 20/02/2026 21:45

I'm only sorry the rest of them haven't been arrested and charged.

Yes, this.

Andrew deserves this, by the sound of it, but why is it that the only two high profile people being investigated are British?

Why aren't the Americans investigating their people? Trump etc seem to be feeling immune.

henlake7 · 20/02/2026 21:45

I'm only sorry the rest of them haven't been arrested and charged.

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 21:43

WineBeforeWhine · 20/02/2026 21:27

I don’t feel sorry for him, but I do think people ought to lay off the bullying because we don’t want an unhappy outcome. You can only push someone so far.

I think the issue for me is that the scale of what he is accused of is so extraordinary.

It wasn’t one sexual assault. He was involved with a man who was trafficking women across boarders, who had a criminal conviction for being involved with a 14 year old. Who owned a private island where questionable stuff happened with a large number of high profile people such as Clinton & Gates involved.

On top of that he was up to his neck in shady & significant business dealings using his royal connections and a role he had been given to wheel & deal for his own good and to curry favour with his well connected and very rich and high profile mates.

The level he was operating at was extraordinary. One thing from the files: “it’s a pity the Gates Foundation aren’t in Afghanistan”. So he could what exactly? In a war torn country?

Is he being “bullied” or is the level of press attention appropriate given all this?

ThiagoJones · 20/02/2026 21:36

WineBeforeWhine · 20/02/2026 21:27

I don’t feel sorry for him, but I do think people ought to lay off the bullying because we don’t want an unhappy outcome. You can only push someone so far.

Who is ‘bullying’ him?

scottishgirl69 · 20/02/2026 21:29

WineBeforeWhine · 20/02/2026 21:27

I don’t feel sorry for him, but I do think people ought to lay off the bullying because we don’t want an unhappy outcome. You can only push someone so far.

He's a cunt and he deserves all he gets - legally

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 21:28

WineBeforeWhine · 20/02/2026 21:27

I don’t feel sorry for him, but I do think people ought to lay off the bullying because we don’t want an unhappy outcome. You can only push someone so far.

Who is bullying?

WineBeforeWhine · 20/02/2026 21:27

I don’t feel sorry for him, but I do think people ought to lay off the bullying because we don’t want an unhappy outcome. You can only push someone so far.

HawkinsLabsColdwarEra · 20/02/2026 21:25

ThiagoJones · 20/02/2026 21:24

He was released yesterday. It was reported last night. People can only be held for questioning for a certain amount of time.

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fair points ,

ThiagoJones · 20/02/2026 21:24

HawkinsLabsColdwarEra · 20/02/2026 21:22

according to todays papers hes been released

He was released yesterday. It was reported last night. People can only be held for questioning for a certain amount of time.

HawkinsLabsColdwarEra · 20/02/2026 21:22

according to todays papers hes been released

WhaAMess · 20/02/2026 21:10

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 20:46

If you leave that aside, he couldn’t seem to stop seeking a profile, & money grabbing. He could have taken a step back in that respect but he didn’t.

It’s often all part of being a predator. They get off on doing it in plain sight.

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 20:46

WhaAMess · 20/02/2026 20:37

People who are sexual deviants wouldn’t be satisfied with that life.

If you leave that aside, he couldn’t seem to stop seeking a profile, & money grabbing. He could have taken a step back in that respect but he didn’t.

WhaAMess · 20/02/2026 20:37

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 20:32

I agree with this.

He has had so many opportunities to actually behave but he seems to have been on a self satisfaction I'll do what I want journey. I will always wonder how much the Palace have tried to rein him in. I would love to know.

As I said before elsewhere... he could have had a fantastic life. Travelling to the best places in the world first class and more , spending time with his grandchildren, a bit of philanthropy and charity work, playing golf all over the world on his favourite courses but no... he just was so so greedy and told the public to just fuck off questioning him! He deserves all he gets.

