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Despite his villainous behaviour, anyone feel a teeny bit sorry for Andrew?

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busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

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User9767475 · 20/02/2026 09:54

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 09:21

Incredible that someone on here says they feel more disgust for the press, than they do for Andrew.

Get over it people. It's a big story. Historians are looking back to the 1600s for anything similar.

I have watched a lot of reports about this and there was this man on yesterday who had some link somewhere to the royal family and as soon as he opened his mouth, (very posh) I knew what sort of thing he would say.

It's all OK, the Monarchy will get over it, it's not as serious as the abdication, and more, the general public should be grateful we have a royal family.
The abdication happened because of love. (Not an ideal scenario I know but bottom line is, he gave up the throne for love)
This has happened because of avarice, entitlement, repeated deceit, and dare I say it, behaviour with this misconduct, not far off treason.

I think it's a specific form of stupidity where people attempt false pattern recognition without applying any critical thinking. To a dumb person, they will remember how Diana was chased to death by the paparazzi which was obviously horrific. So there is the narrative of "press intrusion = bad". Then another case shows up many years later where a different Royal is attacked by the press so they simply apply that same sentiment, which they learned can be used to fake the idea that you have formed a clever, independent opinion.

It's all very tiresome tbh. Some people have a knee jerk reaction to wanting to prove they're clever by taking a stand against the mainstream opinion. However they only succeed in proving how limited their ability is at genuine critical thinking. They basically remember the whole #bekind campaign, Carolina Flack, Princess Diana (all female without no criminal records) and think that it's perfectly fine to apply that same idea to actual pedophiles and highly evil privileged wealthy men.

PaperTyger · 20/02/2026 09:54

@simpsonthecat and saying one thing but doing another seems to be a family trait.

nomas · 20/02/2026 09:54

TimeForATerf · 20/02/2026 08:22

Fuck off, show me where I minimised what Andrew has done, go on. I said I didn’t feel sorry for him. Mumsnet is full of idiots than scan read and then pile on.

Comparing Harry to Andrew is minimising what Andrew did.

Your language doesn’t surprise me, this is about the level of discourse we can expect from the Harry/Meghan bashers.

BatchCookBabe · 20/02/2026 09:53

100% not one grain of sympathy for this over privileged sweaty gonk. Sick of seeing his face now. He or that grim pig of a man Epstein are on the TV screen every fecking day now, and I am SICK of seeing them. I wish there was a block option on the TV so I could activate it and not see them! Angry

YABVU @busymomtoone

Skybluepinky · 20/02/2026 09:53

Of Course not, he took advantage of everyone and mummy covered everything for him, Navy had to make up a role for him as he couldn’t cope with normal work.

1dayatatime · 20/02/2026 09:52

BlueJuniper94 · 20/02/2026 08:49

Surely a jury is at least a shade more reliably impartial than a single judge's opinion, judges who have displayed skewed judgement on countless occasions themselves

That depends on what the case is and who the defendants are which should be irrelevant.

If the case is Jane Smith accused of jewel burglary on a Friday night then sure they a jury works. However with a politicised case like the Filton Six or it involves someone rich or well known then the jury system doesn't work, because people's beliefs/ prejudices come into play.

52andblue · 20/02/2026 09:52

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 19/02/2026 22:23

It’s an act.

He’s looking small and old and scared to make people feel sorry for him.

I first noticed it with Rolf Harris at his trial when he looked ‘terrified’.

These are arrogant men with fame and money. They aren’t scared of shit.

He’s in his nice home eating nice food with a king for an older brother. Honestly, he’s fine.

... and Harvey Weinstein when he 'shuffled in' to court. DJT/family would play the dementia card if it ever came to that (it won't). Musk & co would be happy to say; 'but I'm ASD it's not my fault' if justice ever came ffor them (it won't). Of course dementia & autism can make a difference to behaviour (both in my family as I type) but this is not why they have behaved this way. They are simply rotten.

AMW is fine. Housed, fed, clothed securely for the rest of his life (the majority of which he has squandered, with his zip down - see 'Randy Andy') Obnoxious to the UK 'little people' whilst happily trading UK Govt info for even more £ for him.

