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Despite his villainous behaviour, anyone feel a teeny bit sorry for Andrew?

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busymomtoone · 19/02/2026 21:55

Before I get totally flamed, I despise his attitude, and the things he appears to have done - particularly the subsequent lying and apparent determination to shield/ hide misdemeanours. However, seeing the photo of his release today looking a broken man after such huge public downfall , plus thinking of him going back to an empty house on his birthday with no family support - even though I initially felt he deserves every indignity and consequence - there’s still a teeny part of me that just can’t help feeling just a little bit sorry for him. If it’s true that he was taken to a brothel at age 11 , whilst it would in no way excuse abusing others , it means he has also been a victim of abuse. Additionally it seems the Queen and his entourage have never ever said no to him in his whole life- so to reach his 7th decade before any consequences hit makes me question how resilient he will be able to be. Obviously main sympathies are always rightly with any victims , but even the most hardened and perpetual criminals often retain family support, he seems to have nobody. ( albeit if his own making ) or am I just being too soft?!

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LondonLass61 · 20/02/2026 13:16

How he reacts from now will be very telling. I do think that his best chance of any kind of personal redemption is to put his hands up and make a full and frank contribution and/or confession to all and any enquiries/commissions.
I think that that would be the best way to live with himself tbh.

kundalini7 · 20/02/2026 13:11

What if you mean OP when you say he was taken to a brothel as a child?

As for feeling sorry for him... No.

Mikehunt2018 · 20/02/2026 13:11

Liked The Sun's headline this morning: He's Sweating Now. Grin

MoiraPlunkett · 20/02/2026 13:01

scottishgirl69 · 20/02/2026 12:51

That's pretty typical - not saying it's right - but I don't think posts on here would prejudice a fair trial

Even if he is completely innocent, that doesn't change the fact he has lived as a parasite all his life, squandering money and giving absolutely nothing back. I get that he won't be on trial for that, it's not illegal to waste your life at others' expense, but if he'd been a respected figure who had done some good in his life, people might have more sympathy for him or at least, a more open mind pending any actual convictions.

Ferrfoxache · 20/02/2026 13:00

Fk him.

scottishgirl69 · 20/02/2026 12:51

FairKoala · 20/02/2026 12:48

So why are people acting like he has been found guilty and is heading for prison

If he does get charged and does face court, it could be argued that these sort of threads, the media reporting etc means he wouldn’t get a fair trial as most posters are calling him a criminal, a nonce, a paedophile and acting as though he has been convicted and sentenced
At this point in time he hasn’t been charged with anything

That's pretty typical - not saying it's right - but I don't think posts on here would prejudice a fair trial

MoiraPlunkett · 20/02/2026 12:49

No, on the present information available, I have no sympathy.

If anything were to come out that AMW had historically been an abuse victim, that might change my view, but at present I have heard nothing to suggest that.

He's had a life of privilege. Even the heirs to the throne have a life of privilege that the 'weight' of their duties comes nowhere near justifying, but that is even more true for senior royals who have little or no expectation of becoming monarch.

He lived the life of a playboy - remember 'Randy Andy' and 'Airmiles Andy' and later the tales of Fergie and him living it up when they first got together, ordering 8 course meals at Buckingham Palace for themselves and their mates when they got back from clubbing at 1am?

He's made no attempt to justify his existence - at least the likes of Anne, Edward, Charles and Camilla seem to have some sense of duty to the public, even if their duties fall far short of what most of us would deem full-time work. Even Harry has been involved with noticeable charity work through Invictus and the landmines charity.

Andrew - what has he done? Nothing. Absolutely zilch.

FairKoala · 20/02/2026 12:48

QuietPiggy · 20/02/2026 04:53

He has not been charged with anything. He has been released under investigation, which means that the police are still collecting evidence. He may or may not be charged when the investigation is complete.

So why are people acting like he has been found guilty and is heading for prison

If he does get charged and does face court, it could be argued that these sort of threads, the media reporting etc means he wouldn’t get a fair trial as most posters are calling him a criminal, a nonce, a paedophile and acting as though he has been convicted and sentenced
At this point in time he hasn’t been charged with anything

Ebok1990 · 20/02/2026 12:41

ACynicalDad · 20/02/2026 11:08

No, but I also don't agree with the 'I'm pleased the Queen is not alive to see this' type comments, he's a monster she created by awful parenting. The saving grace is that she may have tried to cover up, whereas I think and hope Charles will hang him out to dry. Prison will be way harder for him than most people and I hope he does the time, but I wouldn't be surprised if he took his own life soon, as Epstein did.

And his Father?

DabOfPistachio · 20/02/2026 12:40

I think that if we start feeling sorry for Andrew who had everything handed to him, then who next? Epstein? I have no idea of his upbringing and childhood but I'm sure we could find something to go "oh poor boy, that must have been hard"
Andrew, like Epstein (and the lot of them) was not only a fully grown adult at the time of the offences but he has never shown a crumb of remorse.
There are men out there who have done terrible things, often when young, who have turned their lives around, founded charities, raised awareness and tried to stop others going down the same path.
Them, I can have sympathy for because it is clear that their feeling of guilt has made them into very different men and they are actively trying to prevent the same thing from happening again.
Andrew is the complete opposite of that. It is clear that he feels no guilt and only feels upset because he might be held accountable for his own actions.

