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Despite his villainous behaviour, anyone feel a teeny bit sorry for Andrew?

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busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

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Eyesopenwideawake · 19/02/2026 22:33

I see a man who has +/- 30 years left with not a clue of what he's done wrong.

Anyone with a smidge of awareness and humility would have dedicated themselves to genuine charity work – after voluntarily giving up all the information he had – the moment they knew the game was up, and if he didn't, the Queen should have left him in no doubt that he had no other option. He didn't, she didn't. He has to live with the consequences now.

AgentPidge · 19/02/2026 22:33

No.

"Misconduct in public office." Yet to be proved, of course, but it seems beyond doubt that he passed over confidential govt info to his rich mate in America. I feel so angry. He's let his country down.

Rhubarbandcustardd · 19/02/2026 22:31

Strngerthings · 19/02/2026 22:26

unless convicted then no hes not,

We know he is - and we can know that

ThatCyanCat · 19/02/2026 22:31

Yes, I actually do a bit. Not because I don't think he deserves it but he's clearly dim and mentally unwell and I wonder if he's just not clever enough to understand and therefore be fully responsible for what he's done. And it's hard seeing anyone looking so absolutely broken even if they deserve it.

But whatever smidgen of something like pity I feel for him is hugely outweighed by sympathy for his victims and fury.

ThiagoJones · 19/02/2026 22:31

No. ‘He’s in his FAFO era’, as my teens would say.

Rhubarbandcustardd · 19/02/2026 22:31

FielderSoprano · 19/02/2026 22:30

Yes I do slightly, he really did his bit in the RN during the Falklands conflict, he deserves respect for that, but sadly he’s made some very bad choices. I just feel saddened that as part of our RF he didn’t have more decorum.

Oh gosh…any other person could have down that - it didn’t need him

he is gross

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 19/02/2026 22:30

MissMoneyFairy · 19/02/2026 22:30

I doubt he'll be at home by himself on his birthday

Course not, theres all his teddies.

Travelfairy · 19/02/2026 22:30

No, absolutely not. Paedo Scumbag

Rhubarbandcustardd · 19/02/2026 22:30

midwalker · 19/02/2026 22:27

I feel very uncomfortable about it because, as others have said, he seems to be the fall guy for the whole despicable affair, and is probably a bit player. No one in the US is going to face any kind of consequences. I feel strangely pissed off that only British people are being punished for the malevolent deeds of this American bastard. And I don’t even like any of them!

Oh come on - he’s hardly innocent being taken advantage of
he kept going and kept going and had no thought for anyone but himself

gross

MissMoneyFairy · 19/02/2026 22:30

I doubt he'll be at home by himself on his birthday

FielderSoprano · 19/02/2026 22:30

Yes I do slightly, he really did his bit in the RN during the Falklands conflict, he deserves respect for that, but sadly he’s made some very bad choices. I just feel saddened that as part of our RF he didn’t have more decorum.

Rumpoleoftheballet · 19/02/2026 22:28

Are you also with Alison Hammond who suggested they could have avoided arresting him on his birthday? Feel sorry for him? I couldn’t be further from that statement.

Emotionalsupporttissue · 19/02/2026 22:28

I was abused as a child, I haven't gone on to commit any crimes as an adult, so no, I don't have any sympathy for him.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 19/02/2026 22:28

There may well be other men with the potential to act as badly as he has if only they had access to similar resources. So I can see that the freedom privilege gave him might also have been his downfall.

cobrakaieaglefang · 19/02/2026 22:28

I don't feel sorry for him, I'll save my sympathy for victims. That said, I imagine hes a manchild who was spoilt, indulged and feted over. That kind of environment was bound to make him arrogant and he probably didn't think initially anything of the how's and whys of young girls being presented at parties, after all, he was Randy Andy, heartthrob, pin up prince, war hero, in the 70s to early 80s..once that faded, he he was just a grubby middle aged bloke but in his head still the young stud.
He probably started to realise eventually, but arrogance and ego overrode any doubt but by then there was enough on him to be subject to coercion himself.
Becoming a Trade envoy was ludicrous, he had no skills for it and limited intellect. Of course, he was going to screw it up.
The RF, the advisors, the courtiers and senior civil service are as culpable as he is.
I think hes the distraction from bigger fish in business, city, legal and celebrity.

DeborahVance · 19/02/2026 22:27

No. I couldn't care less, he deserves everything that is coming his way

Pepperlee · 19/02/2026 22:27

MID50s · 19/02/2026 22:02

That poor girl killer herself because of him, just remember that

You don't know that for sure. I wish people wouldn't take their own thoughts as truth. It's just what you think. And she was a woman when she died...not a girl.

midwalker · 19/02/2026 22:27

I feel very uncomfortable about it because, as others have said, he seems to be the fall guy for the whole despicable affair, and is probably a bit player. No one in the US is going to face any kind of consequences. I feel strangely pissed off that only British people are being punished for the malevolent deeds of this American bastard. And I don’t even like any of them!

Fizbosshoes · 19/02/2026 22:27

BlackRowan · 19/02/2026 22:23

I feel angry he’s the only one. He deserves all this and worse but I’m pissed off none of the other sick f*s is facing any consequences

Agree. He absolutely should be held to account but where are all the others? There's literally thousands of pages of documents, I find it hard to believe hes the only one they've got any dirt on.

Dollymylove · 19/02/2026 22:27

He hasnt been arrested for sex offences its misconduct in public office

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/02/2026 22:26

Not at all.

You don’t have to be taught to know that other people are as human as you are.

If you act as thought it’s fine to see other humans as play things, you can’t blame your upbringing or privilege. It should be obvious that everyone is human.

IsItThoughh · 19/02/2026 22:26

No

Strngerthings · 19/02/2026 22:26

Nofilter · 19/02/2026 22:25

He’s a peadophile who abused young girls and ruined their lives how on earth can you think like this?

unless convicted then no hes not,

NeverTeaTea · 19/02/2026 22:26

No

Nofilter · 19/02/2026 22:25

He’s a peadophile who abused young girls and ruined their lives how on earth can you think like this?

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