If there is enough evidence I'd be pleased to see AMW charged for his crimes.
But of course he is a small-ish fish compared to Trump & Co. The release of (still only some of the Epstein files I imagine) which 'exonerate' Trump but include many identifying details of the victims tells you where the priorties lie.

I am a survivor of CSA. It stays with you for life.
Certain smells, looks, phrases. Can't sit with my back to the door in a cafe etc.
I'm FAR from the only one. I've had good therapy. I make an effort not to 'dwell'.
But I have to mitigate it when it 'jumps out at me' which it does often. Currently, watching the world protecting men who do this on a grand stage, it's draining.

So, I am biased of course, but my sympathy goes to all the young people who will likely have been affected, at some level, by CSA for the rest of their lives.

Pepperlee · 20/02/2026 09:52

LizzieW1969 · 20/02/2026 08:20

I don’t agree with this PP’s reasoning at all about SA not being so bad if it isn’t rough. It isn’t like that at all. But I do agree that it won’t have been specifically Andrew who drove her to suicide. He was one of many.

It was her father who destroyed her life from very early on, and then he allowed her to be abused by many other men. This is what my F did to me. I’m not angry with the other men (although it made me angry when one of them was investigated and not charged), it’s my F who I blame for it all.

Because that isn’t primarily about the SA, it’s about the betrayal by the person who is supposed to protect you.

None of this is saying that the other men aren’t despicable, btw. They deserve everything they get. It’s sickening for me that yet more child abusers are getting away with their evil crimes.

Your post is very sad and I can't even imagine what it must be like to live with what your father did to you. It's truly abhorrent. VGs father has dodged a bullet and he's still a free man , and yet she accused him and he denied it and that seems to be that! I really hope that you can find some semblance of peace in your later life.

BlimeyOReillyO · 20/02/2026 09:51

Maia77 · 20/02/2026 09:45

I'm not saying he shouldn't be punished at all. He definitely should. I'm just saying it's understandable to feel a bit sorry for someone who is obviously very distressed.

So, if the distressed person had harmed your DD like AMW has harmed women, you’d have empathy for him?

Or is your empathy because you don’t know the women involved so they’re facelesss and unimportant.

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 09:51

Aprilmaymum · 20/02/2026 09:47

In regard to family. His kids are not speaking to him. They have all washed their hands of him. I honestly can see him harming him self.

Not true.

Beatrice was seen with him recently taking one of her DDs riding with granddad. Eugenie appears to be more low key but I doubt very much they have washed their hands of him. It's easy to say something but do something different.

Freda69 · 20/02/2026 09:50

Only as far as him being extremely thick and totally spoilt for his whole life.
I did find it completely puzzling that he was ever made a trade envoy, until I read that Peter Mandelson was involved in that recruitment!

Bellaunion · 20/02/2026 09:49

Playingvideogames · 20/02/2026 09:38

See I’m delighted to see Andrew face justice but even if we stripped the Royals of their 80 million a year, it would be pissing in the wind when it comes to child poverty.

Oh I know, still it's £80 million (or however much) that could still be better spent elsewhere!

Ebok1990 · 20/02/2026 09:49

Tamtim · 20/02/2026 09:21

He will live the rest of his life in luxury. He is protected by what he was born into. He has never known, nor will he ever know, struggle. He’s a criminal of the worst kind. I don’t feel sorry for him of the likes of him.

I really don't think material comforts around you compensate for a life dismantled. He has no friends, no meaningful work, no bosom of the family, staff who want nothing to do with him, no community around him, no daily chit chat or small talk, an isolated life filled with shame and a reputation in tatters. That isn't by any measure a good life, no matter how much money you have.

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 09:49

Maia77 · 20/02/2026 09:45

I'm not saying he shouldn't be punished at all. He definitely should. I'm just saying it's understandable to feel a bit sorry for someone who is obviously very distressed.

How do you know he is 'obviously very distressed'.

For all we know, it is just shock and anger and how dare the police take me to a police station and question me.

