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Despite his villainous behaviour, anyone feel a teeny bit sorry for Andrew?

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busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

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Ebok1990 · 20/02/2026 01:04

Strngerthings · 19/02/2026 23:04

i would said bad humans do bad things, look at catherine the great and other historical females that went rogue

You've well and truly missed the point.

Tigger18 · 20/02/2026 01:01

Haha, No!

AnOddOne · 20/02/2026 01:00

@busymomtoone No I don’t feel sorry for him. I do feel sorry for you though. Your username indicates you have a child so I hope you do them a favour by raising your standards after reflecting on the replies here. Nobody needs to feel sorry for an abuser.

Goatsarebest · 20/02/2026 00:59

We should not be minimising his behaviour by saying it was inappropriate. Misconduct in public office for a Royal (even if an ex) is serious. Remember the last Royal to be arrested by the State was Charles 1 and that led to a republic. Our current king is well educated in history and knows the potential implications of what is happening very well. The Monarchy is in self preservation mode and, as before in history, they will sacrifice whatever or whoever they need to, to survive.
In that context you can have some sympathy he is being the scapegoat and a product of his toxic environment, but he made the choices so he has to face the consequences.

IsThisTheWaytoSlamMyPillow · 20/02/2026 00:53

Jane143 · 19/02/2026 22:34

We all call him oaedophile etc, but the girl was 17. Yrs it’s below age of consent in America but not in UK. Or are there others we don’t know about?

I keep posting this as do others, because it’s not widely understood, due in large part to the media talking about differing age of consent in the world. It’s not about age of consent, it’s about being trafficked.

Trafficked people cannot consent to any sexual relations because they are not there of their own free will, having been taken there by AN Other for the purposes of providing sexual services. For example Virginia Guiffre did not initially arrange to meet Andrew herself nor arrange their further meetings. She was a slave essentially, with an owner (JE).

Therefore, the age of consent is totally irrelevant. VG could have been 37 years of age, or 23 or 50 etc, it’d still be rape, because she was trafficked and therefore could not ever consent.

JudgeJ · 20/02/2026 00:49

Aprilmaymum · 19/02/2026 21:57

I don’t feel sorry for him as he has to take his punishment like everyone else. But I do think the public are on a witch hunt now and he will have nowhere to turn. I can sadly see this ending badly for him

I doubt this will ever come to trial because it would be impossible to swear in a jury as so much has been said, written, implied about these events that he would not get a fair trial.

Fuckitydoodah · 20/02/2026 00:49

Nope.

He thought he was above everyone and had/has shown disregard for anyone he's deemed to be beneath him. I think he really believed he was untouchable. The arrogance is astonishing.

He's reaping what he's sown. I just hope others face justice too.

Shonainthecastle · 20/02/2026 00:47

Fergie is rotten to the core too. Don’t forget she was selling access to Prince Andrew for £500k a time when she got caught out.

Barnbrack · 20/02/2026 00:46

CantBreathe90 · 20/02/2026 00:24

I've not been following it closely. Is the main gripe against him that he was using sex workers? Some of which were underage in their country of origin, but not in the UK? Or has something else come to light - I'm not sure what being "inappropriate in office" means. If the former, I feel sorry for him insomuch as I always assumed most men (and probably a fair few women) in power did this. He's been unlucky enough to get caught. Not saying I agree with what he's done, obviously. But we're in a society that appears for the most part to agree with and legitimise gross amounts of inequality. Historically, the use of (young) sex workers, was an extension of this. It's nieve to think it's any different today, so I don't understand the degree of moral outrage there's been. Again, unless I'm not up to date and there's more I've missed (quite possible).

So you're not upset powerful men traffic women because well. Men are incapable of not being sex trafficking perverts when given the opportunity?

Bit of a depressing view of men.

Even if you take that stance though why on earth does that make you feel sorry for him? Why wouldn't it make you think change is needed? Topple the house of cards built by wealthy perverts and wipe the skate clean?

To endorse the people who have acted like this is to support and perpetuate it. Why on earth do you think we should accept that?

Goatsarebest · 20/02/2026 00:44

It is becoming clearer how Epstein, a former school teacher, made his cash. Basically finding rich perverts (rich people) and providing what they wanted then using them to get priviledged information that he used to give others an edge in making money and took a cut. His work on Wall Street revealed to him that most rich people have extreme sexual perversions and he saw an opportunity. It helped he shared them, of course. Most rich people born to money like A are pretty easy to manipulate if you find their perversion. Epstein was a kindered spirit but a bit sharper than the average perv.
In history, has a really powerful man ever not been revealed as a deviant at some stage. It's hard to think of examples.

Daygloboo · 20/02/2026 00:43

busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

Absolutely not. No. I have it on good authority that he was a pompous shit when he was younger and now he seems to be a sleazy money grubber as older. No sympsthy at sll. He got himself in this mess.

THEDEACON · 20/02/2026 00:42

Absolutely NOT Id charge him with treason and put him in the Tower

TheRuffleandthePearl · 20/02/2026 00:40

Barnbrack · 19/02/2026 23:40

Support for someone murdered publicly by state police forces is a proportionate response.

If george floyd had been taken for questioning for a crime, released on bail to await trial I doubt there'd have been much out ry.