People who are sexual deviants wouldn’t be satisfied with that life.

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 20:32

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 20:23

Tbh I agree with this to some extent, but the man is blindingly arrogant & has been for years. He had thousands of opportunities to step away from public life given all the stuff that came out about him over many many years. And yet he was on a horse waving at people a few days ago.

I agree with this.

He has had so many opportunities to actually behave but he seems to have been on a self satisfaction I'll do what I want journey. I will always wonder how much the Palace have tried to rein him in. I would love to know.

As I said before elsewhere... he could have had a fantastic life. Travelling to the best places in the world first class and more , spending time with his grandchildren, a bit of philanthropy and charity work, playing golf all over the world on his favourite courses but no... he just was so so greedy and told the public to just fuck off questioning him! He deserves all he gets.

the7Vabo · 20/02/2026 20:23

BeardofHagrid · 20/02/2026 19:40

Well, I thought we were supposed to have moved on from the very worst days of trial by media sensationalism. I thought the BBC and co were slow mindful of people’s mental health yet here they are practically baying for him to top himself, saying what’s left for him while showing that ghastly pic of him? Honestly, they are vilifying him more than they did mass murderer Axel Rudakubana. No mention of not prejudicing upcoming trials either. I think the whole country has lost its mind this week.

Tbh I agree with this to some extent, but the man is blindingly arrogant & has been for years. He had thousands of opportunities to step away from public life given all the stuff that came out about him over many many years. And yet he was on a horse waving at people a few days ago.

EmmaSummerHat · 20/02/2026 20:19

No, his life didn’t have to take that path. He had everything given to him and decided to drag it in the dirt. Plenty of reports from former staff say he’s not a nice person too

Motherofalittledragon · 20/02/2026 20:16

Nope not one tiny bit.

Womaninhouse17 · 20/02/2026 20:07

BeardofHagrid · 20/02/2026 19:40

Well, I thought we were supposed to have moved on from the very worst days of trial by media sensationalism. I thought the BBC and co were slow mindful of people’s mental health yet here they are practically baying for him to top himself, saying what’s left for him while showing that ghastly pic of him? Honestly, they are vilifying him more than they did mass murderer Axel Rudakubana. No mention of not prejudicing upcoming trials either. I think the whole country has lost its mind this week.

They are not vilifying him or baying for him to top himself. They are reporting facts.

Discoated · 20/02/2026 20:00

BeardofHagrid · 20/02/2026 19:40

Well, I thought we were supposed to have moved on from the very worst days of trial by media sensationalism. I thought the BBC and co were slow mindful of people’s mental health yet here they are practically baying for him to top himself, saying what’s left for him while showing that ghastly pic of him? Honestly, they are vilifying him more than they did mass murderer Axel Rudakubana. No mention of not prejudicing upcoming trials either. I think the whole country has lost its mind this week.

Do you want to censor the press? 👀

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 19:51

BeardofHagrid · 20/02/2026 19:40

Well, I thought we were supposed to have moved on from the very worst days of trial by media sensationalism. I thought the BBC and co were slow mindful of people’s mental health yet here they are practically baying for him to top himself, saying what’s left for him while showing that ghastly pic of him? Honestly, they are vilifying him more than they did mass murderer Axel Rudakubana. No mention of not prejudicing upcoming trials either. I think the whole country has lost its mind this week.

What?

Where have the BBC been baying to top himself? I have seen nothing like this. I watch BBC news, Sky and other channels and I have seen nothing like that.

What ghastly pic? Him leaving a police station? If you feel so strongly about it, contact the photographer from Reuters. I think, honestly, with all that Andrew has done, he deserves a bit of a crap pic.

I have not lost my mind by the way. How insuIting. I am looking at all of this as logically as possible and paying attention to historians and constitutionalists and not buying into the grubby stuff.

HelloDandy · 20/02/2026 19:51

Feel sorry for him? Jesus no! No, no and no again!