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Despite his villainous behaviour, anyone feel a teeny bit sorry for Andrew?

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busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

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CloakedInGucci · 19/02/2026 22:04

I wouldn’t say sympathy. But more like, what a waste. He could have done anything. He had money, resources, fame, and time, and he didn’t just waste it, he actively caused harm with it.

I’ve not heard this brothel story you mention but yes, I’d say that is obviously unacceptable treatment of a child, no matter what the child grows up to do.

sprigatito · 19/02/2026 22:04

I think it’s possible to feel compassion for the 11yo child who was failed so utterly - for every child born into that cold, dysfunctional shitshow of a family - while retaining utter disdain and contempt for the fully grown adult who has learned nothing on his journey to adulthood and sees young women as no more than toilet paper for him and his rich friends to consume.

I feel sorry for teenage Anna Duggar who was sold into sexual slavery by her crazy Quiverfull parents and denied any meaningful education. I don’t feel sorry for the fully-grown woman and mother of 7 who continues to make appalling choices and seems more concerned about other women having reproductive rights than the fact that her children’s father is a paedophile. Two things can be true at the same time.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 19/02/2026 22:03

No
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RabbitFurCoat · 19/02/2026 22:03

Sorry: no. I think this is a cautionary tale of what wealth and privilege can conceal.

Bringemout · 19/02/2026 22:03

No, absolutely not.

Londonrach1 · 19/02/2026 22:03

No!

SleeplessInWherever · 19/02/2026 22:02

No. I feel sorry for his alleged (for now) victims, and for his children.

I would be absolutely mortified to share even a single DNA strand with him.

MID50s · 19/02/2026 22:02

That poor girl killer herself because of him, just remember that

Rhubarbandcustardd · 19/02/2026 22:02

No!!!!!!!!

Heatedrival · 19/02/2026 22:01

No.

He treated people appallingly.
He Is thoroughly unpleasant. A close relative of mine was one of his protection officers. He is incredibly discreet and I’ve never heard him swear but he has only ever referred to Andrew as c*.

ScarlettSarah · 19/02/2026 22:01

Absolutely not.

Stompythedinosaur · 19/02/2026 22:01

Nope. He's reaping what he sowed.

In fact, he's getting off much lighter than he deserves.

It's all his own doing.

NemesisInferior · 19/02/2026 22:01

No. Fuck him.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 19/02/2026 22:00

Not at all.

I have done in the past. There was a time when he was being excoriated for behaviour that was considered normal in his circles at the time, behaviour that was headline news in an almost admiring way at the time, ‘Playboy Prince’, Randy Andy etc. The headlines went from admiring to accusing him of criminality over what appeared to be the same stuff. I emphasise, I’m not talking about the recent child abuse claims, or the trafficking.

However the abuse of his role is clear cut, and has no excuse.

Rituelec · 19/02/2026 22:00

Nope. Take the personal out of it and see the crime.

UnhappyHobbit · 19/02/2026 22:00

It’s lovely that you have compassion OP. I have to admit that seeing the pictures of him has moved me to feel a bit sorry for him. I’m imagining how his daughters must be feeling and how it would be awful to look at your Dad broken and in a heap of trouble. It must be heart wrenching for them.

Shadeflower · 19/02/2026 22:00

I don't feel sorry for him, but I am troubled by the way it seems to be all about him and not about the arguably far more important people involved.

Simonjt · 19/02/2026 21:59

No, I’ve never felt sorry for anyone who has sexually assaulted someone, I don’t really see
them as people.

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 19/02/2026 21:59

I don't feel sorry for him at all. However if I was him, I'd take extra care to wear my seat belt every single time I got in the car....

AWedgeOfLemonAndASmartAnswerForEverything · 19/02/2026 21:59

He’ll always have Fergie.

Moen · 19/02/2026 21:59

Are you for real?

SpecialAgentMaggieBell · 19/02/2026 21:58

Absolutely not!

Dunnocantthinkofone · 19/02/2026 21:58

My god someone must be bored to write this drivel

FunnyOrca · 19/02/2026 21:58

No.

If you feel this, you haven’t read enough of the Epstein files. These men were joking about things I couldn’t even imagine. They all deserve to rot.

LizzieSiddal · 19/02/2026 21:58

FaceEatingLeopard · 19/02/2026 21:57

Only in as much as he is terminally stupid and always has been. If he was Joe Normal he'd have amounted to precisely nothing and would probably spend his mornings drinking in Spoons.

Was going to say the same. He is very, very stupid who’s always been very spoiled. This combination never ends well.