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To be grateful that I have never defined myself by money.

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Differentforgirls · 19/02/2026 20:39

Loads of threads on here regarding income as the be all and end all. After Andrew being arrested I’m so grateful I have always defined “success” as having good relationships with my family and friends regardless of money. Who wants a dysfunctional family and circle of friends like he has?

I’d rather be relatively skint but happy.

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Bringemout · 19/02/2026 21:20

I think theres a difference between defining yourself with your money / appreciation of what you have / feel entitled to what you have.

Andrew is a spoilt entitled fucker.

YourGreenCat · 19/02/2026 21:15

rubyslippers · 19/02/2026 20:41

its clear he also loved status and exploited it

who wouldn't love the status?

People are so hypocritical, but when who wouldn't love the freedom that money gives you, unlimited resources, immediate access to any medial treatment you might need, the best education for your kids.

Exploiting your status in a deprived way is a different issue, but many people who are born privileged are perfectly decent, and hard working. They just don't make excuses for being born where they are.

Do you make excuses for being born in a safe Western Country, or do you just take it as a given, and find something else to complain about?

hattie43 · 19/02/2026 21:13

You can have both you know , it’s not an either or

YourGreenCat · 19/02/2026 21:12

He didn't ask to be born in his position. Don't get me wrong, that has nothing to do with what he's being accused of, but being a royal of course defines who he is. Being whatever he is being accused of being is a different issue.

But it's not a "success" when it's literally your environment, you are not a "success" because you are born in a First World country.

People who have worked to arrive where they are should be proud of what they achieved, doesn't hard work define you a bit? Same with winning sports competition, it's all what goes behind that defines you, or part of it.

You define yourself by whatever you want. I don't think having good relationship with friends and family is enough for me, but we are all different

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Differentforgirls · 19/02/2026 20:53

BangFlash · 19/02/2026 20:49

He's royalty, of course he valued status.

You are not wrong op, mega rich or important people always seem unhappy, maybe chasing something drives you to aquire money or status.

Financial security is important though, although if you always have great relationships maybe they can be your safetynet in life.

Agree 😊

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Differentforgirls · 19/02/2026 20:50

namechange3651 · 19/02/2026 20:46

I mean, I earn decently and plenty of people assume it was because I chased money - I do like financial security (and buying nice things!) but mainly I love the career and skills I’ve built myself - after coming from a family and upbringing where ‘we’re not like those people’ was often thrown around and I assumed I’d never be smart enough to go to uni and have a high-paying job.

Definitely not just rich people who can be dysfunctional 😂

I agree and you should be proud of yourself.

I mean that there are people whose money defines them. Both my children earn good money but they don’t make it their be all and end all.

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BangFlash · 19/02/2026 20:49

He's royalty, of course he valued status.

You are not wrong op, mega rich or important people always seem unhappy, maybe chasing something drives you to aquire money or status.

Financial security is important though, although if you always have great relationships maybe they can be your safetynet in life.

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Differentforgirls · 19/02/2026 20:46

rubyslippers · 19/02/2026 20:41

its clear he also loved status and exploited it

So sad eh?

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namechange3651 · 19/02/2026 20:46

I mean, I earn decently and plenty of people assume it was because I chased money - I do like financial security (and buying nice things!) but mainly I love the career and skills I’ve built myself - after coming from a family and upbringing where ‘we’re not like those people’ was often thrown around and I assumed I’d never be smart enough to go to uni and have a high-paying job.

Definitely not just rich people who can be dysfunctional 😂

rubyslippers · 19/02/2026 20:41

its clear he also loved status and exploited it