BlimeyOReillyO · 20/02/2026 09:49

Aprilmaymum · 20/02/2026 09:47

In regard to family. His kids are not speaking to him. They have all washed their hands of him. I honestly can see him harming him self.

much like his victims then, they harmed themselves. He was the master of his own destiny, they weren’t.

simpsonthecat · 20/02/2026 09:47

Playingvideogames · 20/02/2026 09:38

See I’m delighted to see Andrew face justice but even if we stripped the Royals of their 80 million a year, it would be pissing in the wind when it comes to child poverty.

157 million actually. And that doesn't include the Millions of duchy pocket money, round about another 50 million.

Aprilmaymum · 20/02/2026 09:47

Dinosaurhearmeroar · 20/02/2026 09:16

Nowhere to turn? What does that mean? Where should he be turning?!

In regard to family. His kids are not speaking to him. They have all washed their hands of him. I honestly can see him harming him self.

weetumshie · 20/02/2026 09:45

Is that you Beatrice? Eugenia? Fergie? Come on- own up.

DrVivago · 20/02/2026 09:45

In the '80s there was this ' Randy Andy' image portrayed by the media ,that he was more of a playboy than his brothers. Reports of him dating models and actresses like Koo Stark were met with ' good for him' type of reports.

I remember 'Spitting Image' caricaturing him as a bit of liability to the Royals due to him not being able to keep it in his pants.

I wonder how many knew, apart from Epstein and his victims, that at that point he was a lot darker character than his public persona?

The only ' unfairness' ..if that's the correct word, I think is that he seems to the only one paying for the Epstein island crimes when there are loads, including Trump, wandering around getting off scot free.

It is almost like if we nail AMW, then the whole disgraceful mess will be over.

Sadly I think he is not long for this world one way or another.

My main sympathies are for his daughters, who have found out they have two moral-less deviants for parents. I guess they knew they were shallow but probably had their true natures hidden.

Maia77 · 20/02/2026 09:45

BlimeyOReillyO · 20/02/2026 09:41

Is it? I think it’s human to realise that vile people should be punished without thought.

You feel empathy for Hitler?

You’d feel sorry for AMW if he’d abused your daughter?

I'm not saying he shouldn't be punished at all. He definitely should. I'm just saying it's understandable to feel a bit sorry for someone who is obviously very distressed.

BlimeyOReillyO · 20/02/2026 09:41

Maia77 · 20/02/2026 09:39

I did. It's human to feel empathy for another human being in severe distress, regardless of who they are or what they've done.

Is it? I think it’s human to realise that vile people should be punished without thought.

You feel empathy for Hitler?

You’d feel sorry for AMW if he’d abused your daughter?

Maia77 · 20/02/2026 09:39

I did. It's human to feel empathy for another human being in severe distress, regardless of who they are or what they've done.

IWouldBeYourOnlyDream · 20/02/2026 09:39

Nope. Consequences, innit.

BlimeyOReillyO · 20/02/2026 09:39

TheKeatingFive · 20/02/2026 09:33

A PhD 😂😂😂?

Where did you get that from? I don't even think he has A levels

You’re right! Sorry! Not sure where I got that from, nevertheless is not so thick that he commits crimes without realising it.

Bomboclat · 20/02/2026 09:38

Absolutely zero sympathy for him, rewatch the newsnight interview where he lies, tries to paint himself as an honourable hero, admits to spending lots of money to discredit thw now infamous photo of him and VG (which latest release of epstein files now show he knew was genuine), and exhibits zero empathy for the victims of Epstein - after all their friendship had so many "beneficial outcomes" for him regarding his business interests.

One gets the overwhelming impression that whilst he was Trade Envoy his main priority was enriching himself, not furthering British business interests for the good of the nation. Im convinced he's earnt tens of millions of pounds by schmoozing the very worst men in the world, and I'm curious to see if any court case against him dives into his finances and we get to hear which other delightful people were funding him.

Neither do i have any sympathy for Charles - he helped fund the pay off to VG, so all his press releases saying his thoughts are with the victims sound very hollow to me. His thoughts and sympathy are with them so much, yet hes willing to finance their silence so the perpetrator doesn't have to face them in court.