If a group of police officers had picked up Andrew, held him down and proceeded to kneel on his neck while he cried for his mother until he suffocated to death despite onlookers videoing in horror and asking them to stop I think most people probably would feel some compassion for him.

Can you see the difference there?

George floyd was murdered without trial by the police due to suspicion of robbing a convenience store. AMH has been taken on for questioning and released pending further investigation despite decades of sex trafficking allegations and now evidence coming to light of sharing state secrets with a convicted sex trafficking paedophile.

Please tell me you understand why people's responses to your straw man argument are incredulity?

Thank you for this articulate response to the batshittery non-thinking.

Emigree · 20/02/2026 00:39

Nope, not at all.
It pisses me off though, that all these guys are more likely to face consequences for their political and economic misdemenors, when multiple women and girls have been telling of their abuse for years.
The whole bunch of nonces should face real consequences for the abuses they chose to commit.

LizzieW1969 · 20/02/2026 00:39

alondonerabroad · 20/02/2026 00:33

I don’t feel sorry for him or what he’s done. He did everything in the full knowledge and expectation that he was untouchable. I do think he’s a stooge or a patsy as he’s such a well known name. Others have done similar or far worse but he’s the one in the public eye and therefore can be made an example of. He didn’t do himself ANY favours at that interview and really showed himself to be an arrogant petulant petty little boy. It’s been 6 years since Epsteins death, why is it still only him and ghislaine taking the fall?

Others are in the public eye as much as he is, actually, though not so much in this country. (Obviously Trump is, though he’s like Teflon, so I don’t think he’ll ever be properly investigated for his own involvement with Epstein.)

LizzieW1969 · 20/02/2026 00:35

^I completely agree. We don’t want AMW to simply be the fall guy, whilst other perpetrators get off Scot free. They should all face their just deserts.

alondonerabroad · 20/02/2026 00:33

I don’t feel sorry for him or what he’s done. He did everything in the full knowledge and expectation that he was untouchable. I do think he’s a stooge or a patsy as he’s such a well known name. Others have done similar or far worse but he’s the one in the public eye and therefore can be made an example of. He didn’t do himself ANY favours at that interview and really showed himself to be an arrogant petulant petty little boy. It’s been 6 years since Epsteins death, why is it still only him and ghislaine taking the fall?

Goatsarebest · 20/02/2026 00:31

I dont feel sorry for him but they released 3 million documents and so far those 3 million have only resulted in this. I know it has to start with someone, but this really must be the start and not the end.

canuckup · 20/02/2026 00:30

🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 😂 😂

Not an ounce. Not a tiny jot.

Ladamesansmerci · 20/02/2026 00:29

No, jesus.

He's not a young man who has grown up troubled in foster care with a trauma history, or etc. He is a powerful and rich man with every privilege in the world who has been involved in horrible sexual crimes, trafficking, and grooming (either directly or indirectly). He deserves everything that will come his way.

Shonainthecastle · 20/02/2026 00:29

As well as being a disgusting sleaze (at least), he is also a traitor to this country because he has definitely passed sensitive confidential information to JE when he was working as trade envoy.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 20/02/2026 00:29

I haven't felt even the tiniest shred of compassion for Andrew, honestly.

But I voted yanbu because I have felt the kind of pity that you describe before when watching people fall from grace because of their own despicable behaviour. I can't actually think of any examples now, but there is something quite tragic about seeing someone having been the architect of their own downfall. You can undoubtedly pity someone while utterly abhorring their crimes.

But somehow, this one leaves me cold. I feel nothing but disgust for him. And anger.

LizzieW1969 · 20/02/2026 00:28

Pepperlee · 19/02/2026 22:27

You don't know that for sure. I wish people wouldn't take their own thoughts as truth. It's just what you think. And she was a woman when she died...not a girl.

And even if it’s true that she killed herself (I have my doubts myself that she did, I suspect foul play personally), it wouldn’t have been because of AMW particularly. She suffered SA at the hands of others, including her own father. This will have been the worst betrayal (believe me, I’ve been there). There was also Epstein himself and probably others.

Anyway, I happen to think she was silenced, like Epstein himself probably was

To answer the OP’s question, no I don’t feel the least bit sorry for AMW. He deserves everything he gets now.

Barnbrack · 20/02/2026 00:27

BeanQuisine · 20/02/2026 00:18

Can't really blame the baby though. His upbringing more-or-less ensured his worst traits of privilege and entitlement would be encouraged.

Had he been brought up in a more normal family environment, with more laudable role models (Philip was a swinish fool and Charlie is a bit of a nutcase), he might have turned out a better man.

He grew up in wealth and privilege.

He never had to worry where his next meal would come from, if his family would pay the bills and he'd end up homeless, never had to worry he couldn't afford the next ig thing clothes wise or whatever. All the things children all over the country have to worry about.

Children grow up in all kinds of horrible. Neglectful. Overpriveleged. Abused. Neglected. Spoilt etc etc environments. Some people in all of those scenarios grow up to do very bad things. Why is privilege and wanting for nothing and excuse for hideous behaviour?

TheRuffleandthePearl · 20/02/2026 00:25

Strngerthings · 19/02/2026 23:03

well look at all the support there was for George Floyd, and yet his criminal activities etc

So he deserved to die slowly and painfully on the street, calling for his Mama? I bet you think Alex kicking a tail light also deserved 10 bullets in him too.

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