FriedaMer · 20/02/2026 12:35

I know at least 10 ppl who have met him and without exception every single one of them has said he is a lecherous, entitled, odious prick of a man. I have zero sympathy for him.

Glitterella · 20/02/2026 12:25

Does anyone feel sorry for Eugenie and Beatrice?

Do you think they were aware of what vile humans their parents are?

allthingsinmoderation · 20/02/2026 12:23

I think AMW is a vile enitled man and i'm glad he is finally being criminally investigated, but i can still recognise that the process is stressful and have empathy on a human level.
He has never been convicted of a crime (as of yet) but i hope justice is served.

SoftIce · 20/02/2026 12:22

No sympathy for him and rapidly losing respect for other members of the royal family, too.

DotAndCarryOne2 · 20/02/2026 12:20

If he goes to prison I think the royal family should pay the costs. It’s ’His Majesty’s Prison’ so let him foot the bill.

StressedLP1 · 20/02/2026 12:20

No. Absolute not. The abuse of his power and nature of his (alleged) crimes place him firmly Jimmy Saville territory.

I said similar on another thread.

From birth this man had ALL the winning numbers. Privilege that billions can’t even imagine.

The ONLY thing he had to do in life was not be an incontrovertible cunt.

He didn’t have to work hard, or be clever. He didn’t even have to be especially kind. All he had to do was not be quite such an incontrovertible cunt. Really, you have to put quite some effort in to be a cunt of that magnitude.

Don’t feel any sympathy for that degenerate. He’s not fit to lick your boots.

scottishgirl69 · 20/02/2026 12:19

Luddite26 · 20/02/2026 12:15

Neither is AMW now. He's a criminal like all the other lags.

He's not been charged yet - not been on trial - in the eyes of the law not a criminal

Luddite26 · 20/02/2026 12:19

Will he cost the taxpayer more in prison or out of prison!

Luddite26 · 20/02/2026 12:15

scottishgirl69 · 20/02/2026 11:39

Archer isn't a member of the Royal family

Neither is AMW now. He's a criminal like all the other lags.

52andblue · 20/02/2026 12:15

@LizzieW1969 You make a useful point re the dates of the law re trafficking. Thank you. I still stand by my point that this is more than 'peccadillos' at any date. If AMW is convicted of a financial/state crime then so be it. His longstanding support of a convicted CSA criminal (JE) & his use of young trafficked girls remains outstanding, morally if not legally. And he is one of many.

SleeplessInWherever · 20/02/2026 12:13

@SansGonads

I don’t think you can apply “it was alright in the….” to this.

It also wasn’t alright in 2001, or 2010.

We’re not talking about a different time, we’re talking about a time when most of us were adults and knew that association with sexual predators was not a wise choice.

Being royal doesn’t absolve him of that, and 16 years ago was not “a different historical time.”

Emotionalsupporttissue · 20/02/2026 12:13

None of us is without our secrets and peccadilloes- just thank god that what you've done and said in the past will remain there

I certainly have things in my past that I don't want aired in public, none of them are criminal though.

NewspaperTaxis · 20/02/2026 12:08

Yes @Eastie77Returns - someone upstream commented on the psychology of whistleblowing in relation to one of my posts.

And this is one aspect it occurs to me - where cowardice creeps in through the backdoor, via victim-blaming. For all sorts of reasons, it is easier to feel sympathy for the perpetrator than the victim. Easier, as in more convenient. After all, in Andrew's case, you get to feel the lofty sensation of a royal no less in need of your sympathy. Heady stuff, no? And if you were to let him off, well, then there's no crime to investigate, no need to roll your sleeves up and do a bit of work.

A victim, however, well chances are they won't come out of it too well, as they have a lowly status in the situation - and I bet if you look hard enough you can find something a bit reprehensible about them anyway.

Not saying the OP is doing this. But there are all sorts of tales of reprehensible jailed folk somehow gaining the cooperation and sympathy of lowly screws.

LizzieW1969 · 20/02/2026 12:07

52andblue · 20/02/2026 11:28

It is possible to belive that AMW expected barely legal women to throw themselves at him in nightclubs / life in general as he was a handsome Prince (years of 'Randy Andy' headlines) & an over indulged, dysfunctional man.
However, he was having sex with trafficked young women, knowingly or not.
There are many cases where the Law does not accept 'oooh, I didn't know' as a defence. If he did not know he should have known / taken care to find out.

He continued to be very close friends with someone imprisoned for facilitating child sex abuse & tried to help him restore his reputation. He KNEW (& he lied)

CSA is not 'a peccadillo'. It is a crime.
Not 'of it's time'. Wrong then. Wrong now.
The children involved, as well as the young women (& some young men)
have a lifetime of memories to contend with. Be thankful it's not you or yours.

Unfortunately, the incident we know about and can date took place in 2001, before the law on trafficking only entered the statute books in 2003. A law can’t be enacted retrospectively. More’s the pity.

But the crime he’s being investigated for is a serious one and he could still potentially do jail time. If they can figure out a way for him to have a fair trial.